To ask for the life advice that has served you well?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

The truth shall set you free

Moisturise, moisturise, moisturise!

You reap what you sow.
Nothing was ever more true!

At work people don't like a person who just says "no", it is most helpful to tell people "you can't do it this way, but here is your solution". It has drastically advanced my career.

What would Jesus do

Pick your battles.

It used to be This Too Will Pass. I always believed it. But a devastating loss from which I shall never recover has kind of shown up the fallacy in that one.

I still think Pick Your battles probably holds true.

This one is news to me, I thank you.

If you ever have the time!

Stop trying to explain yourself. If your conscience is clear, that’s what matters.

"Always know where your towel is."

Don’t argue with stupid people; they’ll only drag you down to their level and beat you on experience.

Treat others as you wish to be treated

Not my circus, not my monkeys.

Also, “never assume it can’t happen here”. Specifically in a safeguarding context. But definitely has more general application!

Passport always valid and a small amount of cash available that noone knows about.

And beat you on experience, damn!

Courage is being afraid but doing it anyway.

If you can’t change something by acting right this moment stop worrying.

In my early 20s I ended up in a five year relationship with a guy I’d had the biggest crush on for almost a year and a half.

We’re still friends today, but we should always have just been friends. Within about two weeks I realised the reality was so very different from my hugely built up expectations. I just went along with it at the time though because it was “obviously what I really wanted…”

Mine too. When people behave badly and don’t treat you well, it’s got nothing to do with you. It says everything about them, their values (or lack of them) and who they are. It says nothing about you. Just let them get on with it. If someone is bitching about me, well it’s five minutes they’re not bitching about someone else. They’re not worth your time, space, or attention.

No, treat others are they would wish to be treated. I would like to be treated to a big steak. My vegetarian daughter most definitely would not!

Can't change people, just the way you react to them. It was a game changer for me as I used to get quite frustrated or upset over shitty behaviour or the drama some people seem to bring, now I walk away & ignore easily. Much more peaceful way to live.

Don’t dim your own light just to let someone else shine.

I find this most helpful with "if someone wants to walk / has walked out of your life... let them"

Then I heard something the other day that explained how not to 'give away your power' by assuming a helpless attitude. You hold the power to choose to rise above it / turn another way etc. I am contemplating that on various levels.

Also when someone shows you who they are, believe them. Wish i'd learned that one earlier, thinking I could change ex boyfriends over time.

1.Never marry someone you can live with. Always marry the person you simply can't live without.

1. The past is for reference, we don't live there.

Eh? :-)

"Fuck it" has always been a favourite.