To ask for the life advice that has served you well?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

The truth shall set you free

Don't be too open minded, otherwise your brain will fall out.

You can only live your own life.

5 steps to a happy life

• avoid introspection
• embrace change
• develop a passion
• live now
• be a leaf on a tree (i.e. connect with people and be part of something)

I check I'm doing this often and it really makes a difference.

Functionally I think "If a bloke really liked you, he’d be with you" is true as in that outcome is the essentially the same, i.e. there is no relationship. So it's definitely a useful maxim. However its also not strictly true because there are lots of reasons someone might run away from a relationship or situation they on many levels might want but they really are too scared, messed up, triggered or whatever to go though with it. I've certainly been the one running from the thing I most wanted at times in my life and I know that applies to men as well.

I am nit picking though because it is a good rule of thumb and hopefully stops people chasing after someone who for whatever reason just can't be with them. I dunno, I think I prefer the messy unresolvedness of people to such a neat saying which flattens out the complexity.

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You can learn something from everyone, either what to do or what not to do

I'm taking this

Being too liberal is how i ended up getting taken advantage of by a crackhead 😭😭

Eagles may fly high but weasels dont get sucked into engines.

I know a better version of that

"The truth shall set you free but first it will piss you off."

But what if Introspection is my passion?🙃

big yes to if you really wanted to do it you'd be doing it....
but also one that I posted on another thread earlier. People can only give you what they have. You can only give others what you have to give.

It’s always impossible until it’s done
life is not a dress rehearsal
be a lotus leaf - at ease in muddy waters
happiness can be found in the darkest of places, if only one remembers to switch on the light

Just do the job in front of you.

I’m known as a grafter in my workplace who won’t turn away from any job. My Dad always told me to do the job in front of you and to do it well. No job is beneath us in other words. I agree and am glad he brought me to that way.

"If you put two horses on a cart, they have to pull in the dame direction. If one horse pulls left and the other pulls right, the cart will break". My father, about marriage.

Its only dear the day you buy it.
A favourite of my late MIL if I was dithering over the cost of something.

Eaten bread is soon forgotten.
My DM if we ever thought a favour to someone should be returned.

If you don’t ask you don’t get

Make sure you have your own interests and friends when you have kids

Two quotes I live by:

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

and

“If you want to be happy, accept the fact that life is horrible, horrible, horrible.”

I don’t know where the first quote comes from, but the second is Bertrand Russell.

This is the worst advice, you are basically allowing someone to carry on their crappy behaviour, supporting emotional detachment, avoiding necessary confrontation, and encouraging passive acceptance of harmful behaviors.

It leads to missed opps to confront concflicts and therefore does not resolve any issues. It facilitates the passive aggressive behaviour of an individual and allows them to carry on.

Love this. It’s what my DH lives by (and how he ended up with me).

Don't sweat the small stuff.

You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

“ every day’s a learning day”

“ never show a man you can, unless you want to do it forever!!”

yeah I am never sure about the "connect" thing either.

If in doubt say nowt. What your eyes can’t see and your ears don’t hear there’s no accounting for.

If something seems too good to be true, it probably is.

HA! Do some, just not all the time.

Decades ago, just after I’d graduated, I saw the book Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway in a bookstore window. I didn’t ever read the book but that phrase stuck with me and helped me through so many career milestones.