AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

As if even 1% of people think YANBU

🤣🤣🤣
Don’t be utterly ridiculous.

This nonsense is only eclipsed by a girl I used to work with. She caused havoc for months, trying to get shifts rearranged and arriving late/leaving early, as she claimed it was essential to life to have two manicures/nails a week because she was sure her fiancée would propose. Fucking hell, it was months, we all would have paid him to do it by the end. Supposedly she had to have photos of her hand🤦‍♀️. The whole thing was bonkers. Personally, I felt sorry for him if this was the way she carried on, but fool be him, he ended up proposing.

id give the marriage a few years too all sounds incredibly hardwork
CBA with drama like this

No, it’s embarrassing that you need photos and a video.
Your poor fiancé should run!

OMFG!
Is this even a thing?

So he didn't make it an insta moment? He was asking you to marry him, why did you need to record it for anyone else to see? My husband asked me just us 2 there at a famous landmark at midnight, it was lovely. I have 1 photo he took of me with the ring just after and I think we took 1 selfie. It wasn't for anyone else. He wanted to be able to make his little speech without everyone watching it back, it was for me to hear not everyone else. I couldn't imagine having that moment with some random person stood there, surely having someone with a giant camera stood there spoils the whole thing anyway 🤣, unless you are famous someone stood loitering with a camera is going to make you think hmmm something is going on here....

I think you have lost sight of what a proposal actually is, it isn't a grand performance for your friends to watch and scrutinise!

This is the first time I've ever heard of anyone photographing a proposal! I don't know anyone who has done this

I could think of nothing worse than having a photographer or videographer around when DH proposed to me. It was on a beach and some of the things he said were deeply personal to us. I’d have hated anyone else intruding on those moments and I don’t need photos to remember it.

People are watching too much TikTok or looking at Insta, that’s not real life. Tell your friends to get lost it was a personal moment and if you can’t do that get new friends.

It’s a private moment! Could you just not take a pic of your ring and both of you grinning? A planned event is ott surely?!

Can I have a guess, here? You are one of those people who believe the value of the ring should be whatever percentage of his annual salary, which is far more important than his personality and how he treats you. Just a guess, happy to be wrong.

Think of it this way, would you have preferred him to be in the moment or worrying about the logistics of the photographer? I proposed to my DH and it’s really bloody nerve racking as is without extra steps!

I’m going to guess you’re not wrong…

Why would you want a recording or photo? My husband proposed to me over 30 years ago and I can still remember every detail to this day. No photos, no video. It’s an intimate special moment. And I have never forgotten it.

The best way to view special moments are stored in your mind, not the ones posed for the camera.

Oof. Your nonsense is being torn apart. They are not wrong either. Hope your fiancé reconsiders, because you sound high-maintenance and one of "those" brides.

This is what your memory is for.

Can’t you just remember the memories?
How strange. I didn’t realise that photographers for proposals was a thing.
Humans are very strange to me.

Lol.

It was difficult to top this comment, in fairness.

Hope the replies have clarified things for you, OP!

I'm glad to see 99% think yabu.
I would worry about how vacuous we had become as a society if not.
My 'proposal' involved me choosing the ring as a Christmas present (yes, it served both purposes!) and us finally sitting down at home with our little girl and him saying 'I suppose we will get married then ' and I answered 'yes love, please make me a cup of tea!'.
Not insta worthy but we have been together over 20 years and married for 13 of them 🤷‍♀️

Say what now? Is this a thing?

Oh God, just imagine the wedding drama that's to come😂

It’s a private moment between the two of you - I remember my proposal nearly 27 years later & no I’m not disappointed that there’s no photo or video moment of it all, I’m just very glad that I said yes.

you seem more interested in not having the photos than the fact someone (whom you presumably love enough to want to marry) proposed to you

I can only imagine what a performance the wedding will be.

I love how the OP has found the only comment that sort of supports her, and has responded to that. Great Mumsnetting!