AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

I took a selfie for myself and pics of the ring to announce it to few close friends. Why didn't you just take some pics? I don't get it!

Hopefully he sees sense before getting to the alter

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With the OP's attitude in her messages I really hope her future husband runs before marrying.

You are so ungrateful OP. Grow up.

This is going to end well.....

Photos and videos of the proposal is not a thing.

You could just take a picture showing the ring with the two of you and a nice message to post. The idea that a marriage proposal should be videoed for social media is beyond cringe. I realise it's a thing these days so I guess I'm out of synch but I think it's just embarrassing and silly.

This is a ridiculous childish post!

You cannot be for real. That poor guy needs to run for his life.

Oh ffs.....

So am I.

OP, you've ruined your own proposal by behaving like this.

Katie, when my niece got engaged in 2020 they didn't say anything just shared this cute one minute film of the day, climbing a mountain, leaping streams, toiling up steep sections, having a picnic half way up. Then at the top of the mountain, stunning view, out came the ring. It was really memorable and very cute.
3 months before the wedding her partner called the wedding off :(
My niece is still single and still hacked off.
It's about loving and committing to each other not the socials

I appreciate all the comments and wide range of views.

Are the "wide range of views" in the room with us ?
As there certainly isn't a "wide range of views" in posts on this thread.

Even the poll is at 99% saying YABU - that's a pretty unusual poll result.

We're not missing the point but thanks for the ageist shit. We just understand the value of things not how they look to others.
Good luck to your fiancé he'll need it.

I think you've seen too many films that show people applauding, and you've lost track of what an intimate personal moment should be.

This can't be real.

You snap a couple of selfies, and of the ring.

Speaking as someone who got engaged three years or so ago, not 30.

He surprised you with a trip to Rome? Yet you'll have trouble "looking back" on it without some 3rd party having been there taking video snd stills?

WTAF.

Just out of interest, if you have parents, what was their reaction to your engagement?

An excellent reminder that some things about being older are actually such a relief.
OP I hope you love each other and are very happy together.

I do think those who got engaged 20/30/40 years ago are somewhat missing the point

Oh the irony. When OP has totally missed the point of what a proposal means. Although this has all the hallmarks of clickbait IMO.

I'm not sure what's embarrassing about saying "no we didn't take any"? People may ask to look at photos of important times in your life, but they don't really care - other than close family and very close friends of course, and even then not that much outside of baby or wedding photos. However OP seems to be talking about SM friends.

If this is true, I hope OP hasn't mentioned it to her fiance and certainly isn't giving him a hard time about it which really would not bode well for their marriage

Stop living your life through Instagram. If you are focused on photos you'll forget "the moment", you shouldn't need to look back through photos, you should have the memory of the man you love more tahn anything else in the world wanting to spend the rest of his life with you - not think I hope my friends see this, they will be so jealous of my hair, the ring ect. You sound like you will be the bride from hell. I wish him luck.

WTH???? If I was your fiancee and this was your reaction I would cancel the proposal 😂

Grow the hell up.

And you have a weird set of immature and pretentious friends, I've never thought to ask for photos when my friends get engaged, j am happy for them, we fawn over her ring and celebrate not ask for videos and then the bride gets into a depression because there's no video for social media 😂

Absolute rubbish, modern times doesn't mean that it has to be so scripted that he must have photographers ready for the proposal and you also wanted to send it to your friends yet you claim it's just for you, it's not.

What next given ita modern times is the plan to ensure there are photographers present when you have your first child and other milestones???

Hahaha my dear that's not what standards mean when people are talking about relationships 😂 😆 😂 😆

ChatGPT also has advice for you:

Many people — especially men planning proposals — genuinely focus on the moment itself and not the “content capture” aspect. He may have been nervous, emotional, trying to make it personal, or simply not thinking logistically about cameras. That doesn’t necessarily mean he was careless or inconsiderate.
Where I think you risk going too far is:
saying it was “embarrassing” to tell friends there were no photos making the proposal feel validated through group-chat reactions potentially turning a loving moment into a performance metric. If the relationship is good and the proposal itself was thoughtful, this shouldn’t become a major grievance.

😂😂😂 Are you actually serious? You want one of the most special and personal moments of your life to also have a videographer there? Mind-meldingly shallow.

This.