AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

FiancéeZilla

I'll get me coat. 😆

Ridiculous just enjoy your engagement.

I was proposed to in a field.

The OP is not going to come back because she is not getting what she wants ( again 😆 )

I think you’d better dump him he sounds awful. Go find a man who arranges a film crew for every significant occasion. Then you’ll deserve each other. Good luck with that.

Or forever?
Vacuous shite!

How depressing. Does everything have to be 'grammable these days?

Besides which, I strongly suspect a lot of proposals happen in bed (mine did), the world definitely doesn't want to see those... 😄

Seriously though OP, don't spoil this memory for yourself by being a diva about it.

Did you film your first shag too?

This - you are ridiculous.

Seriously, I don't think you are mature enough to get engaged let alone married. I know lots of young people, none of whom felt the need to have their proposal captured by photo. It's nothing to do with "knowing your worth"🙄🙄🙄more a case of being extremely shallow.

My advice to your fiancé - run, run now while you can.

Grow up

FFS. Really?
my husband proposed to me in his mum and dads dining room while they were out and he’d cooked me steak and spaghetti. I remember every moment and every word he said to me. It was beautiful and private . I would have hated anyone else to be there and actually, no one asked to see photos of the proposal.

Run

I got married 10 years ago and we didn't have a bloody photographer to capture the moment. It was a moment between my husband and I.

Would you rather a long lasting marriage or the pictures?

A marriage proposal is a private moment between the couple surely? Were you expecting a professional photographer to show up? Its all for Insta isn’t it? Isn’t the memory & excitement of being engaged to your love with a future to plan enough?

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Yes, it should be a private moment, that's why I cringe really hard when someone does a public proposal.

Doing it at a sports game is top tier cringe! 😬

How could your DH propose on your anniversary? You can't marry the same person twice - unless you're Elizabeth Taylor 😊

Then why are you marrying someone who ignores your wishes?

Just read he whisked you away to Rome to propsose! That is a beautiful gesture & surely the memories of that will be amazing! You seem hard work tbh! Most people I know who got engaged in ‘modern times’ have pics of their hand & a few selfies of them both! Kind of weird to have a stranger appear & start snapping away!

I've got visions of paying someone to hide in a tree ready to drop down and take a picture at the exact moment then climb back up and hide again.

But hadn't you told him that it was important to you that when he proposed, he did it on one knee? Don't you feel he has let you down by not heeding your wishes? It's only those old-fashioned types who go in for two-kneed proposals. Two knees bad, one knee good, as George Orwell so memorably said in 'Ballerina Farm'.

A video isn’t the norm, even in these modern times. I’m in my 30s and got engaged two years ago; my husband didn’t get any special videos/photos and I don’t know anyone else who did. We’ve just got a selfie and our memories!

Did he say he didn’t remember/consider photos or have you assumed? Maybe he felt anxious enough about proposing, without the added pressure of a photographer. It’s a moment for both of you so I’d let him off if he had a good reason like that.

As you weren't yet married, I do hope you were not in bed together 😚

I do hope this is fake, because if it’s real I feel so sorry for this poor man and disheartened by the OP world view.
But if it’s fake I just read some lovely stories of long marriages and delightful proposals.

I was proposed to in the middle of the street while I was still in my pyjamas. Very on brand for our relationship.

We had spent Christmas with our respective families and on New Year's Day my now DH had travelled up, but gotten lost trying to find my parents' house on the street (it's on a crescent and he'd taken the further entry). I knew he wasn't that far away, so decided to venture out to find him as was. Boy were my parents surprised when we came in to find out we were engaged.

I feel sorry for the poor guy here. He's organised a surprise trip to Rome to specially propose and all his fiancée seems to have taken away from it is her disappointment she didn't get any photos for "the memories".... Because the actual memory of it just isn't good enough apparently.