AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

Maybe he didn't know if you were going to say yes... Does anyone really want photos of an awkward refusal 🤔

We're all different. I can remember very clearly the moment my babies were born, even though no caneras were there, and my eldest is 32.

You are vacuous and need to think long and hard about your values if this had disappointed you

Maybe he was busy choosing your ring and planning the perfect proposal. You sound like hard work to be honest. I got engaged two years ago and the memory is firmly in my head and a private moment just for us two, not shared with a random photographer. We took pictures afterwards showing the ring and just for us. Maybe be more gracious and thankful than over analysing. There are really much bigger things to worry about.

We got engaged overseas in a European city. There was music playing in the background, some lovely words, a few tears of happiness, and no f*ing photographer spoiling our private moment.
We had a lovely picture taken of the two of us the next day, and that is our engagement photo, not that we needed one.

Ffs this is ridiculous.

I know some people do it now so that there are pics/videos for showing off on social media but I think you’ll find that most of us who got engaged before this became a thing in the last few years just have a very happy memory of being in the moment and nothing more.
Personally I’m glad I got engaged before social media expectations existed.

I can’t wait for your childbirth video. I imagine Spielberg gets booked up a long way in advance though…

It may well be a modern thing but it’s an awful cringy thing. Just because it’s what people do now, doesn’t make it a good thing to do. The obsession with capturing all moments on camera these days really is sad. Someone filmed my wedding as I was walking down the aisle but I’ve never watched it as I don’t want an image of myself (which of course I couldn’t see at the time) to replace my own real memory of how it felt looking out at my dad and fiancée etc, not looking at myself.

I got engaged in 2010 (which I think is still modern times?!) and didn’t have a photographer. None of my friends did. Even if it was something you wanted, there isn’t anything you can do about it now. Why not book some couples photos if you like? I have seen some distant friends have this with their wedding photographer but again not in my circle.

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This can’t be real surely ?!
who would actually care about proposal photographs ?!

Not sure why you are embarrassed of not having any pics of the moment. Did you not take any photos or videos after the proposal? You are behaving a bit like a spoilt brat by ruining the memory of such a lovely day by thinking about what was missing.

How did he pop the question ?

Now we know you're just on here for shits and giggles OP....well done !

In Rome, he surprised me with a trip there.

Have you decided whether the pictures would have been for your home walls or your Instagram yet?

I would take it slow with regards to getting married. Maybe you and your DF are not on the same page and possibly not compatible.

You cannot be serious. Your fiance went out of his way to plan a beautiful trip to a romantic city to ask you to marry him, and all you can say is that it's embarrassing that he didn't hire a photographer?!

You are beyond unreasonable.

If it bothers you that much, hire a photographer and have engagement photos taken now. Does it not bother you that having a photographer buzzing around papping you would have been beyond cringe and have ruined the romance of the moment, not to mention any surprise aspect?

Christ judgemental much? They could have gotten married last year, filming a wedding isn’t an old dinosaur thing!

YANBU to wish he had understood it was important to you

...but you're still disappointed....

Make sure you pre-book a photographer for your divorce.

How embarrassing and patronising. If you're so disappointed in his actions, why accept his proposal?

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Yes, I think the climate changed, the continents moved and various animals developed, including homo sapiens.