AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

I’m looking forward to the wedding thread already 🤣.

A lot of my friends have got engaged in the last 10 years OP. Not one has had a photographer at their
proposal.
They have simply text a selfie style picture of themselves together, hand held up to show the ring.
And judging by the posts on here, that’s what most people do. I’m not sure why you are so convinced that this ‘modern way’ is the way everyone is doing it.

Is this like the tree in the forest falling down but nobody hears it riddle? If nobody sees you getting proposed to then are you really engaged?!

Amazingly people manage to get engaged and married in the hundreds of years before performative social media posts became a thing. And we're probably much happier for it too.

Poor man, he should get whilst he can.

What a very rude post to make. A lot of posters haven’t said how many years ago they were proposed to, you’re targeting other women who are of a certain age. That’s ageist and to be frank very disrespectful to the posters who have taken the time to reply to you!

I feel sorry for your DP, you sound hard work, difficult to please and quite unpleasant.

Please, please let there be threads about it! 🙏

"I do think those who got engaged 20/30/40 years ago are somewhat missing the point, and aren’t the type who I’d expect to understand. For better or worse, we are in modern times now."

Proudly rejecting the wisdom and experience that comes with age is obviously not serving the OP well.

Loving the casual patronising and ageism OP !!! Calm down your not on TOWIE !
When I got engaged 10 whole years ago there were pictures as it was at the top of the Syndney harbour bridge and photos are taken anyway ! The picture people got was one taken that night of me grinning like a loon holding up my ring finger. The pictures and wee video of the actual proposal were shown to our families ☺️. My friends enjoyed being TOLD the story 🙂

No, you posted on your friends group chat about the proposal. Of course you wanted a picture for sm.

Sorry but I don’t think that applies to employing a photographer to follow you about as you propose? He is allowed to not want to pay for that waste of money FFS! He proposed which is the main thing

Should I divorce my DH because he doesn’t agree with buying me expensive bags even though I really want one?

WhatsApp is social media babes x

Perhaps you could get in touch with the Daily Mail and do one of those "sad face" interviews like others who have suffered a particular social or emotional injustice.

Crikey, surely your memory is not so bad that you can’t remember the proposal. Married 48 years and I remember clearly, funnily enough there were cameras in those days but we didn’t feel the need to photograph the occasion.
I’m at a loss as to why it matters so much.

Shhhhh! She doesn't realise!

Ridiculous! YABU 100% (literally) poor guy

A photographer at a proposal? 🤣🤣🤣 are you Taylor Swift? If not, it’s a moment for the two of you to cherish and honestly, no one else gives a crap. Dh proposed to me in Paris in 2002 and this has never occurred to me. We have no photo evidence or pictures of me showing off my ring because social media wasn’t a thing. I have a lovely memory in my head. It’s stuff like this that makes me want to leave all social media to avoid the batshit standards.

This is one moment in life where the mutual feelings and intimacy are far more important than having photos taken or witnesses to applaud. Why do you need a photo? You lived the moment. You really don’t need to have the intimacy ruined by someone taking photos, just so you get can to see what it looked like! Remember it for the feelings, not for some staged bollocks / pre-arranged photo shoot.

Leave him, he doesn't deserve you, he deserves better!

Jesus im glad im not young

I got engaged just after Caesar crossed the Rubicon, in 49BC. My fiance had the event depicted in mosaic form for the floor of our villa. Worth considering.

You are embarrassing.

Okay, I got engaged 24 years ago so I’ve run this by my teenagers - three 14-18 year old girls and it’s a unanimous “cringe” response.

I felt the same way, as I’d also said I would want a video or photos as my memory is quite bad. It’s ok to be sad about it. Maybe you can get engagement photos?

there are a lot of harsh comments on here but they’re missing the fact that a lot of people use photos to revisit memories and feelings. For example, I managed to get photos of the moment I saw my baby for the first time, and it’s priceless. I’d never share them publicly but they mean a lot to have that part of my history captured.

A thing that happened still happened even if it wasn’t captured on camera. If a friend had a particularly unusual or exciting proposal, I’d be happy enough to hear a little bit about it, but why would I need to see it? Not everything in life is a performance.

Stupid post
you just want to show off rather than the meaning behind it