AIBU to expect some housework done during my partner's mat leave?

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My partner is on mat leave, I work full time. Then when i get home, i have to tidy up after her and the mess that has been made throughout the day, do the washing and cooking etc. (Woe is me, i know) but when i voice my feelings regarding this, i get the 'im looking after our child, i dont have time to do any of that.' So AIBU to ask her to do some housework?

Please read the OP again you are making no sense at this point 🤦🏻‍♀️

Presumably she’s throwing the dirty nappies unfolded at the walls, spraying ketchup around when making lunch and pulling everything out of every cupboard and onto the floor while baby naps, which is why poor OP is working his little self to the bone after work as well.

I'm talking about general housework. I didn't see it as my job to be cooking and cleaning.

He said he's cleaning up after her when he gets home, we don't know that she doesn't put a cup in the dishwasher, you've just decided that he does absolutely everything including washing her pants, he may well just mean that there's baby stuff everywhere and things like that.

I have read the OP. He has said he comes home and cleans her mess from the day which must take about 10 minutes and he also says he does the laundry which seems completely unnecessary. He can just do his own at the weekend. He can look after the baby when he gets back and suggests she cooks dinner etc.

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Ok so if it only takes 10 minutes to clear away her mess why isn’t she doing it? How is it unnecessary to do laundry? I assume they need clean clothes- especially a baby, they spit up, nappy’s explode etc.
sure he could come home and say right i will look after the baby you can crack on with cooking dinner but then hes the asshole who expects his wife to cook him dinner after looking after the baby all day isn’t he?
it just totally baffles me how she has literally no time to do anything other than look after the baby.

Who knows why she isn't doing it in the day time? The point is that it is not a big deal. Unless she has always been very messy (in which case OP knew what he was getting into) this is probably just temporary while she is looking after a small baby and it doesn't matter. He doesn't have to do his partners laundry. And no, looking after the baby while his partner cooks dinner is perfectly normal.

Wake up people, OP is long gone. This was doubtless just rage bait.

If it’s the same every day that would be annoying but some days I couldn’t put the baby down and when I did I had to sleep or have a shower

How old is the baby? It can take a couple of months to get into the swing is being off and managing the house load too. Some days you accomplish nothing and others you can do anything.

Putting that added pressure on will not help

You could do some research about the hormonal changes for women and what the body goes through when you have a baby. Also does your baby nap, if not then she can’t do anything really. Sometimes I don’t get anything done cos she will only nap in the car and then j can’t do anything. On days she naps in the house I can do some bits. When my partner comes in from work and takes the baby then I can do some bits but looking after a baby is a full time job and alongside sleep exhaustion who has the energy for house work! Just get through the baby stage! If you go on at her you might not have a partner at the end of it. Support her and be kind

Thank you. Yes of course we cannot do as much as before pregnancy as it takes a toll on our bodies.

I was trying to say that I don’t understand baby care by itself being full time work and that no housework is possible on maternity leave after physically recovering from the birth itself.

Some housework should be possible if mother and baby are fairly healthy.