To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

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I fly from my “local” (2 hours away!) airport at the end of summer. My flight is in the early evening and I have an appointment in the morning.

My brother offered to give me a lift, it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

I said yes please, and said I’d be happy to cover a tank of fuel as it would probably use about that to get there and back, and have some left over. (So I’m thinking about £40, he has a hybrid so it doesn’t use a ton of fuel).

He’s now said £40 plus £75 on top for “his time”

AIBU to think sod it, I’d rather just pay a taxi (about £100 according to local Facebook groups) because he’s being a CF?!

It’s not stupid o clock?

I’d never expect that. Maybe it’s me. I’d rather make my own way somewhere.

I’m really confused what you’re on about now.

I asked for a lift in the middle of the day. I don’t think that’s too unreasonable

You’re already being generous re fuel and now he wants wages? He’s your brother! YANBU!

I would have assumed he was joking

I woudl have offered some thing to eat too

we often pick family up/drop them off they do the same for me and none of us expect payment (or petrol costs)

are you English op ? This is such an English thing to expect

As I say I’ve always made my own way. I’m quite independent though. If family are visiting I’d of course drive them in that situation.

Crikey, you'd have a negotiate a reasonable day rate for that or he'll bankrupt you.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m just giggling at the thought of asking for a lift from London

I don’t think there’s any need to be snarky - I’ve flown from all over the country alone, and made my own way there. It’s rare that I fly from Bristol so I thought that’s why I’d ask.

A 4 hour lift when there's other options...

Just get the bus.

Technically whenever you ask for a lift there’s other options…

My brother would see it as a fun road trip 😎

Blimey you dont give up do you

Neither do the few nitpickers.

No because I’m a bit sick of people being horridly rude to me and making awful suggestions about my character

He’s your brother, ffs this is ridiculous! When we were teenagers or in our early 20’s with no money me and my best friend were driving each other to uni or doing airport runs with no cost implications, you do favours ffs. I wouldn’t think twice about doing a 4 hour round trip to help my sister or best friend.

I certainly didn’t mean it to be snarky at all. Your brother was happy to give you a lift then changes the terms. Particularly in these kind of scenarios I’d definitely be making my own way. How far is it Bristol to Stansted was it? I’d get public transport and stay here https://maps.app.goo.gl/k6ikAk3bhWuENQ5a9?g_st=ic

I was actually agreeing earlier your brother is a twat asking for £75 on top.

I certainly wasn’t being snarky at all and I wasn’t even addressing that to you, just talking generally in fact.

Your brother was happy to give you a lift then changes the terms. Particularly in these kind of scenarios I’d definitely be making my own way. How far is it Bristol to Stansted was it? I’d get public transport and stay here https://maps.app.goo.gl/k6ikAk3bhWuENQ5a9?g_st=ic
I was actually agreeing earlier your brother is a twat asking for £75 on top.

But it sounds like all you want to do is have people slag off your brother.

Not at all - it’s not that deep. But people being rude about me is uncalled for.

Google it 🤦🏻‍♀️

Sorry OP, but I think you're being a bit unreasonable to expect your DB to give up 4/5 hours of his time, wear and tear and on his car for £40.
Do you drive? I'd be surprised if £40 can fill a tank now ( unless he has a hybrid). I live 2 hrs from Bristol Airport and it costs us about £180 each way - £360 total by taxi. Bristol has also introduced airport waiting charges as well which adds to the cost.
If you want to do the journey for £40 look at bus.

I take it you’ve not read my comments? Yes he has a hybrid.

I have. But you’re being incredibly rude. I guess you know the distance of every airport from every major city!

My brothers wouldn't charge me, but my DM would really tell me off if I didn't give them something towards petrol! Bit of a conundrum!