To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

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I fly from my “local” (2 hours away!) airport at the end of summer. My flight is in the early evening and I have an appointment in the morning.

My brother offered to give me a lift, it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

I said yes please, and said I’d be happy to cover a tank of fuel as it would probably use about that to get there and back, and have some left over. (So I’m thinking about £40, he has a hybrid so it doesn’t use a ton of fuel).

He’s now said £40 plus £75 on top for “his time”

AIBU to think sod it, I’d rather just pay a taxi (about £100 according to local Facebook groups) because he’s being a CF?!

Because they are 🧌

Ah yes, good point.

If you don’t want to pay him just say no thanks, I’ll make other arrangements

Seriously?!? Do you drive?

OP sounds nuts! She doesn’t know how much anything costs, how long it takes to get anywhere or where anything is! No wonder her brother wants paying to spend time in a car with her!! Good luck getting to your hotel and back again OP … this thread makes you sound like you have a lot of growing up to do!!

That is something a friend of a friend would charge not a brother, it's not a favour then, you paying the petrol is . was he planning on working that day, that's probably where he's got the 75 from
How much is a cab, if it's cheaper if just do that and tell him to go to work and not ask him for a lift again

Well said
Those others on here must have crappy families that charge them even for a cup of tea
I've driven my family to airports, sometime 3 hours at a time , fed them and they've reciprocated for me, that's how family is meant to be , this is the way we were brought up

Yes I agree with you he is being ridiculous, I know loads of people are breaking down the costs but it’s your brother and it’s a favour. That’s like charging my sister an hourly rate to look after my niece and nephew. Maybe some families are like this but my family definitely is not, I’d take one of my siblings for nothing I wouldn’t even ask for fuel

Because I don’t know how far Stansted airport is from London, or the cost of a bus that I’ve never used before? Okay love

How cheeky! He made it sound like he was doing you a favour, and you might have thanked him with a bottle of wine, etc. afterwards. If it’s cheaper to get a taxi I absolutely would do. Might even be cheaper to get an Uber!

Well Ryanair have, delightfully, now emailed to say I’ll be on the 7:30am flight.

Unreal scenes here, as I now scramble for a new Airbnb on a shorter booking and an airport hotel the night before the flight because I’m not getting public transport at 3:30am!

I think it's really odd to charge a family member for your time unless you were doing a job that you'd normally charge for and so charged mate's rates eg if you were a window cleaner and normally charged £30 you might say you'd do it for £20. After all, you've got to eat.

But, the OP's brother isn't a taxi driver.

I wouldn't charge to collect someone from an airport and I think covering petrol and the cost of a meal was a fair offer for a family member. Yes there's wear and tear on the car, but it's family.

If a taxi is cheaper then you definitely wouldn't be unreasonable to tell him you're getting a taxi instead.

I do think it's unreasonable that you expected it to be free though really. 4 hrs out of someone's day off isn't a small ask really.

I'd happily pay someone i know the same price as a taxi if it meant them getting a bit extra, and me paying the same either way.

He’s your brother.Hopefully you don’t have a dysfunctional relationship.After all, he offered to give you a lift! Get a taxi and reconsider that relationship.

Have you thought about asking if a friend or family member could give you a lift maybe? 😉

Blimey some of these posts. I’Ve happily given friends lifts to the airport, collected them at ridiculous times too. Isn’t that what friends are for?
My mate is dropping us off to Heathrow a couple of hours away and picking us up. I’m having to force him into taking petrol.

Your brother is nuts asking for that much!

I understand the airport hotel but why do you need to change the AirBnB? Aren't you just arriving earlier in the day?

Ay? That's not an offer!

THIS... 100 per cent.

Get a taxi OP (Its cheaper in real terms than the cost of dealing with this aggro) and stop doing favours for someone who won't reciprocate .

Sounding like your brother doesn't have much money and is trying it on. Zero hour contracts. If you can get the train.

Standard mileage rate is 45p/mile (from HMRC) so I'm guessing if it's a two hour trip it must be 100 miles or so which would be just over the £40 you offered. But asking for £75 'for his time' isn't very brotherly!!!!

Get the taxi. What a twat.

No, it’s my flight home. They moved me from 1pm to 7am - and I’m not fart arsing a round with a transfer or train at 3am, I’d rather be at the airport

Personally I think people should manage their own way. Why do they need to rely on friends and family at stupid o’clock unless they’re teens early 20s? Bit weird.

Gonna ask him to come to Italy 🤪