AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

[saamantha19881]

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

Not really, this was explained to me when I went to Norway, by a Norwegian.
I haven’t made it up ! And no, he wasn’t having a joke at all. Deadly serious.

Yes, perhaps this is more what was meant. But the premise being that nudity was not ‘a thing’ but considered entirely natural.

Well what I’ve read is similar the the Scandinavian poster that responded to you

it’s not what they do - they wear clothes indoors

perhaps your friend had another agenda going on

No the poster thinks everyone is in the buff cos it’s Norway

I don’t think parent being dressed while they’re at home prevents sexual abuse by others to be honest. I’d be interested if you had any data that shows that modesty at home has a correlation between lower sexual abuse statistics. I don’t think body’s are dysfunctional and I think people being more undressed in their own homes is cannot be conflated as then being acceptable in McDonald’s. Because societally, we don’t go out in public without being dressed, and so that would be a deviation from the norm, and would make people uncomfortable. Its normal in my house for us to be in underwear/naked/just a T-shirt. But it’s also normal in my house to have sex. I don’t think that’s unnatural or dysfunctional but I’m not doing that in McDonald’s either

I don’t think seeing parents in underwear means that children will then not understand appropriate boundaries in public either.

I’ve only heard of Homer Simpson doing this.

You are agreed

OP is not

Same for me, I feel your pain.

Since I have been there I really don’t ! All I was pointing out was that we do have a thing about nudity here. And some countries don’t. Not that the OP’s hubby is nude. He has his pants on.

My Dad was a bit like this. DH tends to strip to tshirt and boxers but usually v late at night when no one is likely to call around. If he does need to nip out or answer the door, he’ll put his trousers back on

That sounds much more normal to me

Ugh, that would give me the ick. No it's not normal, I think it's pretty uncouth to be honest. We wear clothes in our house. Children especially don't want to see their parents in their underwear in the living room! I honestly find it bizarre that he does this.

I think it’s more about appropriateness - not sitting around on furniture sweating and shedding skin where others have to sit - dropping chest hair in the bolognaise while cooking

and my house was Scandinavian rules outlined by poster above

He also wears pj bottoms sometimes… but not in the summer… understandable! I want him to be comfy! I recently got rid of his dressing gown as I really didn’t like it 🙈 I’m going to get him a new one tho!

Yuk! This sounds incredibly slobby. Why can't he just change into a t-shirt and jogging bottoms/shorts like normal people? This would really ick me out to the extent that I wouldn't be able to have sex with him - there's something unpleasantly pervy about it and a complete lack of respect for you. It will be awful for your kids as they grow up and friends round to play. For me, this would be a LTB situation.

That's even weirder - clothes on/off/on/off! Why not just be an adult and.....wear clothes?

His disgusting sweaty body all over the couch.

Your heating bill must be ridiculous!

Was it grey towelling? With snagging?

dressing gown of doom

Isn’t it interesting that this thread isn’t full of examples of women walking around half naked at home ‘because clothes rub’ etc

Yes - we have jobs to do!!! I

For me it depends on the temperature. In the summer I can’t wait to strip off my work clothes as soon as I get home. As long as it’s warm enough I probably wouldn’t bother putting anything on again unless I was going out. I should say though it’s only DP and I at home, I wouldn’t wander around the house naked if my kids were home.

What about speedo lol. Or cropped shorts

Tbh I can't see the issue

Really? What do you find ‘horrible’ about a human body?

I'm laughing so much at this thread 😂 my dad did exactly the same I never thought much of it tbh