AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

[saamantha19881]

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

Is he Martin from Friday Night Dinner?

Exactly.

People who just don't do basic things properly always drive me mad. A supermarket bag with holes in the bottom hung on the doorknob instead of a proper bin; taking the rubbish out in a white kitchen bin bag instead of bagging it up properly in a black sack; putting groceries in the fridge IN THE SUPERMARKET BAG cause they couldn't be arsed taking it out of the bag; and a cousin who was so lazy she never used a single capital letter in emails. Drove me nuts and made her look like an eight-year-old. And don't get me started on men who can't do basic things like go to the dentist or have regular haircuts. (Had both of those.)

Wearing clothes in the daytime is a cornerstone of normality. Wearing just pants in the daytime would be like living with a sullen teen or with someone who's ill or with someone who has no intention of being productive.

I prefer to be partnered with people who live in a normal, adult manner, basically, and sitting around in your pants like a toddler isn't it. I'd be saying to him "Are you going to get dressed?"

Sweaty armpits, freely displayed bum cracks and hairy backs for starters.

Exactly! Can't risk drops of boiling water or fat landing on us while cooking, and we're in and out to the garden (clothesline) and garage/car, or nipping to the nearest shop, and we're not comfortable answering the door in the altogether.

There's something very big-swinging-dick energy about the man of the house coming home, stripping down to his small, tight pants, and I bet man-spreading, too.

You make a good point. Why shouldn't men go to the supermarket in their pants? Or to work?

So true 🤢

And not doing his jobs!

I just have a throw or a blanket on the sofa and wash it regularly. Problem solved.

What about when cooking - chest hair over the pot of chilli

to cover all the examples just wear clothes!

So you admit it needs washing.

Just get him some jersey shorts for in the house

Oh look @ForCosyLion and @Walkyrie

he gets like a Roman toga on his throne! 😂

If your husband thinks wearing only underpants in the house is normal and okay, there's no reason for him not to be answering the door etc is there? By wearing only underpants he's abdicating all responsibility for certain tasks and shoving them on to you. Next time you're both watching a movie and the doorbell goes tell him it's his turn and do not get up. If he thinks underpants are a normal choice, let him prove it.

And maybe get some of those clear plastic sofa covers ...

Yes - it’s unseemly 😀. And the fact that it bothers you should be enough for him to moderate his behaviour.
My dad used to come home from work and take his trousers off in the kitchen (he’d come in the back door) but he had just cycled six miles and spent the day in a laboratory that often smelt bad.
I don’t remember him wandering round in his pants, he must have gone and washed/got changed.

Does he describe your food as a ‘lovely bit of squirrel’?

Jackie, is that you?

😁

Glad you got it resolved.

FWIW I’ve lived with various men (partners and flat mates). None has done this. Nor do my adult DSs.

It’d annoy me too. And what will he do when the kids have their mates over?

Surely, the compromise is shorts and a tee/vest?

I would find it annoying too.
A t shirt and comfortable shorts is comfortable enough for anyone.
I don't want all that flesh in my vision the whole time.
And not being prepared to even go into the garden - like having a little naked house grub.

Utter nonsense. It’s just a human body, we’ve all got one! None of the reasons you have listed are valid. It takes less than a couple of minutes to pull on some clothes if a spontaneous trip out is required.

Like this?

Heeeellllllllooooooo Jackie……

It’s not though - I think you will find over half the population would agree with poster

I think it’s weird.

if his clothes are not comfortable then they probably don’t fit him properly.

im properly dressed all the time, no loungewear here, I’d feel a sloppy mess if I wasn’t properly dressed

I think shorts and a tee shirt or dressing gown would be perfect for him...but I agree with you.
He's kinda slobbing out every evening...not cool.

Oh dear, sounds like you need to educate your DP on personal grooming! 😀

Good for him if that’s how he’s most comfortable.