AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

[saamantha19881]

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

As soon as I'm in the door, bra and work clothes off and change into something more comfortable. Though I wouldn't really mind DH being in just pants I can't see why he couldn't just put a pair of shorts on.

How can you think that you being fully clothed is the same as a man just wearing tight pants?

Thank you for all your replies. I think some have helped me articulate to him much better than I was doing before. He was offended and took it to be a statement on his body. But I did say to him that I wouldn't love it if he was in his pjs all day. I think know we've taken that side of it out - he seems to be a bit more amenable to the conversation. Thanks all x

I bought dh some pyjama shorts for a stint in hospital, it was genuinely boiling on the ward so normal pyjamas would have been too hot and he didn't want to sit around in just underwear. Might be worth a Google.

Me too.

Lovely bit of squirrel.

RIP wonderful Paul Ritter

Jesus. This has given me PTSD of my own darling mother. She used to just chill in her pants all weekend, sometimes nothing at all. Mortifying. She wouldn't even get dressed if I had friends round. God love her 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I might get changed as soon as I get in, but into clothes. Same for DH

😂😂😂. I know

poster must have missed the naked part

I’m hoping it’s a Borat style thong

Bit odd, stick a pair of shorts and a tshirt on

Tell him cotton will cool him down better than nudity

Oh don’t

😂😂😂

got to watch some borat now

I'm with the eugh reaction - you don't want bare skin shedding on the sofa / other upholstery. You don't want him dropping chest hair in the pot of boiling pasta. He also doesn't really want to lose the protection of clothing from injury / spills whether that's spilling hot meals on his skin or getting it covered in DIY stuff. And it's territorial bad manners. Everybody else is wearing clothes so he should be doing the same.

You can get round some of the above with specific agreements ie. if your skin is touching the sofa spread a towel out where you're sitting. If you're cooking you must wear clothes, if you're eating a hot meals you must wear a shirt, but really being minimally clothed at home isn't unreasonable.

If it's a temperature issue he could try stripping naked, having a shower/bath and redressing in clean minimal but decent clothing - vest / t shirt, pants and shorts with some slip on footwear available.

Yes, it's worth working out what fabrics feel ok next to his skin - natural fibres would be my starting point and cutting out labels / wearing things inside out if seams irritate etc.

Or that mankini leotard thingy!

Oh gosh yes, it's nothing to do with DH's body.
I just wouldn't like him sitting/walking around in his pants and nothing else.
And frankly I can't imagine him wanting to do that either 😆

He’s using underpants for an excuse for his lazyitis. Jogger shorts. Both my DH and I change into comfy clothes at the speed of light when we get in from work

But also, I don’t want to visit your house or sit on your sofa. Yuck. Pants are thin, scant and allow lots of germs (plus any stray liquid) through. They’re not a furniture-worthy body covering. 🤢🤮

Striding around in budgie smugglers ? What if there is a playdate? Does he get dressed?

Get him to to the cooking and barbecues. He'll get dressed.

Has he always done this?

She’s said they were skimpy

Put a shirt on Martin is what popped into my head too 😁

Does he ear dinner like this? What about if he dropped hot soup or spag bol down him 😬
I wouldn’t like it, pjs or joggers fine, I do this as soon as I get in

Is that you Jackie?

It's weird

We wear lounge wear style pjs. They are dignified enough for hospital, or for answering the door!

What a load of codswallop.

Wearing just your pants in the day time signifies.. wanting to not wear anything but pants.

Nothing more.

You don't have to do it yourself, or like it, but making all that bullshit up is just silly.

My DP has done the bathroom, bird feeders, kitchen, laundry, poo picked the back yard, hoovered the whole house and done a 40 minute trip out to pick up our monthly dog food order.

He is currently just wearing pants, he was wearing just pants for his morning coffee. He was fully clothed for all tasks that involved going outside the house. Clothes can be removed AND put back on! He'll put them back on to walk the dogs in a bit too.

Who says adults HAVE to wear all their clothes indoors all the time? Come summer and its too hot down here but I have to work, I will absolutely be wearing knickers and a bra and bugger all else. Its my house and I'll do as I please in it.

One of our dc used to come home from nursery sometimes and say "Aaah... now it's time to be in my nice pants!" and strip down to them.

This is what it's reminding me of. But I think it is something quite innate except we get social conditioning coming over the top. But as part of that I think he needs to accept the tight boxers are a bit much with children about.