AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

[saamantha19881]

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

He would get on well in Norway.
They do not see nudity in the home as anything but simply natural. And this isn’t even nudity.

I mean, nothing but pants in the daytime doesn't exactly scream capable, competent provider and protector, does it? 🤣🤣🤣🤭

It's giving adult-toddler vibes. 🤢

Our next door neighbour sometimes puts the bins out just wearing his skin tight pants!! It's TMI

I have bought DH lots of shorts to wear to deal with the same issues @saamantha19881 but he's always forgetting to put them on. I have said it's not fair on our teens to just sit around dressed (or rather not dressed) like that

It would annoy me. Because by doing that he's literally sending out a signal thats him done for the day and not to expect anything of him. He can't/wont answer the door, take the bins out,nip to the car. Its all on you. Tell him to put some shorts on or something. Its ridiculous

Mmm my friends brother lives in Norway - never heard anyone walking around nude

your stretching the truth somewhat

"Shit on it!"

Yes - a cotton singlet won’t make him any hotter

Yes it’s very single minded and selfish

Get him shorts and t-shirt to wear, tell him tgats the minimum.

If he's stripping off because he's too hot, is he then sitting down all sweaty?

I’m Scandinavian and although we don’t have an issue with nudity in general we are only really naked when it makes sense, such as going to/from the shower, in the sauna, in swimming pool showers etc. Nobody I know sits down to the family dinner not clothed.

I’m having funny images of him and his dad FaceTiming each other nude 😂😂

Thank you!!!

Eww. Shorts at least (and a t-shirt) for basic decency, surely?

And how over-heated must your house be in winter, to make this comfortable?

I think it’s a bit slobby
yes change into some thing loose and comfortable by all means. But just in pants.
yuk

But that’s not what I said? So you’re answering points that I never said I agreed with.

As I explicitly said, going outside in your pants is not the same thing as being in the privacy of your own home in your pants. Again, I have also been clear that it’s not reasonable to have other people in your house and be just in your pants.

At home my nephews are walking around in their pants, and I think that’s normal. But when people turn up they will go and put on some clothes as they aren’t comfortable around other people in their pants. Because there’s a difference. I want to walk around naked in front of my DW, I don’t think that’s dysfunctional.

I can’t speak for how it would be around kids, but I don’t think children shouldn’t be taught that bodies are shameful, and that nudity is wrong. As I said, you shouldn’t go to far the other way and traumatise children by making them uncomfortable being completely naked past a certain age, but seeing their dad in a pair of pants is no different to what they’d see at a pool, so why is that dysfunctional?

I’d be really pissed if it meant consuming more energy to keep him warm but aside from that, can he not wear lounge pants?

Oh no you’ve just added another dimension!! Of ick…

🤢

Are you the husband? You seem very defensive.

Speaking of men acting like toddlers, I was at a friend's house once and her DP was watching TV. Except...it was cartoons, and he was sitting on the floor watching it, quite close, gazing up at it. He looked JUST like a child! 🤢🤣

I don’t think it would bother me unless it was a way to get out of doing things like taking the dog for a pee in the garden or answering the door or whatever. It would piss me off if I was always the one who had to do that because my partner wasn’t dressed.

Don’t answer the door make him do it in his pants. Refuse to enable him any longer (not your fault btw). Don’t go outside bcos he’s not dressed even if is for the kids. Seems like this hot business has got secondary gains for him like getting out of having to share the load. If he’s that hot he’s got a health problem. If his Dad did it it’s been reinforced as normal but it’s not!! Failing that LTB lol!

Your first post just said “bodies aren’t dysfunctional” - then you went on to give situational caveats and now you’ve said pants are just shorts - so presume it’s ok to go out in pants - they clearly are not shorts - you would get arrested for sure - men in shorts in Macdonald’s with no top (which ia regular in summer) is now men in pants no top - quite quite different things

on the contrary - I think it would be teaching children the opposite of privacy and my own body in terms of empowering them around sexual abuse - it would be saying men can walk around and eat their dinner In pants and that’s ok - if you see it out in the world don’t be alarmed - whereas you need the to be alarmed

is not being too modest to have clothing standards - it’s teaching respect for your body and others

read the poster from Scandinavia where the are much more forward thinking about nudity - the benchmark countries really - they wouldn’t sit down to dinner in knickers

I could NOT cope with this

Get him some loose fitting drawstring waist shorts and t-shirts, vest style for hot weather.

Many years ago I knew a man who did that every day, stripped down to his underpants. He also sat on the floor rather than a chair. He was a heavy drinker too.

His children could never have anyone visit.