AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

[saamantha19881]

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

So many prim and uptight people on here.

My husband's pants are like a jock strap with an arse section. I wouldn't want him to just wear them

Liberating. Friday Night Dinner 😁

Boxers and a t shirt is fine.

He wasn’t supposed to be a role model!

Neurospicy household - this is normal for us, and for many more homes with neurodiverse people! The fact he thinks it’s normal is like “ding ding we have another member” in my head.

any chance he is adhd or asd? cos yeah, that is normal for us!

It’s not a difficult problem is it, but n this example still appears to be an extra domestic chore, caused by a man, done by a woman. Sigh.

😂

Haha fortunately not !!!!

It's unpleasant that he walks around in just underwear all the time. Wanting to get out of a suit/work clothes is understandable but surely a t-shirt and shorts would be better?

I quite agree.

The guy I knew who would sit on the floor in underpants every evening and all weekend used to have part of one ball hanging out. He was disgusting.

I hate it when men’s unacceptable behaviour is immediately put down to neurodiversity!

"Nobody wants to see your hairy bosoms Martin".

It's not just men It's seems to be a reason for anyone's unreasonable behaviour to get a suggestion of ND on here

a pair of thin football shorts. problem solved. you cannot be too hot in those surely. pick a size that’ll be loose ish around the waist.

He doesn't refuse ever to leave the room without* a top on, he chooses *to throw on a tshirt while walking around in from of others. We have an ensuite so he doesn't really need to be walking around the house not fully dressed.

I grew up in a neurospicy household and people wore proper clothes.

He better not have EVER done this when your kids had friends over @saamantha19881

My god if my child told me her friend’s father had behaved like this whilst she was there…. I’d have been…. Let’s just say disturbed.

Sorry where did that poster immediately state the OP's DP must be ND?

They just asked the question.

As one of the other few posters here with a partner who does this... mine IS ND, not suspected, not self dx, officially dx, and by the NHS, not privately.

He gets too hot, mostly whilst sitting around, so to cook he'd stick a tshirt and shorts on. His clothes fit and are comfortable, he makes most of his trousers himself in order to get the fit and length he likes.

Yuck no he can change into shorts and t shirt.

Who gives a flying f**k if he’s ND or not.

This would annoy me. Get changed into something comfy but not walking around in your boxers. Nobody wants to see that. Also be dressed enough to have people over and answer the door. At least until after tea when people are unlikely to come around.

Im diagnosed with adhd and autism too as is my daughter, I have several family members who massively struggle with body temp regulation, we all prefer to be wearing as little as possible but have basic respect for each other

My 21 year old wouldn’t sit in her and knickers and bra around her brother and dad, no matter how hot she was, she goes to her room to do that, my husband likes to be in just his pants, he wears a lot of heavy safety stuff at work but but only strips to his pants once she had gone to bed, he could never relax if he was making his family uncomfortable. We both grew with dads very selfish dads who got their horrible behaviour dismissed as “he’s autistic he can’t help it” the kids who didn’t want to see their dads knob swinging around were expected to remove themselves from shared spaces.

If your son said he’s uncomfortable with his sister/you being in bra and knickers all the time, or your daughter says she finds her dad/brother being in tight underwear all the time upsetting, how would you navigate that? Im genuinely curious.

You think wearing actual clothes instead of just underwear is weird? Really? How odd!