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To think the main Mumsnet demographic are out of touch politically

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Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

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TonTonMacoute · 08/05/2026 19:13

eyeballer · 08/05/2026 05:58

@MidnightPatrol could it possibly be that “fixing” immigration is not an easy issue?

Yet other European countries are tackling this issue quite successfully, including several with social democratic governments.

LBFseBrom · 08/05/2026 19:14

Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

Not by all, I've seen quite a few Reform supporters on here.
However the fact is, despite Reform's gains, they are a minority party. Let's just hope they stay that way :-).

Walkyrie · 08/05/2026 19:16

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 19:13

But where do Reform have any policies on nature, or quality of life, or housing conditions so that people have gardens or local green space, or on health or cost of living?

They don’t. But they are the hammer from the toolbox as far as immigration is concerned. We can’t HAVE those things without lowering the population.

mixcross · 08/05/2026 19:18

Just because people are voting Reform doesn't make them right. There has been a failure of the main parties to offer a real alternative vision and its easy for a new, never in power party to pretend to be all things to all people. I just hope Reform have been given enough rope to hang themselves with and that the results in this election do not translate to the next general election. I believe ukip once won big in the EU elections and we had a lot of crowing that they were set to win a lot of seats at the next general election and then they crashed out in the next election. Council results don't automatically translate to GE results.

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 19:18

Whysnothingsimple · 08/05/2026 18:57

And yes that does feed into things. But according to the governments own statistics 10% of the population in the UK in 2025 we born outside the EU (with a further 6% born in the EU as defined in 2025) https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/sn06077/ this is a far bigger issue. Alongside that we need to be supporting people to try and ensure more marriages and relationships are surviving.

Approximately 10% of migrants have poor/nonexistent English.

Of the 16% born outside the UK/EU, how many are now naturalised and/or were born to British parents living abroad?

MidnightMeltdown · 08/05/2026 19:19

I would imagine that men are more likely to vote reform, but I could be wrong.

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 19:22

Walkyrie · 08/05/2026 19:16

They don’t. But they are the hammer from the toolbox as far as immigration is concerned. We can’t HAVE those things without lowering the population.

So you don’t really want better quality of life, you want to bet the farm that immigration is the reason you’re unhappy, vote in a shower of clowns (including party members who live abroad) to ‘fix’ it, and then what, hope they start to care about the quality of life for the rest of us? That doesn’t sound like a very good strategy to me.

Net migration has fallen by more than 60% since 2024, the birth rate is falling as is life expectancy. It hasn’t actually made a difference yet, because reducing the population is not, on its own, a solution.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 08/05/2026 19:24

Walkyrie · 08/05/2026 19:02

I disagree. It is about raw numbers.

We are already in a position where we are unable to feed our own population. If exports stopped tomorrow; many people would starve to death.

In theory we could end up a futuristic country-city, all living in 100 story flats with a complex network of sky gardens and hydroponics to feed everybody, and micro properties with fold out furniture and so on, but do you actually want this?

You seem to measure human life quality simply by a series of numbers, whereas we are aware it’s about far more than this. You could have 5* health services, a high salary and so on, and still be utterly miserable due to a lack of nature, a life which is just far too overstimulating due to overcrowding and a total detachment from self reliance. Do you want this?

This is why Reform are flying high. Because quality of life isn’t just measured by GDP and how many extra medical staff and roads we’ve added this year. People want moments of happiness - to drink in a pub without paying £10 a pint, to be in nature without every last square foot being accounted for under farming or housing. To be able to have a decent garden to relax in, to have peace in their homes and not constantly listening to congested traffic and people yelling and spitting. You seem to think it’s all about clever accounting and finding ‘solutions’.

So if it is purely about raw numbers, how do you propose that we should manage an ageing population, a falling birth rate and massive skills gaps in our labour market?

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 19:26

EmmaOvary · 08/05/2026 18:47

Gosh, and you actually said that out loud.

It could have been worse, on the other thread they said they want to get rid of ‘third world immigration’. Lovely.

Marmalademorning · 08/05/2026 19:28

BIossomtoes · 08/05/2026 15:29

Indeed. Zia Yousef is a very useful idiot.

There’s plenty of useful idiots in the ‘Green’ party 🤡🤡🤡

EsmeSusanOgg · 08/05/2026 19:28

Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

Not out of touch. But a different demographic. You can understand polls and what is going to happen - without agreeing with it.

Also, a lot of posters on mumsnet are focused on some specific issues. Those are not necessarily vote winners/ losers for other groups.

sprigatito · 08/05/2026 19:30

MN is mostly women and generally the more educated end of the spectrum. That’s…not the core demographic of Reform voters.

Marmalademorning · 08/05/2026 19:34

Imdunfer · 08/05/2026 18:49

We are building far too many houses now. He have had a falling birthrate for years we shouldn’t need this many houses.

We have a rising population. And that population is also increasingly needing more houses as families split with divorce and separation.

I don't know if the statistics would agree, but it also seems to me that people who used to expect to rent a room in someone else's house now expect a single person use of a flat or small house.

My small town has seen thousand upon thousand of houses built in the last 5 years. The thousand that I can see in construction in a short walk from my own new property at the moment look as if they are all being sold, and occupied as soon as they are ready.

Really? Then why are so many nurseries and primary schools having to close? 🤔 Ahh could it be that the rise in population isn’t from births? If so then how?

Octavia64 · 08/05/2026 19:40

I’m bored.

i should like to make clear I don’t vote reform and I think their policies are simplistic.

however.

a pp said given that we need immigration what sort of model do we want?

they have various examples including Switzerland, which has about 25% of it’s population foreign born.

now Swiss immigration is a lot easier from EU countries (Switzerland is not in the EU but has various agreements with it). If you want to become a citizen your name goes on a referendum and your local area votes whether to let you become a citizen. People are regularly rejected.

my friends who are now Swiss had to write a whole thing that went to their local area about how they were catholic and spoke German and their kids went to the local state school and they all did lots of stuff with the church and supported the local music festival etc.

Switzerland is also regularly told off by international bodies for racism (most of their immigration is white European and highly educated and or rich).

it has a referendum system for many decisions and in 2025 banned the niqab and the burka.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-56314173

various Swiss cantons have also put measures in place to stop mosques being built.

Switzerland has immigration, yes. They go to a lot of effort to make sure it’s people who culturally fit with the Swiss people who are already there and they are very clear that their religion (Christianity) is the religion of the country (in various flavours depending on where you are) and they don’t put other religions on parallel with christianity.

so moving across to Britain, I think quite a lot of people who vote reform would probably like an approach more like the Swiss. Allow immigration for people who are culturally similar to the British who are already here. And make them pass a bloody hard English test just like my friemds had to do for German to become Swiss citizens.

A poster promoting "Yes to the burka ban" is seen in Oberdorf, in the canton of Nidwalden, Switzerland, 16 February 2021

Switzerland referendum: Voters support ban on face coverings in public

The referendum, brought by a far-right party, could affect Muslim women who wear the burka or niqab.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-56314173

Octavia64 · 08/05/2026 19:42

Marmalademorning · 08/05/2026 19:34

Really? Then why are so many nurseries and primary schools having to close? 🤔 Ahh could it be that the rise in population isn’t from births? If so then how?

Because where the people are is changing.

i live in a small market town where they are just building and building. We had a new secondary five years ago and they’re just starting another primary for the next big new housing estate.

Hallamule · 08/05/2026 19:44

TonTonMacoute · 08/05/2026 19:13

Yet other European countries are tackling this issue quite successfully, including several with social democratic governments.

Which ones, out of interest?
I do agree there are some quite straightforward things a government of ours could do to help the problem.

BIossomtoes · 08/05/2026 19:44

Marmalademorning · 08/05/2026 19:34

Really? Then why are so many nurseries and primary schools having to close? 🤔 Ahh could it be that the rise in population isn’t from births? If so then how?

Because the need for more housing isn’t predicated on a rise in population. It’s because there’s an increase in the number of households. There’s been a 30% rise in single households in the last decade.

CissyHoustonJustDontKnowWhattodoWithMyselfNSOUL · 08/05/2026 19:51

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/05/2026 19:03

Are they still going for the SNP or did Nicola Sturgeon fuck that up?

It's SNP and I voted for them for the 1st time.
Sturgeon is a nutcase ,her daily broadcast during COVID was painful ..Auntie Sturgeon knows what's best for you all and a whole lot of other shit she got up to.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 08/05/2026 19:52

Marmalademorning · 08/05/2026 15:14

Deluded 🙄

Nah. I've got Jewish neighbours. Not a single issue with them. DC play together. But murdering Palestinian DC isn't good really, is it? Not when it's their own land they're living on.

MulberryBrandy · 08/05/2026 19:53

@Octavia64 so moving across to Britain, I think quite a lot of people who vote reform would probably like an approach more like the Swiss. Allow immigration for people who are culturally similar to the British who are already here.

So that is what they had here before Farage campaigned for Brexit. Assisted by Boris who then created the "Boriswave". It is all very circular!

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 08/05/2026 19:54

Walkyrie · 08/05/2026 19:02

I disagree. It is about raw numbers.

We are already in a position where we are unable to feed our own population. If exports stopped tomorrow; many people would starve to death.

In theory we could end up a futuristic country-city, all living in 100 story flats with a complex network of sky gardens and hydroponics to feed everybody, and micro properties with fold out furniture and so on, but do you actually want this?

You seem to measure human life quality simply by a series of numbers, whereas we are aware it’s about far more than this. You could have 5* health services, a high salary and so on, and still be utterly miserable due to a lack of nature, a life which is just far too overstimulating due to overcrowding and a total detachment from self reliance. Do you want this?

This is why Reform are flying high. Because quality of life isn’t just measured by GDP and how many extra medical staff and roads we’ve added this year. People want moments of happiness - to drink in a pub without paying £10 a pint, to be in nature without every last square foot being accounted for under farming or housing. To be able to have a decent garden to relax in, to have peace in their homes and not constantly listening to congested traffic and people yelling and spitting. You seem to think it’s all about clever accounting and finding ‘solutions’.

So if it's just about raw numbers, how do you propose we address the issues around an ageing population and a falling birth rate?

EasternStandard · 08/05/2026 19:56

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 08/05/2026 19:54

So if it's just about raw numbers, how do you propose we address the issues around an ageing population and a falling birth rate?

You can’t have a never ending Ponzi scheme where numbers always go up. The way out of that will be AI and tech as the opposite is incoming, loss of jobs.

Octavia64 · 08/05/2026 19:58

MulberryBrandy · 08/05/2026 19:53

@Octavia64 so moving across to Britain, I think quite a lot of people who vote reform would probably like an approach more like the Swiss. Allow immigration for people who are culturally similar to the British who are already here.

So that is what they had here before Farage campaigned for Brexit. Assisted by Boris who then created the "Boriswave". It is all very circular!

I suspect most people who vote reform (and indeed quite a few others) are not happy that the result of Brexit seems to have been a big increase in immigration from countries not culturally aligned with the U.K. and the return home of an awful lot of eu immigrants.

it was a big loss to the uk.

Comefromaway · 08/05/2026 20:01

Octavia64 · 08/05/2026 19:58

I suspect most people who vote reform (and indeed quite a few others) are not happy that the result of Brexit seems to have been a big increase in immigration from countries not culturally aligned with the U.K. and the return home of an awful lot of eu immigrants.

it was a big loss to the uk.

All things that remainers were trying to say at the time.

MulberryBrandy · 08/05/2026 20:02

Octavia64 · 08/05/2026 19:58

I suspect most people who vote reform (and indeed quite a few others) are not happy that the result of Brexit seems to have been a big increase in immigration from countries not culturally aligned with the U.K. and the return home of an awful lot of eu immigrants.

it was a big loss to the uk.

But happy enough to continue to place their faith in the main orchestrator of this situation? Is it just me ....😱

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