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To think the main Mumsnet demographic are out of touch politically

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Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

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BIossomtoes · 08/05/2026 11:29

Cheesipuff · 08/05/2026 11:27

Sorry, too long winded to post from the FT but their article on Labour planning welfare cuts was in the 28th April copy which will surprise you as you don’t believe they are required

Post a link.

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:30

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:26

I would vote reform because quite frankly being a white, British female who works full time i am absolutely sick of my local area becoming more and more islamified by the month, im sick of working hard and struggling while we have become a nation of “ victims and spongers” expecting everything to be handed to us on a plate! Im sick of not being allowed to be patriotic or proud of my heritage without being called racist. Im sick of the two main parties being as useless as each other so why not try something different?

Could you try something positive instead of whinging about Muslims existing in your general vicinity?

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:30

Underthinker · 08/05/2026 11:27

No, sometimes you like to call people stupid to make yourself feel better. It doesn't help anyone or anything.

It helps society to make it clear that racism is intolerable and yes, stupid. More of it.

ElizaMulvil · 08/05/2026 11:31

ChaseTheSin · 08/05/2026 07:11

Without resorting to insults I think a lack of understanding about how the political system works is a huge problem - lots of Reform voters have been quoted as saying they’re voting for Reform in local council elections to “fix the NHS”. I don’t think a lot of people understand the different responsibilities of local and national government. 🙁

I also don’t think a lot of less well off voters who vote Reform understand the catastrophic impact on their lives should Reform form the next government - deep welfare cuts and a private health service will affect the poorest and vulnerable far more than they’ll affect me 😢.

Exactly. Farage has not founded a political party ie a party where members can democratically elect the leader etc. and influence policy.It is his own limited company so he has completed control. This should alarm everyone. He's showing his fascist anti democratic views in plain view. This is extreme right wing politics which will harm many of the people voting for him. How will they pay for private health care? Will it benefit men if the Equality Act is repealed? No, it will encourage employers to take on more women at lower wages/salaries particularly if they can be sacked easily if pregnant. In the past employers had to take on men because men had access to higher education and most women didn't. That is not the case now. The men voting for Reform have not thought it through. Equality benefits everyone not just women or minorities. Companies will employ people at the cheapest rate they can and that won't be many men.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 08/05/2026 11:31

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:26

I would vote reform because quite frankly being a white, British female who works full time i am absolutely sick of my local area becoming more and more islamified by the month, im sick of working hard and struggling while we have become a nation of “ victims and spongers” expecting everything to be handed to us on a plate! Im sick of not being allowed to be patriotic or proud of my heritage without being called racist. Im sick of the two main parties being as useless as each other so why not try something different?

I'm betting your flag is flying. Are you angry it isn't getting enough attention anymore?

I'm also white British, have Muslim friends, colleagues, teachers in my DC's school.

I think if you check, the VAST VAST majority of 'victims and spongers' are also white British like you and me. I don't know ONE Muslim (among the quite a few I interact with regularly) who is unemployed. Most of them are university educated professionals who are ambitious and are also educating their children to graduate level to become professionals.

By all means vote Reform. But don't pretend NOT to be racist when that is the platform they are getting voted in on.

Underthinker · 08/05/2026 11:31

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:29

No, it's not. Me saying Reform voters are stupid when they're already Reform voters isn't influencing them at all. It hasn't pushed one single non Reform voter to vote for them. This is an equally stupid line.

For everyone person you directly call stupid, there will be dozens or even hundreds of lurkers who read that comment, and any who were on the fence about voting reform will feel your insults apply to them.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 08/05/2026 11:32

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:30

Could you try something positive instead of whinging about Muslims existing in your general vicinity?

Exactly. Could always indulge in a bit of flag polishing.

Mangelwurzelfortea · 08/05/2026 11:32

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/05/2026 11:25

You’re wrong. This is literally the result of every perfectly normal working person being heckled by ideologists on social media. It’s playing out in front of you right now and you still can’t see it.

Most people who vote Reform (typically older people) aren't on social media, let alone being heckled by ideologists. And if they're being heckled BECAUSE they're Reform voters, then...they're already Reform voters, so it's not the result of anything is it?

Comefromaway · 08/05/2026 11:33

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/05/2026 11:24

Who you voting for then?

Last year in the council elections I voted for Labour on the basis of local policies and a counsellor who had done a lot for the community. I will make the decision on who to vote for in a general election at the time. I voted labour last time, was close to conservative until they came up with the crackpot national service policy that would affect a lot of young people I know. not against to the idea in principle, jut the dreadful way it was going to be run which would detrimentally affect those who could least afford it the most like young carers, those who need to work to support families etc. Also I am very pleased what labour have done with education but not some of the disabled cuts.

I like a lot of green policies but not the fact they don't know what a woman is.

It's usually a case of finding the least worse option.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 08/05/2026 11:34

Underthinker · 08/05/2026 11:31

For everyone person you directly call stupid, there will be dozens or even hundreds of lurkers who read that comment, and any who were on the fence about voting reform will feel your insults apply to them.

As it should.

Have you seen the video of an interviewer talking to people in the street about why they're voting Reform? Not one of them knows ANY Reform policies, other than the anti - immigration rhetoric.

Now, IF someone was making an informed choice, I'd say that was intelligent, even if I didn't like their politics. But voting based on one (undeveloped) policy is dim.

RedTagAlan · 08/05/2026 11:35

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/05/2026 11:29

I’m off to work now, but honestly I think this divide was happening over Covid. The working classes carried on working and the middle classes were paid to sit at home and took up hiking, bought a dog, made cakes and rode their Peletons. Those middle classes never got back in touch with normal people and now they are really shocked that everyone is furious and Farage will be PM. Wake up!!

I keep seeing this statement " wake up".

But when people do "wake up", they are called "woke".

Confuses me.

HotCrossBunplease · 08/05/2026 11:35

Since when did disagreeing with the majority mean that someone was “out of touch”?

Surely it’s the most in-touch people who are going be vocal about why they disagree?

ForWittyTealOP · 08/05/2026 11:35

Cheesipuff · 08/05/2026 11:27

Sorry, too long winded to post from the FT but their article on Labour planning welfare cuts was in the 28th April copy which will surprise you as you don’t believe they are required

I think you're misrepresenting me somewhat seeing as I've not expressed a view on "whether benefit cuts are required". Spoiler though, no, that would be counterproductive so at least you can speak with confidence going forward.

I can't comment on an article that I've not seen and you've not linked but I've not argued that Labour would or wouldn't cut benefits (not welfare). The party political aspect isn't really what I'm talking about here. I don't believe that political parties generally decide to cut befits because they genuinely think that is what's required or will make a positive difference to the economy. I think it's about something entirely different.

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:35

Slightyamusedandsilly · 08/05/2026 11:27

Exactly. It's hyped up, thinly disguised racism. Which is allowing overt racism to become acceptable.

People keep saying to others go and live in an area with asylum seekers and I already do. In one of Glasgow's most disadvantaged areas with a high level of asylum seekers and refugees. What we actually have is a strong community base that people struggle to see past the black and brown faces. As I said in another thread, it's the racist white cunts with the flags in the garden who are refusing integration, not the Iranians and Syrians trying to build a new life.

Guess what, they haven't caused or exacerbated the generational disadvantage in the area. They've just been punted here to share in it.

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:35

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:30

Could you try something positive instead of whinging about Muslims existing in your general vicinity?

Muslims existing in my general vicinity? Try them being refused planning permission for a mosque so building a “ Muslim education centre” that causes absolute havoc at prayer times with traffic and appalling parking! Houses with multiple generations living in them without sufficient parking again causing issues with parking and traffic! Group’s of men congregating around the “ Muslim education centre” and making anyone who isn’t Muslim feel very uncomfortable when walking through the area. A general downturn in the upkeep of this area, loads of rubbish and litter!

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/05/2026 11:35

Comefromaway · 08/05/2026 11:33

Last year in the council elections I voted for Labour on the basis of local policies and a counsellor who had done a lot for the community. I will make the decision on who to vote for in a general election at the time. I voted labour last time, was close to conservative until they came up with the crackpot national service policy that would affect a lot of young people I know. not against to the idea in principle, jut the dreadful way it was going to be run which would detrimentally affect those who could least afford it the most like young carers, those who need to work to support families etc. Also I am very pleased what labour have done with education but not some of the disabled cuts.

I like a lot of green policies but not the fact they don't know what a woman is.

It's usually a case of finding the least worse option.

A as he who would you vote for if one of those green leafy fields you butt up against was turned into an immigration centre and your road was suddenly full of men from Syria and Afghanistan?

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 11:36

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:26

I would vote reform because quite frankly being a white, British female who works full time i am absolutely sick of my local area becoming more and more islamified by the month, im sick of working hard and struggling while we have become a nation of “ victims and spongers” expecting everything to be handed to us on a plate! Im sick of not being allowed to be patriotic or proud of my heritage without being called racist. Im sick of the two main parties being as useless as each other so why not try something different?

Can you explain what is ‘islamified’ in your area and how it affects you?

ForWittyTealOP · 08/05/2026 11:37

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/05/2026 11:29

I’m off to work now, but honestly I think this divide was happening over Covid. The working classes carried on working and the middle classes were paid to sit at home and took up hiking, bought a dog, made cakes and rode their Peletons. Those middle classes never got back in touch with normal people and now they are really shocked that everyone is furious and Farage will be PM. Wake up!!

Really overly simplistic.

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:37

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:35

Muslims existing in my general vicinity? Try them being refused planning permission for a mosque so building a “ Muslim education centre” that causes absolute havoc at prayer times with traffic and appalling parking! Houses with multiple generations living in them without sufficient parking again causing issues with parking and traffic! Group’s of men congregating around the “ Muslim education centre” and making anyone who isn’t Muslim feel very uncomfortable when walking through the area. A general downturn in the upkeep of this area, loads of rubbish and litter!

What a pile of absolute fucking pish 😂

Muslims causing traffic, Muslims standing outside a building.

And people are arguing that this shit isn't stupid?

DBSFstupid · 08/05/2026 11:40

hattie43 · 08/05/2026 05:30

MN has a hard core group of left wing voters who think the louder they shout and the more they insult they will persuade people they are wrong . Well no-one except the well heeled of Islington wants their nonsense . Reform are doing well and all the left have done is turn their support underground because people can’t be bothered to debate left wing zealots .

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Oh YES!!! Nailed it👏👏👏

Comefromaway · 08/05/2026 11:40

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 08/05/2026 11:35

A as he who would you vote for if one of those green leafy fields you butt up against was turned into an immigration centre and your road was suddenly full of men from Syria and Afghanistan?

I live in Stoke-on-Trent, we have immigration centres and have always had a lot of asian (pakistani/bangladeshi etc people). I used to live in Walsall round the corner from a Muslim girls school.

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 11:40

Monty36 · 08/05/2026 11:20

I would like you to say all that to a suffragette. Who literally suffered to enable you to vote.

They suffered to enable us the choice. Choosing not to vote is a political decision, even if the person choosing doesn’t see that way.

Octavia64 · 08/05/2026 11:41

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:16

she felt she was being told that it’s not ok to celebrate English culture

Where does that mindset come from, to the point old ladies are getting upset about it?

I live in what has historically been a very rural and fairly poor area, in a small market town.

there’s people who have lived here their whole lives and still have opinions about eg Fred from number 62 based on something he said in 1977. Not joking.

in the last 20 years loads and loads of housing estates have been built and the town has really changed in character. Previous to this it was pretty much 100% white British.

I moved here three years ago. There are six Christian churches of various denominations plus the Nigerian Christians rent a room in one of the halls to have their services in. The people here have heard of other religions and I did once see a lady in a headscarf walking down the street but by and large they don’t know any Muslims, Jews, Buddhists, Hindus or any other religion. There’s plenty of people now who are Eastern European or African but they are largely Christian.

the people who live here are aware that if you fly the English flag (and quite a few of them do have flagpoles and fly various flags including Ukraine, football clubs etc) it’s considered not ok. They know that there’s been a media furore over flying British/English flags on lampposts. They aren’t quite sure why that is but they are fully aware that (from their perspective) a lot of people hate the English flag and you’ll get a lot of online hate for flying it.

there’s one trans bloke in the town. He was born here and has lived here for sixty years. He’s had mental health problems all his life. He’s in social housing and lives on benefits. He spends most of his time going to the various coffee mornings the various churches run and complaining about how hard it is to find clothes that fit him. He wears an ill-fitting assortment of dresses (usually two or three at once) that he buys from charity shops.

again, the people that live here mostly think he’s mad. But they know (again from their perspective media) that these days if someone who is clearly a man and has been a man all his life wants to say he is a woman you aren’t allowed to argue with him. So everyone pretty much ignores him unless he’s drunk in the high street again and shouting at random passers by.

so what people see is that these days there is stuff you aren’t allowed to do and stuff you aren’t allowed to say and there seems to be no real reason why you aren’t allowed to do it and say it except that it might upset people.

and frankly most of the people in my town think that trans bloke would be better served by some actual MH treatment and stopping drinking rather than not being allowed to say to him that he’s a bloke.

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:41

Slightyamusedandsilly · 08/05/2026 11:31

I'm betting your flag is flying. Are you angry it isn't getting enough attention anymore?

I'm also white British, have Muslim friends, colleagues, teachers in my DC's school.

I think if you check, the VAST VAST majority of 'victims and spongers' are also white British like you and me. I don't know ONE Muslim (among the quite a few I interact with regularly) who is unemployed. Most of them are university educated professionals who are ambitious and are also educating their children to graduate level to become professionals.

By all means vote Reform. But don't pretend NOT to be racist when that is the platform they are getting voted in on.

Where in my post did i say that all the victims and spongers and victims were muslim? I said my local area was becoming islamified, please learn to read properly. Also wanting to recognise the area that i have lived in for years does not make me racist, in fact islam isn’t a race! People of all races follow islam! I don’t dislike anyone for the colour of their skin but their attitude and behaviour! I also will happily accept that i dislike islam…just as as i dislike anyone other form of organised religion! Its brainwashing rubbish.

MustWeDoThis · 08/05/2026 11:43

hattie43 · 08/05/2026 05:30

MN has a hard core group of left wing voters who think the louder they shout and the more they insult they will persuade people they are wrong . Well no-one except the well heeled of Islington wants their nonsense . Reform are doing well and all the left have done is turn their support underground because people can’t be bothered to debate left wing zealots .

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Better to be a lefty, than an uneducated fascist...and...well...you. ;)

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