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Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

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Locutus2000 · 08/05/2026 11:43

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:26

I would vote reform because quite frankly being a white, British female who works full time i am absolutely sick of my local area becoming more and more islamified by the month, im sick of working hard and struggling while we have become a nation of “ victims and spongers” expecting everything to be handed to us on a plate! Im sick of not being allowed to be patriotic or proud of my heritage without being called racist. Im sick of the two main parties being as useless as each other so why not try something different?

Amazing how many posts there are identical to this, adding nothing to the conversation, just slagging off this 'broken' and 'bankrupt' country.

The right wingnuts have been saying this shit as long as they have existed.

InterIgnis · 08/05/2026 11:43

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:21

Nah, sometimes you just need to call stupid stupid. There isn't enough shaming of narrow mindedness.

Which famously always works. At least it does if your desired outcome is for people to double down on their position. So then what?

There’s a difference between being right, and being able to sell your position. If you cannot do the latter, then you’re destined to fail.

There’s an emotional element to politics that should not be overlooked, that cannot be lectured into insignificance. Populist parties understand this, and are best placed to exploit it in times of wider instability.

Whether it’s true or not, there’s large number of people that feel they have been patronized, shouted down when people do bother to address them, and otherwise outright ignored. Unsurprisingly they have become increasingly angry and resentful of this, and will not listen to those that do not listen to them.

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:43

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:37

What a pile of absolute fucking pish 😂

Muslims causing traffic, Muslims standing outside a building.

And people are arguing that this shit isn't stupid?

And its exactly attitudes just like yours that are causing people to vote reform or restore etc! Where do you get off telling people what they are experiencing isn’t true?

Locutus2000 · 08/05/2026 11:44

Putin is rubbing his hands in glee at the British electorate's gullibility.

Monty36 · 08/05/2026 11:44

Am not a Reform voter. But clearly the results are coming in and Reform has resonated with many. The main parties cannot ignore it.

Jane379 · 08/05/2026 11:45

Veiledveritas · 08/05/2026 05:26

Reform.are smashing the polls yet any Reform voter is despised and ridiculed on here.

Strange post considering all those articles showing MN was backing Reform.

lonelyplanetmum · 08/05/2026 11:45

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:30

Could you try something positive instead of whinging about Muslims existing in your general vicinity?

I think this is helpful as it gets to the crux of what a lot of voters are thinking. But what realistically do supporters think Reform will or can do?

Most Muslims in the UK have roots in, Pakistan, Bangladesh, parts of India. People from these countries started to arrive between the 1950's and 1980's. This was post-empire/Commonwealth migration. If you like, its the direct result of our hugely wealthy empire. The asylum seekers in boats are used as the focus of political positioning today, but they are a teeny fraction of net migration. The real focus of discontent seems to be the exsisting muslim population but a large proportion are UK born descendants of earlier arrivals, this is who makes up the majority of the Muslim population. So in practical terms what do voters think Reform will do?

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 11:45

Octavia64 · 08/05/2026 11:41

I live in what has historically been a very rural and fairly poor area, in a small market town.

there’s people who have lived here their whole lives and still have opinions about eg Fred from number 62 based on something he said in 1977. Not joking.

in the last 20 years loads and loads of housing estates have been built and the town has really changed in character. Previous to this it was pretty much 100% white British.

I moved here three years ago. There are six Christian churches of various denominations plus the Nigerian Christians rent a room in one of the halls to have their services in. The people here have heard of other religions and I did once see a lady in a headscarf walking down the street but by and large they don’t know any Muslims, Jews, Buddhists, Hindus or any other religion. There’s plenty of people now who are Eastern European or African but they are largely Christian.

the people who live here are aware that if you fly the English flag (and quite a few of them do have flagpoles and fly various flags including Ukraine, football clubs etc) it’s considered not ok. They know that there’s been a media furore over flying British/English flags on lampposts. They aren’t quite sure why that is but they are fully aware that (from their perspective) a lot of people hate the English flag and you’ll get a lot of online hate for flying it.

there’s one trans bloke in the town. He was born here and has lived here for sixty years. He’s had mental health problems all his life. He’s in social housing and lives on benefits. He spends most of his time going to the various coffee mornings the various churches run and complaining about how hard it is to find clothes that fit him. He wears an ill-fitting assortment of dresses (usually two or three at once) that he buys from charity shops.

again, the people that live here mostly think he’s mad. But they know (again from their perspective media) that these days if someone who is clearly a man and has been a man all his life wants to say he is a woman you aren’t allowed to argue with him. So everyone pretty much ignores him unless he’s drunk in the high street again and shouting at random passers by.

so what people see is that these days there is stuff you aren’t allowed to do and stuff you aren’t allowed to say and there seems to be no real reason why you aren’t allowed to do it and say it except that it might upset people.

and frankly most of the people in my town think that trans bloke would be better served by some actual MH treatment and stopping drinking rather than not being allowed to say to him that he’s a bloke.

You’ve got a lot of information about the population’s views in the three years you’ve lived there. And weirdly they’re all the same. They all ‘know’ they can’t tell a trans woman she’s not a woman (but have no diversity of view on that themselves), can’t fly flags without disapproval (though strangely none seem to know that tying shit to lampposts is not allowed regardless if it’s a flag, a t shirt or a banner advertising a new butchers).

It must be a very boring and annoying place to live, everyone having the same media received opinions, and saying them out loud all the time.

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:47

If you've got an issue with parking in your town, your issue is with the council, not the Muslims. If you're voting for Reform because they will do something about the Muslims, rather than the parking - that is the root of the stupidity.

I hope that clears it up.

ForWittyTealOP · 08/05/2026 11:47

InterIgnis · 08/05/2026 11:43

Which famously always works. At least it does if your desired outcome is for people to double down on their position. So then what?

There’s a difference between being right, and being able to sell your position. If you cannot do the latter, then you’re destined to fail.

There’s an emotional element to politics that should not be overlooked, that cannot be lectured into insignificance. Populist parties understand this, and are best placed to exploit it in times of wider instability.

Whether it’s true or not, there’s large number of people that feel they have been patronized, shouted down when people do bother to address them, and otherwise outright ignored. Unsurprisingly they have become increasingly angry and resentful of this, and will not listen to those that do not listen to them.

Yes I feel like I've been patronised and shouted down a lot. Usually by people voting for harmful parties and ideologies who refuse to/can't explain why and who have a variety of sadly banal and puerile descriptors of my political stance. Remoaner, libtard, woke lefty public sector worker.... All I'm trying to do is stand up against hatred and division and these people refuse to leave me in peace!

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:48

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:47

If you've got an issue with parking in your town, your issue is with the council, not the Muslims. If you're voting for Reform because they will do something about the Muslims, rather than the parking - that is the root of the stupidity.

I hope that clears it up.

Well the issues didn’t exist until the mosque islamic education centre was there 🤷‍♀️

Monty36 · 08/05/2026 11:48

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 11:40

They suffered to enable us the choice. Choosing not to vote is a political decision, even if the person choosing doesn’t see that way.

Not wanting to start a debate but I really disagree. I think it is bailing out.

If you hate all those on offer then stand yourself. Or vote for the least worst. Or spoil your ballot. But not voting is almost saying you don’t care. And are not interested. That your vote is not something you value.

CissyHoustonJustDontKnowWhattodoWithMyselfNSOUL · 08/05/2026 11:50

usedtobeaylis · 08/05/2026 11:37

What a pile of absolute fucking pish 😂

Muslims causing traffic, Muslims standing outside a building.

And people are arguing that this shit isn't stupid?

The racist pish is not much different to the rhetoric of the National Front,BNP,C18 from the 70s to the 90s.
It was paper sales and stickers used to spread the message.
Now it's online the message reaches more people.
Methods change.
The message is always the same.

ForWittyTealOP · 08/05/2026 11:50

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:43

And its exactly attitudes just like yours that are causing people to vote reform or restore etc! Where do you get off telling people what they are experiencing isn’t true?

Isn't it more likely that people are turning to the far right because others, like you, are telling them that Muslims are threatening, frightening and behave in antisocial ways? You're indulging in a bit of folk devilry there.

AliceandOscar · 08/05/2026 11:54

I’m old and see this so many times, people just use these elections as protest votes, as they don’t think they mean anything and I see the press the day after each time saying this means Reform, Green Party, Liberals etc are within reach of winning the next election. Come the next election and all this fuss was just hot air and people vote for the comfortable safe option. Plus if you start looking results, very few of these wins were runaway huge numbers, reforms voter going out to vote, others staying at home.
its the same as it ever was

sweetgingercat · 08/05/2026 11:54

@Veiledveritas interesting choice of user name....

I don't think you could say that reform are smashing it. They are doing well, but not as well as they did in council elections last year, which is interesting... election observers have long been saying they have passed their peak.

I don't despise a single reform voter. We all have the freedom to vote for who we want to and long may that continue.

I do, however, despise the reform party, for its racism, its poorly thought out policies and its duplicitous leader, Nigel Farage. If reform get in at the General Election, then I believe we will suffer, much like many of the local councils controlled by reform are already suffering and like the Americans are suffering under Nigel's mate Donald.

ElectoralControversy · 08/05/2026 11:55

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:48

Well the issues didn’t exist until the mosque islamic education centre was there 🤷‍♀️

If someone had opened a yoga centre in that building and caused the same problems, would you be voting for a party that wanted to deport all yoga instructors?
Or would you be looking for another solution to the problem?

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:55

CissyHoustonJustDontKnowWhattodoWithMyselfNSOUL · 08/05/2026 11:50

The racist pish is not much different to the rhetoric of the National Front,BNP,C18 from the 70s to the 90s.
It was paper sales and stickers used to spread the message.
Now it's online the message reaches more people.
Methods change.
The message is always the same.

You do realise that automatically labelling people you disagree with as a racist no longer has the desired effect? It doesn’t shut us up because its nothing to do with race and everything to do with incompatibility and the pace of the changes being to fast!

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:57

ElectoralControversy · 08/05/2026 11:55

If someone had opened a yoga centre in that building and caused the same problems, would you be voting for a party that wanted to deport all yoga instructors?
Or would you be looking for another solution to the problem?

Well i doubt they would have been able to open a yoga centre there because they wouldn’t get planning permission, and the wouldn’t wilfully circumvent planning permission knowing full well they would scream racism if they got pulled up on it!

ForWittyTealOP · 08/05/2026 11:58

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:55

You do realise that automatically labelling people you disagree with as a racist no longer has the desired effect? It doesn’t shut us up because its nothing to do with race and everything to do with incompatibility and the pace of the changes being to fast!

Oh nothing shuts you up!

Some of us remember the NF and the BNP. It would have been absolute shame and disgrace to admit supporting them back then. Now people are so vocal about their prejudice and willingness to harm others. How did it happen?

Allisnotlost1 · 08/05/2026 11:59

rememberingthem · 08/05/2026 11:43

And its exactly attitudes just like yours that are causing people to vote reform or restore etc! Where do you get off telling people what they are experiencing isn’t true?

Oh come on, the pp complained about ‘islamification’ and then listed bad parking and littering as examples of it. If someone else pointing out that parking and littering are nothing to do with Islam pushes someone into voting for anyone at all then the voter is probably not the full ticket. And as for being called stupid being some kind of vector for voting Reform: I remember the day after the Brexit vote, Nigel Farage being interviewed and clearly reneging on the ‘350m a week for the NHS claim’. The BBC interviewed a woman who explained she’d voted Leave because she’d seen her mum struggle with illness and she wanted to see more money in the NHS. The interviewer told her what Farage had said and her face fell. But she carried on ‘well hopefully it will still help’. He is a liar, and a charlatan.

I don’t think all Reform voters are stupid, but I’d bet my house Farage does. He is taking people for mugs as he has all through his political career.

NeuroticGingerCat · 08/05/2026 11:59

YANBU
I haven't been on for a while but I did find the feminism board a little more in touch with reality- mainly because the trans issue proved an eye opener to other problems that the chattering classes prefer to ignore.
But radical Islam and the plight of the white working class is often better understood and discussed on that board.
As for anti-Semitism- or at the very least the appalling tendency to minimise what's been happening to Jews over the last couple of years- that's been alive and well on the general boards.
So, so disgusted by the useful idiot posters.
I really hope the tide is turning.

edited to add- yes, you're right- we're all in our social echo chambers somewhat- and mumnset is largely a very middle class, lefty cohort- and it takes a fair bit of awareness to consider just how things might be for those on the opposing side. We need a dose of humility and genuine empathy- not the suicidal, virtue signalling kind.

lonelyplanetmum · 08/05/2026 11:59

Hey that reference to the National Front has given me a glimmer of hope. They had similar views, gained momentum and then lost it... the same can happen with Reform. The National Front didn’t just fade away though they were constantly fighting among themselves, that is likely to happen with Reform, in fact it already has. Also though there was a sort of younger person's cultural rejection of it all. Plus of course Thatcher did adopt a tougher anti -immigration rhetoric, which pulled voters back to mainstream parties.

Slowdownyouredoingfine · 08/05/2026 11:59

Many people who voted for Brexit said one of their main motivations was to regain greater control over immigration policy, rather than opposition to immigration itself. Since then, while immigration from the EU has fallen, overall migration has remained high due to increased arrivals from outside the EU.

For some people, this has contributed to concerns about pressure on public services such as GP appointments, NHS waiting times, housing, and infrastructure. As a result, immigration has remained a significant political issue, and this dissatisfaction has influenced support for parties such as Reform UK.

TheLandlordsAreFrowning · 08/05/2026 12:00

ForWittyTealOP · 08/05/2026 11:58

Oh nothing shuts you up!

Some of us remember the NF and the BNP. It would have been absolute shame and disgrace to admit supporting them back then. Now people are so vocal about their prejudice and willingness to harm others. How did it happen?

14 years of austerity which is of course the fault of Muslims and immigrants?

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