Am I being harsh to finish with my date over his ‘home cooked’ dinner?

[WeeksJa]

I’ve had a few dates with a man over the last couple of months, and he invited me over to his last night for what he promised would be a ‘home cooked’ dinner. He knows I like my food and eat healthily/well.

This is what he served up:

Starter - Gyoza’s from the supermarket
Dinner - Curry; one of those kits where you fry off the spices and add provided sauce etc
Desert - chocolate brownie (supermarket purchased)

It just felt a bit…low effort. Not what I’d describe as ‘home cooked’.

My friends are divided - a couple say to finish it, a couple say to give him the benefit of the doubt, feedback my disappointment and see if he can redeem himself.

Thoughts welcome!

Ah, I've just realised who you are.

Given OP says she eats healthily, I gave her the credit of having the nous to say whether the meal included something like broccoli or not. It’s common sense.

95% think she’s unreasonable.

She finishes with him anyway.

What was the point? This must be a piss take.

Good for you, I have no idea who you are.

From one imaginary man to another 😂

I once worked with someone who said she had high standards. She had a list of 10 things every man must do/ say/ be! I suggested that maybe 6-7 things off her list would be good but she disagreed! 15 years later she’s still alone and looking for that particular glittery, diamond encrusted unicorn at the end of the rainbow/ behind the bin/ under a sticky table in a pub!!

Would ‘crap’ from M&S have been any better?
Or are you just being a snob about his supermarket of choice?

Absolutely this.

You sound like a diva.

Same here. We always use jars for curry. Also both perfectly capable of creating a balanced and healthy meal with whatever is in the fridge.

You haven't mentioned misogyny yet, your favourite buzz word!

Haven't read any of the thread so shoot me if I'm now speaking out of turn...but to me oven-ready supermarket food and meal kits are not 'home cooked food'.
I'd be a bit worried that he thinks it is.

Good, keep showing examples of your snobbishness. Why is Lidl food crap- because it's not expensive?

Exactly!! 👏

So he can’t cook? I have the most incredible husband who can’t cook but does everything else! I cook.. so what?

Is it diva behaviour to expect basic life skills from an adult?

Yeah this would not impress me either.DH cooked for me at this stage but properly - did a roast from scratch.

Because it tastes like crap.

HTH

nomas will be along in a minute to tell you you're wrong and then report your comment if you dare to disagree with her 😛.

Not everyone wants to do 100% of the cooking in a relationship.

I think you're getting a harsh time. Food and attitudes to food are important in a relationship and it's good to be on the same page. I couldn't have a relationship with someone who was a very picky eater and didn't eat a wide range of cuisines. However it's hard to judge him on one meal plus generally I think you need to know how this sits in context. I'd be inclined to see what his attitudes to food are - does he eat a wide range or cuisines and does he like good food but maybe can't cook or hasn't learned to.

Eh? Why do my onions, broccoli, cauliflower, steak and cream that I bought from Lidl today taste like crap? I’m currently making myself a lovely dinner.

Would it have tasted better if I’d got them from Waitrose?

It's not understanding how to use commas correctly that would have me running for the hills.

Can you quote where I have told a single person they’re wrong?

A difference of opinion and preference doesn’t have to be so dramatic that people are calling me a sock for the OP.

Anyway, I’m off to cook dinner so enjoy the rest of the thread.

It was at his home and he cooked for you. If you want a gourmet chef, you probably need to amend your OLD profile to specify this