Am I being harsh to finish with my date over his ‘home cooked’ dinner?

[WeeksJa]

I’ve had a few dates with a man over the last couple of months, and he invited me over to his last night for what he promised would be a ‘home cooked’ dinner. He knows I like my food and eat healthily/well.

This is what he served up:

Starter - Gyoza’s from the supermarket
Dinner - Curry; one of those kits where you fry off the spices and add provided sauce etc
Desert - chocolate brownie (supermarket purchased)

It just felt a bit…low effort. Not what I’d describe as ‘home cooked’.

My friends are divided - a couple say to finish it, a couple say to give him the benefit of the doubt, feedback my disappointment and see if he can redeem himself.

Thoughts welcome!

Sex as a reward? Boke.

Standards 😆
Dear God.

Yuck

My ghastly awful ex is a brilliant cook. And a snob. Maybe OP should get together with him.

Using sex as a reward is a major red flag. Just saying …

Poor bugger, what did you want?
For him to go and slaughter his own meat, make pastry from scratch, whip up a soufflé?
He bought food, cooked it at home 🤣🤣

Who said it needed to be a detailed menu? He decided the menu, i doubt the op stated this was what she wanted. If this is him making an effort then they just aren't on the same page in one of life's basics. He didn't need to make gyozas from scratch or fry and simmer spices but if this is his idea of an effort over food they just aren't compatible.

Arrange a joint cooking class for the next date? Could be fun and then you’ll see whether he can cook but didn’t bother for you, or whether he is just genuinely useless but up for making the effort of learning new things.

‘Reward’? Fucking hell.

Definitely split from him - nobody needs a girlfriend who gives sex as a ‘reward’. Nobody is that good a shag.

I use 'those kits' a lot because I love Thai food but it's expensive to buy and I don't know enough about it to cook it from scratch.

If you were all that unhappy with the food he made, then yes, finish with him. You'll be doing both of you a favour.

What a pity that you see sex as a bargaining tool. That speaks volumes.

Poor guy thought he was enjoying a meal with a woman and there was mutual attraction, not on come dine with me.

This is one of those rare threads where a lot of people are on the side of the man - that shows how unreasonable you are being 🤣

That’s really icky, that you see sex like that. Really properly disturbing.

Wow, you sound really stuck up. Nothing wrong with that dinner, especially if he’s not that great/experienced at cooking. I use those spice packets for curries quite a lot! Not many people cook everything from scratch these days - if you do then good for you, but good luck finding a man who does…

I’d not be impressed if that was sold to me as ‘home cooked’. If he said ‘come over for something to eat’ I’d be ok with it.
It's clear on this thread that the bar is very low for men’s cooking skills….along with a few other skills too. Depends what you want to compromise on.

He could take umbrage at your inability to use apostrophes correctly and chuck you first.

Maybe Gregggg Wallace might be back on the market soon?

I think you are expecting too much. He cooked the main dish from scratch, even if he didn't grow the cumin seeds himself.

Maybe he was nervous...either way, chuck him back. He deserves better than your superior tastebuds.

Slow bank holiday for you OP?

My DH is Italian. First time back at mine, I offered to cook him some spaghetti.

His face when I cracked open the tin of Heinz spaghetti was a picture! Thankfully, he's not you, and married me. I learned to make sugo from scratch.

Nothing wrong with raw mushrooms in a salad. 🤷‍♀️

So, what are you bringing to the table in this relationship?
You must be a supermodel to finish it over this!
He deserves better.

this is all very childish. Is he stupid, is he immature, is he stingy...what cooking has to do with breaking up

are you an amazing devoted cook, OP? Do you eat your own home cooked food every day from scratch? Are you capable of making gyoza from scratch?

lol you think finding your true love and a forever relationship is dependable on how he cooks curry 🤣. Sorry I find it a bit silly . But yes I think you should I end things now as you clearly have no interest in him or this wouldn’t be something that awful .