AIBU to think children should not be taken shopping in pyjamas?

[NoahVale]

what is the craze for taking y our young dc to the shops in their pyjamas?
bad enough that they drive there but walking down the high street in pyjamas,
it looks appalling.
i just saw a man going past my house, he had been to the shops, and i thought, i bet he didnt wash before he went to the shops, next thing a woman coming up the road with 3 dc in their pjyamas

Why are you on such a forum ?

I live smack between two massive council estates and my children’s school is in the middle of one of them.

Yes, it’s like a uniform!

And I often find on mumsnet, that only people who don’t live on or very close to council estates are the only ones who get offended when we say things like that about them. It’s just reality.

Neither of those scenarios are the same as whole families in pyjamas and grubby bedroom slippers mooching round Tesco's though. The early dog- walkers are going out solo first thing before washing and getting ready for their day.

I agree OP it's grim.
I will always judge people in public in pyjamas. You gonna walk around in grubby public places and then climb into bed with those same PJ's.Or get up after sleeping all night and not even throw on clean underwear before you go out. 🤮
Takes a few seconds to throw on a tracksuit.
Pure laziness.

I can’t stand it as it takes 1 minute to get dressed. Yes, I do judge and i’d expected to have been judged if I ever took my kids out in their Pj’s, which I never did.

Im in PJs right now.
I dont get why other peoples lifes have anything to do with the next.

Exactly! That's a good point about getting grubby outside and then getting into bed.

But are you in the middle of Tesco?
If so, I'm judging.
If you're in your house, I'm just envious.

If you worried for hygiene reasons, it is washing when you come back from the shops that matters, not before you go there, but if you are concerned about manners, you are absolutely right, it is Slobs-ville where I live too. Mind you, I see grown-ups in pyjamas in our locals shops, unfortunately. Slobs the lot of them, bringing up little slobs.

So am I.

But I am having a very, very lazy day as dh and the in-laws have taken the children and the dog out all day so I am gloriously alone to do as I please. I had a shower and put clean PJs on as they are comfortable (I will change them before bed tonight though).

But I’m am not leaving the house today.

If for some reason I did have to run out to the shop, even if it’s only across the street, I would go and chuck on a pair of jeans and a hoody as I wouldn’t want to run across the road in what I’m wearing now (shorts style pjs).

No OP doesn't. What other people do in public affects us all, and we all know that.

OP, three quarters of the vote agrees with you. I can't believe there are people who think this is OK behaviour. Yes, in an emergency you might take your children out in pjs, but not as a matter of course unless your personal habits are...a bit yuk. I bet they're not special, clean, freshly put-on pjs...and I bet most people don't shower before going out in them.

PJs count as underwear...or at least 'home-wear' and I (and 73% of people on this thread don't want to see them, thanks.

What you wear isn't just your business - it impacts others and to deny that is silly and dishonest.

Yes- slobs are always with us, it seems. But they don't like being called out, do they?

Completely agree. You see it at the airport as well although I have more understanding for that.

There’s something really horrible about people going outside in pyjamas - I remember years ago a friend of mine saying she’d never live in (insert historically deprived area of London) because it was the kind of place where you saw mentally ill people wandering round in their pyjamas in the daytime, and I think that nails it. Given that this was someone who at the time lived and taught in Newham, this was pretty damning!

No but there’s more chance that they have washed.

LeftBoobGoneRogue · Today 13:55
CanTheWorldSlowDownPlease · Today 09:10
We regularly do the breakfast run in pyjamas! Also, just because people are dressed, does not mean they have washed!
No but there’s more chance that they have washed.

CantheWorld - what do you mean by the breakfast run?? Is it a thing?

Some folks standards are so low.

no its neglect. if you can't be arsed to clothe your kid what's next

It's just people pretending that they're purer than the driven snow and never ever judge anyone for anything. All behaviour posted about on here is usually put down to 'only seeing a snapshot of that persons day'. Has that been trotted out yet?

Im not sure that not giving a fuck what people do is necessarily a good thing.

I dont give a fuck what strangers do. Or acquaintances for that matter. Or friends if im being honest.

If it doesn't affect me, I dont care. Exceptions being child abuse, animal abuse etc. Things that actually matter.

I dnt really think it makes you a saint to admit you just dont care enough about your fellow man to give a shit about them, anything they do or shit like what they wear.

You have to care to judge. If you dont care then you dont judge. Because they dont matter. You're barely even aware of them, let alone interested in anything about them

It’s the dressing gown and slippers for me. If you feel you need an outer layer to go outside, how is a coat designed for that purpose more effort than a dressing gown?
If you need footwear to go outside, why not put on shoes designed for that purpose?

Is it because you would then be admitting that you’re only wearing pyjamas outside because you can’t be arsed to get changed, rather than, “It’s all clothes, there’s no difference…” Because slippers are not the same as shoes.

It's because it's children

Adults wearing pyjamas outside is different to young children.

I thought this until I had DS who has autism and some sensory issues. Sometimes if I need to pop to the shops it’s better to let him wear his jammies with pants under them (total time less than one hour) than to have a battle to get him dressed (upwards of two hours sometimes). I make him get dressed when we go out and when we are doing most things, but just to nip to Aldi it’s really not worth stressing him out.

DS isn’t even that high support needs (verbal, in mainstream school, no PDA) so I imagine it’s much more of a struggle for parents with multiple SEN kids or kids with more complex needs.

I don't see the issue at all, PJ's are just a tshirt or long sleeved top and cotton trousers. It's definitely not underwear unless you're going out in a negligee and it's not hurting or impacting anyone else in any way, why on earth is it a problem?

I took DS out in baby grows all the time when he was a baby, some people don't like that either apparently because it's not the right clothes because they are sometimes called sleep suits.

When there are so many awful things that people do to their kids, not to mention all the 'far from ideal' things people do - really this comes way, way down on the list for me. If those kids are loved, encouraged and supported I really couldn't care less.

My kid who lived in 'sleep suits' is now working as a software engineer and wears hoodies and tshirts all day at work. Thankfully he is judged on his performance not on something as shallow as how smart he looks.

To answer some of the questions. I have neither the time or inclination to reply to them all
separately.
No, I do not go out in pyjamas. I don’t even own pyjamas.
I think there are better things to do than stand at my window judging people who are getting on with their day.
Why am I on this forum? I ask myself the same thing on the days I stumble upon it. Usually it’s just for entertainment value. But, quite right, I think I’ll refrain going forward. There are even more judgy cunts on here than there are in real life.
Just because I think that the demise in society will not be down to folk nipping for a pint of milk in loungewear, doesn’t mean I’m a slovenly slutter.
My mother stands at her window and is incredibly pass-remarkable. I hope I always have a fulfilling life that saves me from such an existence.

I had day pyjamas for a long time, never lived on a council estate. I had cats and didn't want them clawing at or shedding hair over decent clothes.

When DS was a toddler he sometimes wore what were technically pyjamas put, but that was because some of them were too cute to only be worn in bed.