AIBU to think children should not be taken shopping in pyjamas?

[NoahVale]

what is the craze for taking y our young dc to the shops in their pyjamas?
bad enough that they drive there but walking down the high street in pyjamas,
it looks appalling.
i just saw a man going past my house, he had been to the shops, and i thought, i bet he didnt wash before he went to the shops, next thing a woman coming up the road with 3 dc in their pjyamas

Some people really like pyjamas. Our local Sure Start parents line up everyday in their daytime pyjamas to collect their DC in the afternoon.

I agree. When I see adults and kids out in pyjamas I just think lazy and unhygienic.

When I was a kid, the only people we saw in nightclothes in the street were escapees from the local psychiatric hospital.

After I get out of my sleeping pyjamas and have a shower, I’d normally then put on a clean pair of “house pyjamas” 🤓🫣 which is probably a pair of actual pyjamas that hasn’t been slept in 🫣😬

I think you’re wrong, but you think I’m wrong so 🤷‍♀️

My two neurodivergent children and I live in pyjamas whenever we can. I get dressed to do the school run and then change back into pyjamas as soon as I get home. I feel uncomfortable in outdoor clothes in the house and, if I’m honest, I’ve become germ phobic since the pandemic. My AD2(10) is autistic and has sensory issues so clothes are a nightmare for her. I invest in decent pyjamas and robes (mine are from Toast!) so I feel like our lounge wear is up to standard. We also do the pyjamas and oodie thing after swimming lessons and leisure swimming, as well as some late-night activities. AD2 has gone round to play with a neighbour’s children wearing a clean pair of M&S Wicked pjs and a clean Lilo & Stitch oodie. When I see the state of some people’s outdoor clothes (scrunch bum leggings or camel-toe leggings), I console myself with the thought that at least we are modest in our clothing choices. Also, I am from Liverpool but don’t live there any more, so it must be in my DNA to not feel shameless about embracing the pyjama culture!

My children are perfectly well cared for thanks.
if my 3 year old enjoys nipping out to the shop in wellies and her PJs on a rainy bank holiday Monday morning to get a chocolate croissant. All that teaches her is that she’s had a nice morning.

thankfully my child has a lovely life, and doesn’t live in your dystopian reality.

It is if people parade it under your nose. That makes it your business. I would no more go out in public in my pyjamas than I would sit in a train putting my makeup on. I prefer to display only the finished me outside my home.

Another point about pyjamas: they're what you wear in your clean bed. Why would you want them exposed to pollution or street dirt if you're going to be wearing them in bed?

How can anyone help seeing this sort of thing, and finding it frankly pretty awful? A very old fashioned word would do nicely here - ‘slovenly’ - once used a lot by a primary teacher of mine!

I live opposite a shop and a takeaway with a massive council estate surrounding them. A LOT of people walk around in nightwear and dressing gowns here.

DDs school have to send out repeated emails before parents evenings asking parents not to come in nightwear (or in summer, asking the dads not to come topless).

It’s the norm in the shithole I live in.

I had no idea that having a basic level of self respect was dystopian 😅

It’s dystopian that a healthy, happy, well cared for 3 year old child can’t leave their house in PJs without being called neglected and lacking self respect

Lounge wear is fine, @ThePieceHall and I don't think that's what people are talking about.
I hear you with the ND children and clothing. My DS was the same, so I got very soft joggers and sweatshirts, washed in Fairy conditioner and he was ok with those. Later on I bought those lightweight outdoor trousers people wear for hiking - you could try those when they're teens. I did insist he got out of the pyjamas each day, but like yours, he found hoodies comforting.
He's now an adult, wears suits, jeans and shirts, if that helps! 🌸

What a massive leap! Clearly someone's pissed on your cornflakes this morning!
You have no idea what about me or my life but judge away, keyboard warrior!

Honestly a lot of the time how do you even tell the difference? My daughter has various loungewear things I think look like PJs and PJ sets that look basically identical to yoga pants and t-shirts.
I also know some people who get super cold who wear oodies over jumpers sometimes. I guess because they already have the oodie and it works for a dual purpose. It’s much like I wear my dry robe as a coat (which also irrationally infuriates people)

Dystopian?!?

The PP was factually pointing out the point of the different clothes we need for different circumstances and situations. Nothing dystopian there - just common sense.

Boundaries as well. What’s ok in a nightclub definitely not ok at a job interview. What you wear on a beach not ok for parents evening at school. Get it?

What’s the breakfast run?

@CanTheWorldSlowDownPlease

also, do you run in pyjamas? Seems a bit weird

People who have enough money to go out for breakfast regularly rather than eat it at home?

I venture, my darling, that you are neither as intelligent or capable as you think you are.

You write in a convoluted, disjointed and verbose style, peppered with pseudo psychology and the content itself lacks coherence.

I am not surprised that you are a poor defender of this type of behaviour. You write-and no doubt behave-as someone who is beneath my notice and, after this, you will be.

That’s being disgusting, not wearing pyjamas!

No I don’t get it. I don’t “get” that 3 yr old child nipping to the corner shop in PJs means their parents neglect them and aren’t teaching them self respect.

Sometimes you can't tell clothes from pyjamas!

DD bought some blue trousers with a white stripe.... I refer to them as her "boy in the striped pyjamas" trousers. She's 15 & just rolls her eyes at me because I apparently know nothing.

Also, co-ord sets, as someone else has mentioned, are definitely bringing the pyjama vibe.

This is just nonsense. Those are your personal standards, they're not universal.

And yet, despite being beneath your notice, you have noticed, read, ruminated and commented. So you are at best inaccurate

Pyjamas are bits of fabric, that cover your body, the same as any other clothes. They tell you absolutely nothing about the wearer - nothing.