AIBU to think children should not be taken shopping in pyjamas?

[NoahVale]

what is the craze for taking y our young dc to the shops in their pyjamas?
bad enough that they drive there but walking down the high street in pyjamas,
it looks appalling.
i just saw a man going past my house, he had been to the shops, and i thought, i bet he didnt wash before he went to the shops, next thing a woman coming up the road with 3 dc in their pjyamas

You have been the first person on this thread to mention the word 'neglect',. Is that what you think when you see children in nightwear outdoors? I wouldn't say neglect but I would say if it's done frequently it sets a bad example of self care and just generally taking more care when going outdoors. Weather, hazards on the road etc etc.
Oh and 3 year olds are very smart. The fact they are young does not stop them soaking up everything demonstrated to them, whether explicit or implied. Also, a chocolate crossaint is way too much sugar for such a young child but that's a problem for another thread.

where I live it’s very common to see certain nationality ( not all ) walking the streets and heading to supermarkets like Lidl in a dressing gown , pj’s etc I don’t understand why 🤷‍♀️
When my dc were younger they always got changed into a onsie after swimming lessons for ease though.

Yes but I’ve been told off for saying some people are disgusting for not treating their kids lice or washing their clothes.
But it’s fine to moan about people wearing clean pjs?

What I want to know is how people can tell the difference between t shirt and leggings and pyjamas.

Right, I would say that it's neglectful to have your child in filthy clothes and not treat lice, and that's hardly controversial.

You have told people In real life that they are “disgusting” ? Or on mumsnet ?

They do look very different, in all honesty. However, nowadays daytime clothes are far more comfortable. Better fabrics, loose waistlines, stretch. So it's not as if there's no alternative to pyjamas, comfort wise.
T-Shirts and leggings being a case in point.

Much thinner material? Look as if they'd been slept in?

Tbh, whilst I love clothes and looking at what people wear, it's at outfits I like. T shirt and leggings aren't a way of dressing that I'd look at.

I’m not the first person on this thread to mention neglectful.
where does hazards on the road come into this?!

I also don’t need to be told how to parent my three year old or how clever she is.

why don’t you stop being judgemental and I’m sure you’d be a happier and nicer person to engage with

Where I live adults shop in Tesco in their PJs. Very odd.

No. I remember a girl at my school who came in a nightie once. It was indicative that her home life was disorganised. The nuns took a very dim view of it. All the children felt sorry for her.

No. Teach your children getting dressed at the start of the day is normal. Please.

Well yesterday three very glamorously made up make up wise young women were in the pub in what looked like pjs to me, apparently they are called Co Ords but they were just like traditional pyjamas. Lots of girls there had ords on too and they are so pyjama esk.

Never seen a child shopping in pyjamas tbh - if I did I would give the parents the benefit of the doubt - maybe the kids had refused to get dressed because they didn’t want to go shopping and going in pyjamas was a natural consequence

Essex? Liverpool?

yeh see I won’t deny I have been in shops with my children in pyjamas before.

2 main reasons I do so

swimming nights - they get changed in to pyjamas from swimming costume and we go to the supermarket on way home to grab a snacky dinner.

weekend food shop ( I have 4 kids ) and organising life after being widowed. Our large supermarket is 24/7 and I work long hours. I often bath the children get them ready for bed and go to the supermarket as last as possible as it’s quieter. Come home do bedtime.

I do not really mind people judging - I do what’s right for my family.

But why ?

There’s a sign post in a nearby Tesco about dress code (it has a cafe), no pjs, dressing gowns, no naked chest/topless. It’s surrounded by various tenement flats from bedsit to luxury. The residents appear to all have the same dress code to nip out for milk and bread.

After working in retail for 40 years my disgust was workmen particularly calling in wearing shorts, boots and hard hats, stinking of BO wearing no shirt. I really didn’t want to see beer belly, hair nipples.
Actually stripy flannel shirt would be more acceptable than that.

What a stupid question!

Reminds me of Wayne and Waynette Slob. Lazy and chavvy.

I was recently in hospital and had run out of clean pjs and had no one to get any for me. The hospital was just down the road from the supermarket. I got an uber down, bought some new pjs and then uber back up. Needs must. I didn't have any regular clothes with me as I had been taken into hospital in pjs so had no other clothes to change into.

I think that's an extreme case and an exception! What a shame you had to do this as an in- patient. Didn't they have any hospital pyjamas available?

This was the only time I did it as DC would sometimes sleep in the car and could go straight to bed.

I have sometimes had to compromise with my children to get them out the house to do errands (like food shopping). “Yes you can wear your swimming shorts and googles” as toddlers, “wear your wellies then” on the hottest day of the year.
More recently I’ve had to compromise with my 11 year old (autistic) as he refuses to leave the house in anything other than a giant snuddie type deal. It gets washed and dried at night then he puts it back on with joggers. It’s his safe piece of clothing currently and that helps knowing I don’t have to wrestle him into “normal” clothes just so I can buy some food.

Do you live in a council estate? I do and it's almost a uniform here.

Happens all over the town where I live. Adult women in the supermarket in pj's, dressing gowns, fluffy slippers, also those long plastic fingernails and monstrous false eyelashes. The pjs are smart, though, unlike mine!
I don't get it.