AIBU to think children should not be taken shopping in pyjamas?

[NoahVale]

what is the craze for taking y our young dc to the shops in their pyjamas?
bad enough that they drive there but walking down the high street in pyjamas,
it looks appalling.
i just saw a man going past my house, he had been to the shops, and i thought, i bet he didnt wash before he went to the shops, next thing a woman coming up the road with 3 dc in their pjyamas

DH once sent DD to nursery in pjs... to be fair to him he was on a rush to get to work and picked up the first thing he found, it was only after I picked her up pointed out the picture the front that he realised (they were clean)

DS had some pj sets that quite honestly could be either/or - not obviously pjs but looser and more comfy than clothes. Great as a baby/toddler and just wanted to be comfy.

I did indeed. You said you see this at all times of day and even people driving by.

I take from this that you are at your window at all times of day and can see through the bodywork of cars.

Get yourself a hobby that’s that engrossing that you don’t notice what other people are doing that doesn’t affect you. Honestly, it’ll change your life. 🩷

What is the breakfast run?

There's an older teenager who lives near me who regularly wears her rollers to school on a Friday. I've also witnessed women wearing rollers to the football on a Saturday afternoon. Good for them, saves them rushing about afterwards trying to get ready to go out. It affects absolutely nobody.

How judgmental. Does it really bother you to see small kids in PJs? Do you have kids? Sometimes it really is pick your battles, especially with small kids. And also, as someone who has kids (now teens) and remembers the small kid era, I always try to give parents the benefit of the doubt

people walking their dogs in their pyjamas?
i have seen that recently, she wasnt walking, just loitering around the car park waiting for her dog to do its business
i am embarrassed going to the bin in my dressing gown - people seem to very different standards

i have not seen anyway actually taking their dog for a walk while wearing pyjamas and i think that is quite unlikely

I do think that basic self care and dressing are important for feeling good and when these things slip it's often a sign of mental health issues. Every person is different though and some may simply not benefit as much from these daily acts of self care. What I can't get past is the slippers. Surely the whole point in wearing slippers is that they're exclusively for indoor use and therefore my hygienic. I'm sure a lot of people outside in pyjamas must be wearing outdoor shoes for this reason.

I remember conversations about how terrible it was to have babies in babygros all the time, which never made sense to me. People just like to feel superior, that's literally all it is.

When did it become unfashionable to wash and dress before going out?

No she doesn't.

Do you go shopping in pyjamas, by any chance?

And that’s kind of what I would assume if I saw a child out in their pyjamas, that they’re ill and too poorly to get dressed.

You associate sleepwear with being at home, sleeping, relaxing, being ill, slobbing about.

I would hate for people to assume my child was ill or I was too bone idle to get them dressed.

Everyone saying how comfy they are, yeah, so are leggings and tracksuit bottoms. No one’s expecting the kids to be out in taffeta dresses and knicker bockers, but fuck me, getting dressed when you leave the house is just the real basics of being human.

I think it’s an outward expression of the miserable state of the country. Everyone has some sort of disability, cost of living is through the roof, jobs are scarce, and people increasingly don’t care about their appearance. And to answer those who say it doesn’t matter, yes it does because it reflects their internal state.

yes i remember the guilt of my ds in a babygro after breakfast, a nonsense when they are very young,
but in children you would hope they could actually Get Themselves dressed, and not rely on someone to do it for them.

But this is about kids in PJs

So don't take your rubbish out to the bin in your dressing gown and leave your curtain in it's place instead of twitching it at everyone else 👌

Maybe you haven't seen people walking their dogs in their pyjamas because there is a park to loiter at? A lot of areas don't have and therefore people with dogs.... walk.

Why on earth would you think their home must be a state because they're wearing pyjamas to go shopping? Is there a direct link?
The only time I wore pyjamas out was when we had a pyjama day at nursery. I wasn't intending to go shopping but DH phoned when I was leaving asking me to get some teabags so me and DS went to the shop in our pyjamas.
I was probably judged but I'm at the age now where I don't really care.. Similarly I don't really care what others are wearing, you have no idea what else they are dealing with.

But not everyone needs to get dressed to feel good. I'm a person that doesn't like to lie around in my pyjamas but some people do and for the most part it isn't an indication of anything except that they like to be comfortable.

The associations people are making are the fundamentally judgemental, and based on absolutely nothing.

It started with the onesies craze I think.
But as others have said, being in pyjamas doesn't mean unwashed, at least for kids. You can brush your teeth in pyjamas, and surely you've seen those threads on here about whether to shower before or after bed. I don't think many do both, so at what point are they unwashed?

You communicate your standards to your children in how you treat yourself and them, if you let them go out in their pyjamas you're showing them they don't need to have a standard of self care whereby they wear different clothes for inside and outside for many different reasons including hygiene, comfort, warmth, being waterproof etc etc.
I think a lot of people assume children don't know any better so it won't harm them but actually they are smarter than many people expect and are picking up subtle meanings and learning things like standards all the time.

Those here who claim never to have seen or heard of it must be Waitrose or Ocado shoppers.

Waitrose, M and S, occasionally Sainsbury's and local Tesco express. Never seen this in any of them.

I’m actually quite enjoying it, as the more judgemental they are the more their opinion becomes less valid and they’re just showing themselves to be full of utter nonsense

I actually said that in my post, perhaps not everyone benefits from doing basic self care every day and I'm sure everyone has days where their own standards vary.

Couldn’t agree more

What a complete load of cobblers.
I really can't find the words to respond to your council house jibe shite