@SingedSoul Interestingly, you're dead right. I was indeed badly raised, to be selfish and crass.
But I realised all this, as soon as I was free of that influence and alone in my late teens. Worked on it, I did 😂 ...but importantly, never enough to fully lose the healthy observation skills and mild cynicism that is important to protect us from feeling like we've just paid £750 for a basic hotel room as a captive audience with no choice, kindly used up holiday days, abandoned kids because they aren't welcome, got a new outfit for the obscure "theme", and trekked across dire empty countryside in million-pound taxis to attend someone else's dream.
I love my friends and I do it. But I can voice my stressors, on a public forum.
And I clearly recognise a wedding where hours of boring discomfort are not mitigated by the hosts merely chucking a cheap sweetie stall or a cardboard cut out Instagram booth at the guests, to try and hide that they skimped on making their so called loved ones feel comfortable, whilst choosing weird obscure impossible locations or spending £££ on other less important parts of the do. A do that realistically costs each guest significant time and money to attend.
That's what is crass, not my observations on what is currently provided at 85%+ of all weddings over the past decade. Did your cardboard cutout booth not go down well at your do..? 😘