To hate remote wedding venues with no overnight accommodation at them

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Unless the wedding party provide a coach then it's fine

It's very rude not to consider your guests comfort. When we got married it was based in a city for ease of hotels ect, and we chose a bank holiday weekend, so people had an extra day to get themselves home and sorted for work. We put our guests first tbh, because there's no celebration without family and friends, and that was more important than the location tbh. So personally I wouldn't go to a remote wedding with no accommodation there.

A venue with three or four hotels within three miles and various low cost airbnb options sound fine to me. It's all the examples of venues in locations that are twenty miles from the nearest hotel/no local taxi firms etc that I find surprising,

That will depend on your venue, what else is nearby and potentially what other events are going on.
Three hotels and Air b and b’s in a popular spot at peak time may run out of rooms.

True, but you can speak to those hotels and find out how busy they are likely to be on your dates. You can also ask them to reserve a number of rooms at a special rate that your guests can book direct. I can't get my head round people organising a big event and not doing these type of things to make sure their guests have somewhere to say.

Ironically, I got loads of positive comments about the photos of my city centre wedding. Urban landscapes are amazing for cool pictures. Murals, historic architecture, iconic local buildings etc. I had no interest in a country house/hotel type thing.

@RampantIvyActually it’s not easy at all! We are based in the countryside so nowhere is very handy!

Some venues are conveyor belt weddings. A couple of hotels felt worn out, as did a management college. Some were ultra expensive with no choice for anything much. Well over £70,000. Others are barns in villages and then there’s the odd stately home in a large park! They were not built to be near to towns by and large. If you know guests have good jobs and don’t mind a Travel lodge, they can get themselves to the venue! We decided to ignore a few who might moan and have discovered the vast majority are happy.

The key thing is to know your guests and what they will pay for. The op thinks £15 for breakfast is expensive so she’s not going to find any arrangements to her liking I think. Maybe a local pub would suffice for a burger and knees up? If a couple have less well off friends and relatives but choose a “destination” wedding in the uk or abroad, it cuts down on some guests - but maybe they wanted that?

I would rather a venue without rooms and a Premier Inn or Travelodge in close proximity. I strongly loathe paying £300 for a room at the venue when I'm not going to be IN IT when there's a £30 Premier Inn down the road.

It's probably to reduce the number of rowdy drunk people tbh 😂

Surely you just choose not to attend then? I’m sure the B&G would rather you didn’t bother than have to pay for hosting you when you aren’t going to like it.

My venue didn’t have accommodation, but was only a 2 min drive from the village with at least 3 hotels. People ordered taxis or some people drove as they don’t drink. Was no big drama.

I find this quite strange. 20 years ago, we got married. Not in the middle of nowhere but a farm, 7 mins from fairly large town and 20 from a city. We didnt put on a coach because there were so many different places people may have chosen to stay. Local taxi company was probably a bit overwhelmed but my parents house became a post party venue. My question is people can drive and not drink surely? Or book a taxi, go together with friends for a mini bus. I have done this lots of times without even thinking about it. I kind of feel everyone whether it's the brides, grooms, bridal party or guests have become so entitled. Its a wedding, go, dont go but why complain? Im just delighted to have been invited!

Editing to add, I also only asked friends to a local hen do that was one night and staying in the travel lodge and no particular expectations on guests to wear anything in particular or even much of a colour scheme. Didn't give favours either. Really dont understand those!

We had one such wedding on my husbands side. Lovely small boutique hotel in the middle of nowhere.
I told him crack on, I wasn't going. He declined.

Don’t, one of my oldest and dearest friends is getting married next year, near where they grew up in the UK (easier for their increasingly frail, elderly parents to go, which makes total sense). However, the venue is in the arse end of nowhere, involves an expensive taxi from the train station and back, the hotel at the venue is booked out for immediate family only, and cheaper hotels in the town only a ‘few’ miles away will be offset by the taxi costs, plus the train fare to get there will be nearly £200. Because of the timings it’s a stay two nights event, as I will need recovery time (due to illness, not alcohol!) Luckily it’s a weekend, but as a disabled single parent who can only work part time, it’s screwing me over financially. I wouldn’t miss it for the world, but it means DD and I won’t get a holiday for at least 3 years to pay for it. I’m not going to breathe a word out to my friends, but I wouldn’t go for anyone else.

We had our reception in a hall in The New Forest, bit in the middle of nowhere but it’s where DH family home was, my lot lived about 20 miles away. So it didn’t have public transport, it was where lots of generations of his family had married.

Um, because the travel and taxis and hotel are going to cost a good £700, and my holiday budget is less than a third of that annually, because I am poor?

This is one of the big benefits of not drinking 🤣 we went to a wedding in the next county to ours, about a hour drive. I just drove us home at midnight.

My nephew got married somewhere 3 hours away. There was accommodation within walking distance, but because we paid for our sons and their girlfriends to stay and we all stayed 2 nights, it added £2.5k to the cost of the wedding. We didn’t have much choice.

I'm not rich either. So ,I go if I can, dont go if I can't. I dont think there's much else to do 🤷‍♀️.

I agree. We did something crazy with ours and had it at a convenient location for our friends and family to get to and invited children.

I won’t attend weddings or other events of people I don’t want to make an effort for anyway and close family and friends of mine are more considerate, in fact dsd has been told the contribution from her dad (and mum who suggested it) that the location she chooses must have easy reasonably priced access to accommodation as so many family are out of town

Nope always send apologies for weddings like this. Did for childless wedding once when BIL banned children because he didn't like them.

If you have a wedding like this always check around for other hotels Airbnb for guests. Put a list in with the invite as friends did.

Oh my god you’re all so grumpy! I love a good wedding. Just get an airb&b old r don't go!

Yes we (me DH and our DDs 3 and 1) were recently invited to a wedding so remote we’d have to camp (no, we can’t squeeze you in, but plenty of room for tents!) for several days due to transport links. No option to drive.
we declined as it was just impossible but I’ve been guilt tripped about it since (I’m so disappointed, I guess our friendship doesn’t mean that much after all, etc.)
ive stepped wayyyy back from that friendship 😅

I totally agree. We got married at a slightly out of the way venue. We booked the whole place and paid for everyone’s accommodation. If we couldn't have afforded to do that, we’d have booked somewhere different.

Tents? Did they have facilities for showers and washing even?