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Friend’s awful dress and my reaction

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SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:28

A friend is mine is quite heavily into fashion and spends a lot on clothes. Some of her choices are quite bold and not necessarily what I would pick, but she has a good figure and is quite distinctive looking, so can generally pull off something a bit more “out there”.

However, yesterday she showed me the dress she has spent a fortune on for an event - and it’s hideous. Not “not to my taste” - objectively hideous. And my face reacted before my brain could tell it to keep quiet.

She could tell immediately that I thought it was awful and she looked really upset. She said straight out, “You hate it, don’t you?”, and while I tried to say it just wasn’t my personal cup of tea, it was too late. It was obvious I hated it. I said we all have different tastes, what suits her wouldn’t suit me and that I’ve seen things look amazing on her that I could never wear, but the rest of the evening was really awkward.

I’ve messaged this morning saying I’m sorry if I upset her and that I didn’t mean to, and that she shouldn’t let what I think affect her choice. She hasn’t replied.

How do I fix this? Do I just hope it blows over? I know I should have tried to hide my thoughts, but when she said she’d spent twice what I pay a month for my mortgage, I was expecting something amazing - I just couldn’t hide my reaction when I saw this monstrosity.

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Quokkas · 30/05/2026 18:53

Have you and your friend made up yet, OP? I saw this thread mentioned in the Telegraph - made me giggle!

TinkersBelle · 03/06/2026 09:34

SummerFate · 02/05/2026 15:28

A friend is mine is quite heavily into fashion and spends a lot on clothes. Some of her choices are quite bold and not necessarily what I would pick, but she has a good figure and is quite distinctive looking, so can generally pull off something a bit more “out there”.

However, yesterday she showed me the dress she has spent a fortune on for an event - and it’s hideous. Not “not to my taste” - objectively hideous. And my face reacted before my brain could tell it to keep quiet.

She could tell immediately that I thought it was awful and she looked really upset. She said straight out, “You hate it, don’t you?”, and while I tried to say it just wasn’t my personal cup of tea, it was too late. It was obvious I hated it. I said we all have different tastes, what suits her wouldn’t suit me and that I’ve seen things look amazing on her that I could never wear, but the rest of the evening was really awkward.

I’ve messaged this morning saying I’m sorry if I upset her and that I didn’t mean to, and that she shouldn’t let what I think affect her choice. She hasn’t replied.

How do I fix this? Do I just hope it blows over? I know I should have tried to hide my thoughts, but when she said she’d spent twice what I pay a month for my mortgage, I was expecting something amazing - I just couldn’t hide my reaction when I saw this monstrosity.

Well firstly I want to see this dress! 🫣🥴😆 2nd.. I don’t see any issue with your reaction.. if you are good friends she needs to learn to deal with others not sharing her distinctive tastes. Would she rather you tell her a lie & say you love, it for me I’d rather the truth.. it’s her who will wear it so it shouldn’t really matter to her what others think. Don’t sweat it she’ll get over it & if she doesn’t then she’s got some learning to do.. life isn’t all sweetness & light it’s pretty bloody brutal on times! Reality check right there! 🤷‍♀️
please show us the dress 🫣🤣

BMW58 · 03/06/2026 09:47

TinkersBelle

The OP has already posted a pic of the dress, which you'd have seen if you bothered reading past the first post FFS.

🙄

TinkersBelle · 04/06/2026 09:34

BMW58 · 03/06/2026 09:47

TinkersBelle

The OP has already posted a pic of the dress, which you'd have seen if you bothered reading past the first post FFS.

🙄

Well excuse me! I have chronic health issues & can’t see very well due to limited eyesight! Lucky you for being so bloody perfect!!

latetothefisting · 04/06/2026 10:20

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clearlyy · 04/06/2026 10:59

Fuck me. That dress is certainly a choice. A really bad one. If she opens this thread at least she will know it’s not just you that hates it!

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Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 04/06/2026 12:29

ODFOD with mis-using the name Karen as a vile put down.

MilkyLeonard · 04/06/2026 12:32

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Erm… it was on the second page. A month ago.

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