Is this fair?

[notgivinga]

One of my nieces was getting married later in the summer, but last week it was all called off.
she had a hen party booked abroad and everyone going has paid nearly £300 as a deposit which has now obviously been lost.
she has now written in the group that she is so sorry but they all need to pay a cancellation fee of just under £100.
Do you think this fair. Just as an aside the wedding is off as she was texting other men.
BTW it’s not me going but my daughter

Suppose it would depend on if it was somewhere you had looked forward to going anyway and if you liked the other hens. Also if you had booked time off from work and couldn't change that now.

My thoughts too. Isn't that the idea of a deposit. Anyway, I think the bride should pay as she caused the cancelation. As pp said, it could come out of the wedding fund.

Turmoil of her own doing!! The poor groom investing time and money in someone texting other blocks on the run up to their wedding! No sympathy for her!!

Not a chance I'd pay. She should have thought about that before cheating.

Why on earth was a hen do costing more than £400 each?!

In my opinion she owes them their £300 deposits back and is the only person liable for the cancellation fee. She clearly learnt nothing!!! Wow!!!

If a deposit has been paid, why is there a cancellation fee? The deposit is there to protect the business in situations of cancellation, shouldn’t be a further fee…

to your question, no the bride should be paying the cost. But if it were me I’d just go on the “holiday” anyway

I'd be asking for a copy of the email.. She is trying to claw lost wedding costs back imo.

This - the future bride has no morals so she can reimburse everyone for their lost deposit. If l was one of the hens l would never speak to her again.

Who cares about upsetting the family they've wasted £300 of your daughters money she's the one who should be upset not them.

Teach your daughter to stand up for herself and not be walked over by people wanting you to be the bigger person and keep the peace.

The bride was in the wrong so she pays the price.

Because they were going abroad. It is in the OP.

I think they are referring to the travel company

Cancelled because of her awful behaviour so she foots the bill. Lesson learned, be a decent person or there are consequences. I wouldn't pay nor feel I should under these circumstances.

Is this £300 each? And that's just the deposit? And another £100 each to cancel? Surely the deposit is the cancellation fee? That's the whole point of a deposit, isn't it?

How much was the whole thing going to cost per person? 😱

I think if you are going to lose £400 anyway then you may as well just pay the extra and go.

I wouldn’t pay, sounds like a cash grabbing scam from the niece who’s probably racked up a lot of debt from other things that have had to be cancelled due to her playing away (or attempting to). You’ve all paid (and lost) enough - if there really is a cancellation fee (though I don’t see how when they’ll be keeping the deposit), then let this be a lesson of actions meet consequence.

Quoted wrong person

Maybe the family should be concerned about upsetting her.

Don't pay!

Go for a holiday if it's not too much money. Just go and have a nice time?

Isn’t that what a deposit is? A cancellation fee?

Silly girl. Why are people so greedy/

Have not read full thread but would send a response saying “so sorry to hear wedding is not going ahead but I would still like to go away for a weekend so surely we could salvage it?” At the end of the day the bride should not cancel the trip away without the consent of everyone booked as they should all have a say in what they wish to do with the money they have paid. It’s not actually about her now as she has no wedding to attend. Sorry I hate bridezillas - so entitled for no reason!

notgivinga Was this in the T&Cs? The company have got the booking money, they will fill the space with another booking.

but why don’t the friends go for a girly weekend?

Not sure you’ve understood the OPs post?

Why do they need the bride?

This happened to me years ago. I was going to Bruges with a friend and she backed out late because her car needed a new engine. I tried to persuade her that it made mre sense to scrounge together the spending money and go rather than losing all we had paid. She refused so I travelled without her. Needless to say it ended the friendship.

There’s no way I’d pay £400 not to go on holiday. I’d either go on the holiday or expect the bride to pay.