Is this fair?

[notgivinga]

One of my nieces was getting married later in the summer, but last week it was all called off.
she had a hen party booked abroad and everyone going has paid nearly £300 as a deposit which has now obviously been lost.
she has now written in the group that she is so sorry but they all need to pay a cancellation fee of just under £100.
Do you think this fair. Just as an aside the wedding is off as she was texting other men.
BTW it’s not me going but my daughter

It's a group booking though. So an individual cant just say "oh I'll pay my bit and Im still going." Unless the whole thing is paid for nobody can go.

No it’s completely unreasonable for the bride to expect the hens to pay the cancellation fee, as she is the one cancelling she should shoulder that cost.

These are not people you want to stay in contact with. Id take her to small claims to get the £300 back, just for fun.

Absolutely this! Fucks sake that she's expecting the hens to cough up despite KNOWING she's been texting/sexting other fella/s is a disgrace.. in fairness if I was one of the hens I'd prefer her NOT to go now

Why is there a cancellation fee - surely that's what the deposit covers?

Sorry whose taking advantage of her misery ?

Total joke. If you cannot afford the cancellation fee as the bride you should not be travelling abroad for a hen do.
You don’t ask people to stump up for the fact your marriage is not going to happen.
I would love to hear how the bride justifies this to herself.

The ‘bride’ is being a cheeky fucker. Can you speak to her parents? It seems bonkers that’s there a cancellation fee on top of losing deposit, but maybe it’s because it was close to the date. If it was my friends I’d just go on the holiday anyway, but I would be mortified if my friends lost out on £400 each, and furious if the ‘bride’ was my child and expecting friends and family to be out of pocket because of her actions. Don’t get me wrong, better the wedding was called off if she’s not actually ready to commit, but don’t let other people pay the price.

Nope.
Bad enough they've all lost 300, but that's how deposits work... however seeing as the hen is the reason for the cancellation she should stump up for the cancellation fee.

She is an incredibly CF for even thinking that others should pay it.

The other guests did not decide to cancel so should not need to cover any more of the costs.
They have already lost £300.

Ok fair enough. That's kind of awkward.

From the original post but @notgivinga: the wedding is off as she was texting other men

It was not "not notgivinga" who said it, so ...

Loveholidays will already have paid easyJet the full cost of the flights, which are non refundable. Even LH can’t get that money back. The hotel costs should be refundable though.

I would cancel the hotel booking (should get a full refund for that) and anyone who wants to use their flights can arrange to go to the same destination with whoever they want.

Oh thanks for that @Isittimeformynapyet ! I was reading too quickly and missed that!! Thanks.

Of course the ex-bride should eat the cancellation costs. The wedding is cancelled because of her behaviour.

She sounds like a bit ofd a low-life person all round.

Bride should pay. Cf.

Cheeky mare! No she covers the cost.

I’d still go on the holiday……..doesn’t have to be a hen does it?

No. Absolutely cheeky. She should pay it.

Tricky for your DD but as it’s not her friend group and she was going as a pair I guess she’s unlikely to want to go now even if she could. I guess it depends on the accommodation booked as to whether all the others want to go without the unbridle and do their own thing when they get there.
I would imagine no one will be paying the bride this money so there’s no reason why your daughter would’ve treated unfairly over others as they’ll all be in the same boat. Unbride shouldn’t be so poorly behaved.
has anyone in the group got the balls to set up a WhatsApp group without the incident work out what they want to do. It’s a group booking so it would depend if they all want to still go.
I’ve had this once with a holiday after Covid whereby I had to pay a cancellation charge but it wasn’t as much as £100 pp.

Crikey that’s awkward.

I feel sorry for the bride and groom to be, or not as it may be.

I think this is a good warning to anyone considering this, should you or the groom cancel you have to really pay the cancellation fees for people. Or let them go IF they want to.

I'd be sending her a demand asking for my £300 back!

She's canceled the hen so I think she should pay the cancelation fee tbh.

This is a fantastic opportunity for your daughter to grow a backbone. She should not pay, and there is no need for her to do so in order not to upset anyone.

Not fair at all - she’s caused the problem.

If I'd paid for a holiday I'd be going, hen party or not. What's the point in losing the money!

And no i absolutely wouldn't be paying a cancellation fee.