Is this fair?

[notgivinga]

One of my nieces was getting married later in the summer, but last week it was all called off.
she had a hen party booked abroad and everyone going has paid nearly £300 as a deposit which has now obviously been lost.
she has now written in the group that she is so sorry but they all need to pay a cancellation fee of just under £100.
Do you think this fair. Just as an aside the wedding is off as she was texting other men.
BTW it’s not me going but my daughter

Your niece is a hard faced twat and should pay the hens back 💯

Does she not want to attend her own hen holiday, for fear of questions etc, so has cancelled? 🫩

If so, can her name on the original booking be changed to someone else?
That way the other ladies can go and she can stay home and avoid truths about her behaviour have some time to sort herself out? 🤔

I would rather everyone chipped in £100 towards a name change for the booking and go on the girls holiday, instead of £100 to cancel and not attend a holiday.

Madness 🤡 @notgivinga

What planet do these people live on? It would be a hard no from me. CF!

I wondered this, is it not that the £100 comes out of the deposit and the rest is refunded🤔🤔

I’d still go!

Who made the booking?

I'd refuse, frankly. And to hell with the fallout. She should have thought about that before being a bridezilla who was only interested in the wedding, not a marriage.

It's not fair. I'd honestly just go on the night out. You paid for it might as well use it.

Hell would freeze over before I would pay another penny to this. She fucked it up, she pays.

If I had been asked if I still wanted to go at the original agreed price and I had declined, then the cancellation fee is due, but the bride cannot decide its cancelled, it can be repurposed by those that still wish to go.

I know this will be emotionally difficult for the bride, but she can cancel her place. Does she have wedding insurance?

How many hens and have you see evidence of this?

Scam I bet its to pay her back for her deposit

I think if I were the bride I'd be making the best of it and going anyway with my frienda/family! If everyone has paid £300 already and presumably were happy to go away.... If your niece then decided she didn't want to go, then the ts and cs could be sent to her to decide.

I feel like if the bride is still happy to go and everyone else wants to cancel, it'd be harsh of the bride to have to pick up £100 per person (not sure how many going but could be £1500). However, if the bride is just assuming/deciding its cancelled and not giving everyone the choice, she should pick up the cancellation fee. She should also definitely be covering her portion (I know some abroad hen dos where the brides portion of the hol is split between the hens - if this has gone on, she needs to cough up her fair portion of the cost and cancellation fee).

If its all booked can your niece not arrange to take a friend or something... seems sad spending £400 on a holiday and not even going. Even if it's not her perfect place, it's better to go than spend money on nothing. It might also be worth talking to Love Holiday and seeing if the credit can be used on another holiday, or if they can switch to something different rather than just lose it all.

That’s dreadful. You should be given the choice to go as planned, or she should pay the cancellation fee.

She should go, and then do her own thing!

Bride is texting other men, she’s messed up.

Probably repeating what others have said but isn't that the point of a deposit? I makes no sense to have to pay a cancellation fee as well?

And how expensive was this hen do to be 400 quid each not to go? How much would it have cost if they had gone????

But if you go does bride go? And then if she goes will she either get stupidly drunk and spend the whole holiday crying and being angry? Not my idea of a good time. Fine if shes ok and other hens just go.

Can it not be converted into credits with love holidays in some way? That's what I'd be asking

The bride needed wedding insurance

I do not really understand this. If you have paid £300 as a deposit then that it was you lose if you cannot go or need to cancel. I would be asking what the other £100 was for. TBH if she was playing away and therefore this is the reason you are all not going I do not think I would be happy to pay a further £100. However, if it is really important to family dynamics I might do so to keep the peace. I would be thinking long and hard before I went on her next hen do though.

I don't get why they don't just go on the holiday rather than lose the money and just say it's a girls holiday not a hen do or is it substantially more above the deposit? I wouldn't be paying a cancellation fee though, she messed up she can cover it

Surely that’s just the portion they are keeping from what is already paid?! Not on top of the £300

did your DD get insurance? Maybe it would be covered?

I wouldn't pay and would be very annoyed at being asked, given the circumstances. It sounds like the groom has had a lucky escape.

Wow! She needs to pay herself . What a bloody cheek

Why can’t they still go and treat it as a holiday instead? Unless the bride has already cancelled it, which in that case would be an absolute no go to asking people to pay anything further.

I don't think it said whether the bride or groom called it off? If it was him, and she'd not done anything to justify it, like cheating, I don't think she should be blamed, but she definitely shouldn't be trying to get more money,
Take it that it's very unlikely travel insurance will help?