How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

2 and married to both but not at once.

I’m 46. It’s 12. And if I’m being honest I wish it were more. I wish I had more fun when I was younger.

@BatchCookBabeOf course! I’m normally a bit of a grammar fiend too 🤦🏼‍♀️ obviously just not on the ball today 😬

Loads, probably 50+, but I actually can't remember. I never really think about it, as it's happened over a long period of time. I'm 40 now.

9 or 10 I think . I’m in my early 40s and married now .
I find it odd when people say 1 more than I do when they say 60 . lol
I have daughters and hope they get to experience great sex as much as they want .

There are 30ish people out there, who if they ever give me a thought, (some probably have, many probably haven’t) will remember what an amazing youthful body I had. It’s fantastic to think I’m still that girl in heads around the world!

It doesn’t matter what our husbands think. My husband has never even asked me because it’s not relevant to our relationship.

I honestly don’t know. I’m in my 50s. I’d say it’s around 30. I guess i could probably make a list if I thought hard enough. I wouldn’t lie about it but I’d think less of someone who asked me. (No one has ever asked).

A couple I would now count as abuse (young teenager at the time-predatory adult men). The rest - in my 20s - was a lot of fun.

Me: 3
DH: 1

He was my first. We broke up for a while and I had a bit of fun. He didn’t. Now we’re married so he missed his opportunity 😁

Well into the hundreds. Celibate these days

About 50 shock! I do regret it, some men I had sex with and I didn’t want to say no at the time. That’s on me though. I had a wild time in my 20s though, went clubbing a lot. It took me getting chlamydia at 27 to stop the one night stands. And sometimes I didn’t even do those, just spent the night with a random bloke. And yes I had relationships too. I was also quite a naive teenager and didn’t have many boyfriends then let alone sex.

1. Sometimes I wish it were more, but I can't actually imagine that. I'm not ashamed or proud.

I think I used to be pleased about it- I was naive and thought it was kind of romantic, before I discovered that my husband was leading a double life.

I am surprised by how many people on here have only had one partner- there are lots! In real life, I have never met another person who married their first boyfriend, not that I talk to people about 'bodycount'; it's just everyone except me has had more than one relationship.

I think I regret not having more relationships even more than I regret not having more sexual partners!

What ?? Why ? Whats it up to them ? Are you a man or just a very judgmental person ? I am married and I don’t think we ever discussed m numbers or previous sex experiences , but hey would anyone

Of course not! I remember the one that was a micropenis and the one that was circumcised, but I have no idea what any of the others looked like. To be honest they all looked like penises 🤷🏼‍♀️

1, I'm 27

I honestly don't know, so I will try and do a rough tally in my head.

Hmmmmm, I think it's 11 people. I'm 52 and I was married for a long time in between. But since separating from my husband I have slept with 3 people .... and it's been tremendous fun.

I was like you, nearly the same age as well, I experienced the same thing, felt dead inside and thought sleeping around would help, it didn't, I would say there have been around 30 - 40, can't actually recall them all, I drank and took a lot of recreational drugs to numb things.
I've never told anyone how many until now, it sometimes bothers me but I push it to the back of my mind. I have been happily married for 21 years, my husband wouldn't judge me, he knows I was beaten and raped and completely supports me. I hope you are doing ok.

Men care.

Not naivety at all, but a combination of:
Not seeing your worth tied to how much sex you've had
Not having relationships with people who would tie your worth to how much sex you've had

So?

Disagree.

And no, a lot of men don't care. It's 2026.

Can you explain how it's naive to think it's not your partners place to have any feelings about the amount of people you've slept with?

(Providing the number hasn't increased during your monogamous relationship and that you've been safe and consented to the sexual encounters and it doesn't affect your relationship)

I care what my husband thinks.

Eight or nine and I'm 44. I'm a serial monogamist!