How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

Only the stupid ones.

I don't actually know. Maybe 40 ish I would think. I have been with my OH for 12 years now (I'm 41) and we have 2 kids so hopefully whatever the number, that's it now 😂

My OH has never asked me how many people I have slept with. I can't imagine he'd find it very interesting. He would certainly not consider it a judgement on me as a person.

A lot of discussion on this topic is based on internalised misogyny (I'm looking at you @coulditbeme2323). I find the number of people someone has had sex with about as interesting as the number of cars they have owned. It is not a moral judgement.

There is so much naivety on here.

You can all be as liberal and progressive as you like, but there is no husband out there who is happy with the mother of their children been shagged by 100 men.

They are either lying to you or a cuck.

One. I’m 27 and I met my husband when I was 18 and have only ever been with him. I don’t lie about it. I’m happy with the number. I was never interested in having multiple relationships. I used to say when I was younger that I wanted to be with just one person and I was told it wouldn’t work out like that. So I’m happy that so far it is working out like I wanted.

Not in my experience they don’t. Maybe you know some weird men.

Both you are your husband care about this and are on the same page. You chose a partner who cares about it. Others haven't. So you can't project your experience onto others.

If they're fucking idiots maybe. Personally I don't marry idiots, maybe you do.

Yes, on your part.

I suppose you think brides who wear white are virgins?

I don't know. Enough. And no, I don't tell anyone because it's none of their business.
Want to know isn't the same as need to know.

Something like 24. I mean its irrelevant for partners to even ask about it and they don’t have an actual right to know.

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How could my OH care about how many people I have slept with when he has never asked? Do you think he's been lying awake at night fretting about it for 12 years? Or maybe he understands it's got nothing to do with him and couldn't care less.

You need to hang out with different men if you think 'all men' care about this shit.

Cuck 🤣 time to put down the red pill reddit pages

I had a very promiscuous stage in my late teens and slept with loads of people. If I had to try and count them now I wouldn't be able to remember clearly enough to put an accurate figure to it, there was a lot of booze involved and it was decades ago.

DH doesn't give a fuck really - we've never discussed it in any great depth, he just knows I had a wild phase.
I wouldn't have married a sexist, judgemental bastard though.

Over 30 but not sure on the exact number, less than 50.

4 long term boyfriends, my husband, slept with friends and acquaintances a bunch of times, a couple long term no strings attached shags and the rest ONS.

I am 34 and have been married for nearly 7 years.

My husband knows I slept with him at 19 when we were just mates😂

No one else cares what your husband thinks and your husband doesn't represent all men!

Sure.

I feel sorry for you if this is genuinely your mindset

I'm 49. I've been with partner 20 years. From recollection when I counted it was 50ish.
However what are we counting...full vaginal penetration? Oral? Digital? That would skew the figures

Probably roughly the same amount as you. Had a wild time in my 20s 🙈

About 30 ish, 3 one night stands, I’m now 57 got married at age 29

Maybe they are a weird man 🤷‍♂️

Ahhhh, that's very telling.

Oh @coulditbeme2323 got lost on the way to the manosphere.