How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

@DreamingOfGeneHunt
So sorry that happened to you x

One, I waited for my DH. I did get pretty close with my only other serious boyfriend though.

I have no regrets. I wouldn't want to sleep with someone I didn't love. I had a few random snogs as a teenager (four guys I think) and regret all of those, it wasn't pleasant at all. Wet and gross!

I wouldn't lie about it but no one ever asks!

4

3 were relationships, other was a one night stand.
All four were within an 8 month range , and no they didn't overlap 😅

Been with the same man since I was 21 (now 37). I don't judge anyone for how many people they've slept with. Nothing wrong with two consenting adults having sex.

I don't know. I can't remember and don't want to force myself to think about it, but I know its less than 10. I've been married for 32 years and it just isn't something that I've kept in my memory because it doesn't matter. My husband has only ever slept with me and for both of us there won't be anyone else until one of us dies (and probably not even then).

I bet all these men who are not OK with a woman who says she has slept with 75 men, would cheer on any man who says he has slept with 75 women, like he's a 'hero!' 🙄

Whenever I see a man (on TV, eg Love Island) claiming to have shagged like, 300-500+ women, I have to grab a bucket as it makes me feel so sick.

It's a well documented fact that most women will play down the amount of men they've shagged, and men will do the opposite, they will exaggerate how many women they've had. Often adding dozens on, (sometimes much more!)

IMO, when someone brags about shagging a 3 figure sum of people, it's pretty grim. I would not ever be getting into a relationship with a man who had shagged 300 women. I think it's grim when ANYone brags about shagging 100s of people, men OR women.

JMO, don't come at me.

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One. I don’t lie about it. 😂

agree

Couldn't read this without telling you what a fucking warrior you are. ❤️

Thank you @coulditbeme2323 x

6 I think. Never had a ONS. I'm 53.

3 under 6 month relationships, one 2.5 year relationship, one 25 year marriage and one current dh!

It's never come up in conversation as neither of us care, but I wouldn't hide it.

Around 30 but I'm not sure of the exact number.

I don't know if my husband knows how many people I've slept with as I don't think we've had an explicit conversation about it but as we had been friends since childhood he has probably met every boyfriend I ever had and more than a few of the casual people as well. If he did ask though I wouldn't lie, I'm not ashamed of it.

We did get together when we were about 20, so I imagine the number would have been much higher if I'd had more time enjoying the single life and I wouldn't have lied about a higher number either.

I wonder if men are ever expected to lie and say they've had less sexual partners or are asked what their wives think of their "body count"?

Fucking hell, why does that matter?

I don’t know, but in the 30’s I reckon. Loved my late teens and early twenties, not because of the men but because of the freedom and refusal to be tied down. They are mostly American too, so very few I would ever run into in my current location. My husband knows my number, his is much lower, under 10. He certainly cannot take the moral high ground as his has risen since we met, whereas mine hasn’t!!

I already answered that above.

Mine is very low, mainly because I’ve spent most of adulthood in looooong relationships and I was a very self conscious and insecure teen who would rather ignore my hormonal yearnings than undress in front of someone. Most of my friends have enjoyed plenty of variety shall we say 😂 and I hate how some of them used to almost act embarrassed or like they couldn’t talk to me about it as genuinely if I was happier in myself back then I’d have been doing the same! So the awkwardness around numbers can go both ways I think. I don’t lie about my number but I also feel it suggests a personality that has been alien to me for 20 odd years now and implies I would be judgy of those with much higher numbers. Since my 30s though my experience is people (friends or partners) don’t tend to care like they do in their 20s. We’ve all got past events and history that led us to where we are now.

No idea. More than 50 less than 100.

I’m 49. It really doesn’t matter so don’t give it any more thought.

Did you have fun? Great. And that’s that ☺️

I'm 28

Had a long term relationship with my kids dad between age 19-25

I think my number is about 20/21 but I can't actually remember. A few were one offs but not ONS (intentionally anyway) usually ghosted me after lol.

Well into 3 figures, no idea of the actual number. I’m 62 and have had periods of glorious hedonism and periods of celibacy. It is what it is and I have no regrets. And before that dumb poster asks, yes my partner knows.

👏🏻👏🏻 here here

Hundreds probably 🤷‍♀️

1. married 51 yr

Just 4! I sometimes lie and say 3 (not that the topic comes up much) because one of them gives me the absolute fear when I think about it and I’d rather pretend it didn’t happen 😂 I’m 38f.

Edited to add: I met my exH when I was 16 and stayed with him until I was almost 29. Then met my current DP when I was 30. The other two happened before and between and I regret them very much.

Where, where? @OnlyYellowRoses

Not enough
I mean that slightly tongue in cheek (no pun intended). Brought up Catholic in the olden days so a lot of guilt. Met my husband when I was 21 so didn’t have much time.

I'm the same. More than 50, less than 100.