How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

Well frankly @Error404FucksNotFound my mighty vagina definitely is the fanny that launched a thousand ships! Or something. 🤣

The shame about feminine sexuality on this thread felt by one poster in particular is bizarre and a bit sad.

i’m 45 and the answer is 6. I’m hoping it’ll go up to 7 soon 🤞🏻

49 single most of my life with the exception of a relationship of 8 years. 6 in total 5 of them last on about between 3 months and 6 months.
I must tell that I'm quite happy on my own so I don't look for relationship or one night stands.
I could have a hundred if I liked the romance, the fling and the one night sex, but I never been into it much.

In my late teen to mid twenties - fuck knows I was pretty wild 😂
definitely more than 50 but probably less than 100 😂

got married at 26 still married 26 years on and only slept with my husband since

I’ve definitely slept with more than my husband and he knows that but it’s never been an issue

8

yes indeed.

people using words they don’t know the meaning of.

perhaps more books, less judgment would be better?

I think I learned the word from Jilly Cooper or similar bonkbuster. Maybe more sex would help?

14 I'm 32. More have been since meeting DH than before him lol I met someone at 18 who took 10 years from me. DH and I made up for that together.

… Where?

Exactly. We’re not naive, we know some men judge us, hard. Men have been judging us since the dawn on time. We just don’t care.

Is that you Aunt Lydia?

God speed.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Aged 37, never married. Probably around 60. Told my ex 50 and he just shamed me even though his was higher. Current partner doesn’t know, wouldn’t ask or care. No regrets. My body and it impacts no one else

Not as many as I've stayed awake with!

I think mine is 13

Where's that, exactly?

I was actually asked this question by a nurse in the hospital where I first gave birth - a provincial Catholic hospital in the US that turned out to have great midwives and rubbish doctors. I still wonder why they thought this was good to know.

Number is 12, and while the nurse recorded it without comment, my idiot husband feigned surprise.

3 - one was my husband who I was married to for over 50 years. I’m 76. Widowed now for over 5 years and no interest in another relationship.

When I was 19 or so, I was in bed, not shagging a bloke as it happened. My boyfriend at the time. Apparently there was some noise from our room. Another friend said "what's that?"
One of my other friends said "Oh I think it was 'another one bites the dust'."

Did I feel ashamed when I heard this story? No I laughed. The male friend who said it had always had a crush on me and yet while his comment was in part, intended to hurt, I knew where it came from (and it was actually bloody funny).

Nobody can make you feel ashamed. You bring it on yourself.

"Shame" originates from Old English scamu or sceomu (painful feeling of disgrace), stemming from Proto-Germanic skamō and likely the PIE root kem- (to cover, veil).

I like looking up the meaning and etymology of words. Because sometimes I think it gives us clues into psychology (and history). Shame is interesting. As the root of it is about covering or veiling, the solution is surely to make it uncovered and unveiled. Shame cannot survive being open and honest. So, much as I did when I was 19. You think I'm a slag? So be it, I'll laugh, shrug and carry on. Your opinion, not mine. I won't hide something just to make you feel more comfortable.

So my dear @coulditbeme2323 much as you want to shame people on this thread, you are failing to do so. The hang ups here are all in your head I'm afraid.

8 but I would tell people 7.

3 long term partners
2 short term partners
3 ONS

One murdered his girlfriend 3 years after we slept together so I would rather pretend it didn't happen.

I don’t lie about it. I’ve only ever slept with my husband.

Incidentally, he’s only ever slept with me either. Not for religious reasons either, we just met young and stayed together.

We’ve been together since I was 17 and he was 18. We’re now 39 and 40.

I wouldn’t lie about it even if it was a larger number. Nothing to me embarrassed or ashamed about no matter what the number

I reckon they had bets on.

The nurses put a quid on their guess for patient body counts, closest one won the pot.

Goodness!!

Just the one - and it's highly unlikely that there will ever be any others. If DH dies before me and I'm on my own I won't be looking for another man. I think one's enough for me! 😂

My husband has only ever slept with me too. Reading all of the comments I do think those of us who have only slept with our spouses/partners are very much in the minority.