How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

"Take it easy (take it easy)
Gonna judge you, girl
That's no way to go
Does your husband know?"

Forgot to put mine whilst the troll infected the thread.

mine is 11 or 12 not sure but I’m 60.

married twice
long term relationship in between.
a threesome in my 20s with two men
a woman in my early 30s
been with my now husband 23/24 years which started as a fling

does my husband know yup and couldn't give a shiny shit

do I know his yup again and I don’t give a shiny shit there too.

One guy asked and he was giving of a nasty vibe and he was dumped there and then cos I said you first and he went what you hiding and got defensive. Wouldn’t have mattered if I said 1 or 100 I was going to judged.

another asked cos he got of on it and he was also dumped. I wasn’t becoming his fetish cos that's what it was.

Bloody hell!

Were there any signs of him being not quite right, in hindsight?

I've enjoyed this thread. Really brought back some jolly memories.

Not saying it was all fantastic, but I really have had a LOT of fun.

Aaaah, the joys.

Is this personal opinion, or are you basing it off your academic knowledge?

now 52 and dating again. mine is over 50 but under 70. i had a wild youth. not ashamed of it at all but no i wouldn’t tell a partner. i would avoid the subject altogether

I can’t remember but I’d estimate 30-40. It sounds like such a big number now!! My husband was my first serious relationship and I met him when I was 25 so I just had lots of opportunities for casual dating/one night stands. I don’t remember ever asked how many people I’ve slept with so never had a need to decide how honest to be. I don’t think I’d lie though, what’s the point.

Im 47 and about 22 people. I feel that number is low and I'd like to bump it up to be honest.

Im 39. Ive slept with 11 people.
Ive been married for 13 years tho so just one in that time. So 10 until i was 26. Lost my virginity age 16.
Guess thats about 1 partner a year altho it wasnt like that. It was a few longer term relationships with some sadone night stands in between due to being upset lol

75-100?? I’ve never caught an STD and regret a few for sure 🙄🙄

@coulditbeme2323, why are you so obsessed with this?

You could still have had sex in a normal relationship/marriage without it being with someone like that. I don't get why you've jumped to feeling glad that no one is smirking about your vulva because you've only had sex with one person?

1, which is my DH. Been together since school.
No I dont lie about it but have had the piss taken out of me about it more times than I can count.

Same here, and I lost my virginity at 25, or almost 25 (it was around that time, but I didn't note the exact date). As I've said, it was also DH's first time, and he was 25 too. I couldn't give a shit about what other people have done, or haven't done. It's our life and what suits us. Besides, I am 100% certain that there are millions of people who have only slept with one other person, so it's hardly like I'm weird for it. 🤷‍♀️

Maybe 70 ish

I feel glad because, as I said, I have overheard what men say and the disgusting comments they make about women who have had lots of sexual partners and their bodies. I'm glad they are not talking about me like that. Perhaps I have just been unlucky with the type of person I have worked with. Not that difficult to understand surely.If you don't mind those sorts of comments being made about you behind your back there is no need to worry about it. Just crack on if you are happy with your life choices. No skin off my nose.

I met my husband when I was 14 and we have been together for 58 years. No opportunity or desire for lots of different sexual partners.

I think the point here is that those men are wrong to talk about women/their sexual partners like that, the women aren’t wrong for wanting to have sex with whoever they want to - providing it’s safe.

I wouldn’t have sex with someone who I knew had that attitude to women, but their attitude to women still isn’t my responsibility or fault.

But who you have worked with has nothing at all to do with it!

I don't know why you're aiming that at me? If you read my post above, I have never had a one night stand. I'm very happy with my life choices and very happy with other peoples (although I do feel sad for some, at both ends of the scale)

I don't understand why you've jumped to lots of sexual partners from only sleeping with one person? If you had had say four long term partners who you'd slept with, you'd still be worried about them smirking about you? You've made a really weird jump from sleeping with only one person to sleeping around and with the worst kind of people. And sleeping with people you work with! That's what I'm trying to point out

I have worked for decades, and in all that time I've never heard a man publicly discuss a woman's genitalia.

The shame is all theirs - they sound like terrible, revolting human beings.

People might talk rudely about me for all sorts of reasons. The way I look, my clothes, the fact we didn’t get along on a date, the fact I didn’t sleep with them. I don’t really view any of that as a reflection on me (unless someone who’s opinion I respect thinks there is something bad about my personality eg that I’m rude, or that I’m unpleasant).

At the risk of sounding like an old biddy, I haven’t spoken about or really thought about this since I was in my late teens/ early 20’s!
i’m in my mid 40’s and have been with my current partner for 22 years and I think I have slept with 9 people. I don’t remember discussing it with my partner, but if he asked I would be honest. TBH, I have no interest in how many people he’s slept with, I really couldn’t care less. I’m secure in my relationship.

I am interested in the sense of prurience I get from everything posted here by coulditbeme2323. Showing a fascinating near fixation on men's opinions about women's bodies and sexual activity. And the language used ... just fascinating.

I thought it was the Queen! Who we assume only slept with Phil the Greek!
That was probably said about her as well but where I grow up it was definitely about Princess Diana as she was very much in the media at the time.

I've just checked on YouGov and some other polls the average seems to be 6 with some polls saying 8 for 30-60 year olds
I'm above that at 12 (which I've always thought was high )including DH and exDH

There’s no superiority to be achieved from fucking the same man all your days, lovey. Maybe you could do some charity work instead, gain that sense of morality in a more positive way than joining in with shaming women?