How many people have you slept with?

[Fearlesssloth]

…and do you lie about it? I’m late 30s, 4 or 5 relationships, most 1-2 years, been married now for 6 years. I’ve slept with around 50 people (I know cos I made a list once!) Only 1 or 2 were ‘true’ one night stands. I know that’s a lot but I refuse to be ashamed of it, I had a lot of fun in my youth. When I was dating before my husband I never admitted it to anyone I was dating. I’d always say less than 10. So how many people have you slept with and do you freely admit it or do you reduce the number a lot if asked by people you’re dating or were dating before if you’re in a relationship? And how do you feel about the number?

Three:
Boyfriend from aged 16 to 23

Rebound boyfriend who I dated for 6 months aged 24

Husband who I met at 25

I don’t lie about it, but I kind of wish I’d been a bit more adventurous in my youth!

This is like me and DH. We met when we were teenagers. We've been married for 48 years.

If he wore a condom it doesn’t count 🤣🤣 like washing your hands wearing gloves 😏😅

2 and I've been married twice so that covers it.

I sometimes wonder why I wasn't more adventurous but I suppose in those days young women got a 'reputation' and the young men were a bit braggy. May still be the same now. I wouldn't know.

Surely no one asks that type of thing unless really pissed on a night out ! Jesus who cares! Just literally would never mention it !

2, first one at 14 i know it was wrong, and I did get pregnant at 16 we stayed together until I was 21 then met my second husband been together since then.

30ish, not really sure.

Wouldn’t lie, zero regrets!

I think that’s because a lot of people just simply don’t meet “their person” straight away. It takes kissing a number of frogs / trial and error to find him.

1. My husband.

11 I think?
lost virginity in 1997, met DH in 2011. 3 boyfriends before DH and the rest were flings etc.

Two, but it doesn’t matter if its 0 or 100 as it makes literally no difference.

Why on earth would that matter?

Use your head.

I would say I lost count around 20ish but would think somewhere around 30-40 although not entirely sure. Few long term relationships (2 and a 10) I’m 38 and i genuinely don’t care what people think of my number. Some let downs but so many good times with people

Well I have and it doesn’t matter as long as it’s safe

Fair.

@coulditbeme2323
Blessed be the fruit

Now I know you're trying to wind people up 🤣

14 or 15. Just divorced and in a new relationship. I was with the exH for 12 years, I'm 45.

Had an early menopause which completely killed my libido and caused anorgasmia, now well medicated on HRT including testosterone, when i was really struggling and thinking I'd never even want to have sex again, all i could think was that i wished I'd had more sex when i was younger and could. You never know when it will be gone and it can be a lot earlier than you expect!!

I did intend to have some post divorce no strings fun, but it hasn't panned out that way, but i am having a lot of HRT fuelled sex with new man.

No idea. 🤷🏻‍♀️

When I was young, free & single I was very free & very single. And I wasn’t keeping count.

God, the 90s were fun. Please someone, take me back there.

No idea, really. Well, for sure more than 50, up to a 100 maybe. Could be more. Didn't really count. I don't brag about it/not proud of it, and neither am I ashamed of it; it's just my life. It was fun times, don't regret a thing.

With the current partner for almost a decade. I was a somewhat popular model back in the day, and he was in a rather popular rock band in his day, before we met each other. I'm pretty sure he shagged his own share 😂. I never asked, because I absolutely don't care. He also never asked. He's a thoroughly good man, we're happy together, and that's what counts.

I'm fully aware there are men (and plenty of women) who'd judge me (not so much my partner, he'd be a 'stud'). These sorts of men would judge women for anything and everything. For being too fat or too thin, not curvy enough, a bad cook, not earning enough or earning more than him, 'sitting on her arse all day' whilst on maternity, not wanting enough sex (but also for having sex before His Majesty came along), and many other things. Such men can get to fuck.

It's a great filter in a way. If some idiot asks about your 'body count' right at the start, dump him and don't look back. Men worth your time don't do this.

Something like 25-30, I'm 39. I had a lot of fun in my twenties and early thirties 😂. And to the sneakily shaming people in the thread ("Does your husband know?"🤢): I'm not ashamed, my husband knows, and this is not something that would ever be an issue in our marriage. I wouldn't be married to him otherwise.

That’s your problem then, you should be using your cock. No wonder you’ve got issues.

You have obviously been fortunate enough to not overhear some of the things men say when they think no-one is listening.

"Was that the one who had flaps like elephant's ears? I think I shagged her last year after the office party" was one choice one.

Awful, awful things I really wish I hadn't heard. Yes, from grown adults.

I think around ten but I haven’t really kept count…I didn’t know I was supposed to! 🤣