Son wouldn’t let me use his loo !

[zoovo]

I visited my 23 yr old Son over the weekend. I live 2.5hrs from him. Parked on his driveway and we headed straight out to lunch, shops etc. At the end of my visit I said I will use your loo before I leave and he said I couldn’t. Apparently his GF was in his home and she wasn’t ready to meet me due to anxiety. I said I only need a wee, I actually thought he was joking but he wasn’t. I left close to tears that he would do this to me. So I just left. I found a garden centre 25min into my journey home to stop off at. I’m still in disbelief that he treated me this way. I’m really hurt by this. I do have some medical issues at times which mean sometimes I really do need the loo urgently and he knows this. On this occasion it wasn’t to urgent but he didn’t know that. I don’t know how to move forward from this. Am I being unreasonable to feel so upset by this?

https://uk.news.yahoo.com/britain-fallen-great-anxiety-scam-170036595.html

I’d be more inclined to believe the house was in a mess and he didn’t want you to see it. Otherwise it’s a very odd excuse not to let you use the toilet. I’d have trouble believing it.

If desperate, I would have weed in their garden.

If it boils down to it, it was actually the son's girlfriend who was too anxious to have her boyfriend's mum in the house, then I really fear for these two in the future. How the Hell are you going to get on in life if she's too scared to have her man's mum in the house, and he's that much of a drip that he allows it?

We have raised a generation of absolute melts sadly. Yes, not ALL of them but a significant proportion. It's very bad. 💐 for you OP.

NGL I would NOT be visiting him again. What a way to treat your own mother. Good grief!

YANBU at ALL @zoovo

Do you include yourself @EstherGreenwood63 ?

Agree…absolutely ridiculous!

Yes it absolutely is.

No, most of us aren’t. But for those who are, they can’t be surprised when they are not invited into people’s homes.

Utterly ridiculous. Why is your son pandering to this manipulative woman? And how utterly disrespectful to you.

I'd have pissed in the garden, too. I had to do that at a friend's house when the council workmen were refitting her bathroom!

I wouldn't have forced myself in, that's not fair on either of them.

Exactly, but you will be shot down in flames for saying this!
We have gone too far with the 'mental health' obsession in this country. We are producing generations that cannot or will not cope with the most basic necessities of life🙄
Yes, some people have genuine anxiety but the majority feel* *a normal feeling known as nervousness. We do not need to bow and scrape and walk on egg shells around every nervous adult!!

Again, I truly hope it never comes to your door.
Most people aren’t scammers.
In this case, whether the girlfriend hid inside the house or not would have no impact on any benefits she does or does not receive. It suggests her issues are real.

I would hope OP’s DS splits from her though, for his own sake.

The GF isn’t even living there but even if she were, the son is the one who leaves it in a state according to the OP. Does not having a penis mean that she has to do the cleaning?

My DM used to moan about the state of my home and as a result I’m not comfortable for her to be in my private space ever.

It suggests she's a manipulative cow, and he's a simpering wetwipe.

Oh, and if you live in a house so filthy you expect to get 'judged' for it either clean the bloody place up or own that you live in a pigsty!
Hiding away in a grotty house is bound to make people feel like shit, can't say that though...it upsets their mental health.

There are so many MN posters who actively hate younger people and use any opportunity to have a go at them. This thread is a classic example of that. Yes it's a bit weird if that's the real reason he didn't let his mum use the loo, but it's not a reason to slag off every young person with mental health issues, or doubt anxiety exists at all (I wish it didn't, I suffer from it. But I am over 50 and have had no choice but to get on with things before I get called a 'melt').

That was the son’s description. She does sound very very odd.

You wtf at the force herself in part but not about weeing in a garden?

Although as others have mentioned… any chance GF is actually a man?

Then there would have been no reason not to have the "girlfriend" wait in the bedroom due to her "anxiety" while mum used the loo.

Or simply introduce him as a mate.

Do you not think that suggesting someone forced themself into their son’s house is batshit? I can guarantee that that would be the last time she would see her son.

If the OP felt she had to pee outside then that’s on her.

And if it is a pigsty (which we don’t know as it’s only the OP’s word for it) then do you not think there can be underlying reasons that it got like that in the first place?

You can live however you like - you don’t have to let in people who are going to make you feel shit about it

The pink boa, freshly painted nails, and sandals might have given the game away.

I'm (not) sorry I said that....😆