To try and get pregnant at 46

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I’m 46 and would like to try for my first child is this too late? I’m also 47 in July

Very late in the day. What's promoted the desire to try?

I wouldn’t.

Having a baby whilst perimenopausal would be a horrible nightmare. It's also very late for you to get pregnant naturally. How disappointed would you be if it didn't happen?

Well if it’s what you want, I’d try now. Obviously you know the statistics, but at least you’ll have fun trying!

What's the doubt? What others might think?

YABU. It's unfair on the child.

Very very very small chance of a natural pregnancy tbh. Most women in late 40s who have had a successful pregnancy have used an egg donor if that is something you would consider?

Assuming it happens you'll be 65 with a teenager. You are going to need all the energy to work(?) and parent and have someone eg a parent or partner to help. Being a single parent of a 10 year old at 57 is a tough call.

If you are happy to be one and done - go for it! Set a limit and try maybe for a year or so. A wanted baby is a happy baby

Yes it's too late. You already know this. I don't know what you are expecting people to say.

I’m 46 and I have a 4 year old. I am so very, very tired.

I would try

You’d be 67 by the time they were 20 IF it happened straight away. I wouldn’t , it’s exhausting

I’m 46 and knackered so am impressed at you wanting to try. Statistically the odds are not in your favour with low chances of conception and relatively high miscarriage rates. If you are determined I’d look at IVF with a donor egg.

So you have 5 years on OP. It doesn't get easier, it changes. OP would be 51 with a 4 year old

I had my daughter at 46, she is 2. I know there are lots of celebs out there who have babies very late in life but as a regular woman with a very hands on and helpful doting husband, I can't recommend having a baby in your late 40's.

Everyone is different but for me my health has taken a nose dive since I turned 50. The thought of having a baby to look after at this point would genuinely terrify me. It’s overwhelming how quickly you can go from feeling fine to barely clinging on.

High risk high stakes..

I had my first at 34 and my second at 41. I thought my first was hard. Pregnancy was so much harder second time round. I’m so tired with the second. You won’t know any different. Go for it but make sure your partner is loving, stable and able to finance the pregnancy and the child.

Your chances of a healthy pregnancy and baby are low, as I’m sure you know.

How old is the would be dad?

Yes it’s too late.

I wouldn’t. I’m 40 later this year and debating a sibling for my 2 year old soon but I couldn’t at 46.

Far far too risky. Absolutely not.

Poor baby. It's not fair

Gosh I’m 47 and went through the menopause 2 years ago.. I can’t even begin to imagine contemplating a baby at this age, but I have three already and the eldest is a fully grown adult. I’m intrigued to know why someone at 46 would suddenly decide now is the time to start trying.