AIBU for leaving a cafe after my baby was sick?

[Angrycafe]

I was out with DD (2m) and DH earlier at a cafe. DH had to leave 5 minutes before I did with DD because he was running late to meet his friend to watch football.

As I was getting my belongings together, DD was sick everywhere, including on the floor. I was really flustered and quickly left, making sure the immediate area (the table) was clear but admittedly didn’t clean the floor.

A woman (staff) hurried out of the cafe after me and started ranting about a lack of respect and that I wouldn’t be welcome back. I just burst out into tears.

I wish in hindsight I had cleaned it, by I was flustered and in a mess. Am I terrible for doing this?

She probably didn't appreciate being left to clean up your stinky baby sick after you did a runner without even being adult enough to acknowledge it and apologize. You really should go back to apologise. You might be surprised by how bad she ends up feeling when she hears your side of things and is reminded that you were just another human having a bad time. You were both acting on impulse in the heat of the moment - it doesn't mean either of you are bad people or don't deserve an apology - why can't you be the one to offer the Olive branch? Things like this often work out lovely if people realise everyone is human and just doing their best.

I put YANBU. You know you should have cleaned up and it's not our place to berate you for it. I understand that you were flustered and panicked, and we all make mistakes. Don't be too harsh on yourself. Sometimes our frame of mind and reactions are a bit mental in those first few months.

Totally agree and then blaming their not going back to make amends on the basis of someone else - who gets sod all money an hour - having to chase after them to basically say: "Why have you left your table like that and not told us?" Which is what it would have been.

I have a few friends who work minimum wage for hospitality - one used to be an air hostess, but due to illness now works in a cafe for four mornings a week. And she says to me: "People were much politer on planes as you can't run away."

The very least you do is say sorry, I don't care what the situation is. I remember being in a chip shop - the first time when I was allowed in a chip shop by myself with my mates - and spilling a coke. And trying to mop it all up with my sleeve! And the realising there was too much liquid and going to say sorry to the lady at the counter who was so nice and who came across with a sponge - and gave me a brand new can of coke and winked at me! Manners cost nothing do they?

Oh how nice, leave her to clean up your baby sick then call her fat.

A rotund lady you left your baby sick for.

You couldn't call your husband, whose baby it also is, to come back and help but you can poke fun at stranger you left to dealw ugh it?

Rotund? I was sympathetic until you started fat shaming.

But the waitress deserved to clean up puke. Right.

@Angrycafe Today 20:09
I wouldn’t want to have bothered him, he deserved a break and a couple of drinks.

See I’m Wondering if this is really the issue - instead of just saying DH left 5 mins early in your OP You gave detail about him going off to watch football - im hedging you felt left alone on this outing which led to you running home - and then the two of you colluded on slagging the cafe worker off rather than you actually challenging your DH - and you’ve posted here because you know you really were out of order and wanted people to excuse you so you could feel ok

just a wonder 🤷🏻‍♀️ only a hunch - could be completely wrong

And here you are not only putting his vile comment in writing, but admitting it gave you some light relief.

Very telling.

Just checking that you or DH did actually pay ?

A twat full joke!

You're asking the wrong question...it should be.

How would you feel if you, your DH, DC or elderly parent walked to a cafe for a coffee and slipped over on baby sick, or any liquid that hadn't been clearned up.

I dare say a rant at the staff would be incoming, but totally unwarranted especially as the staff weren't told there was baby sick on the floor.

You sound like a couple of douches.

I appreciate you were flustered but I think was really poor form leaving like you did. You didn’t speak to a staff member or offered to clean up the your child’s sick. Why did you just leave by stealth? I’d say write a letter of apology and deliver it with a large tray of chocolates- explains you’re a new mum and didn’t think straight. That way you don’t have to face the staff again if they do tell you you’ve been permanently banned.

If you cannot go back then try and learn from this.

Just read this and am absolutely disgusted by your attitude and your husband’s comments OP. You both sound awful. May you step in lots of Lego

Blimey no one called her fat, she was a slightly ‘rotund’ lady that’s all!

I am (uncharacteristically) lost for words.

I've been wondering that too.

Christ, you sound as bad as each other.

Well just incase she does, for future reference.

OP had you of mentioned it to someone there's every chance they'd have reassured you, told you not to worry and seen to it themselves.

Do them a favour and never go back.

Been a few today they have gone poof

I always carry a few old towels and washcloths as well as three different wipes: wet wipes, antibac wipes and Lysol wipes when I'm out with dc, and a change of clothes. First priority is clean the baby and then put into carrier. Then clean myself if needed. Then any mess elsewhere if I'm able.
Not everyone handles things methodically, or calmly, though. The person in the cafe was beyond rude. OP and partner sound immature.

Pop back tomorrow and apologize. Yabu but understandable. Hope baby is ok

What a horrible cruel nasty man!!! Words fail me. The biggest red flag ever.

Why post LIES?
Either you are upset when people are rude to you, because you don't think being rude to others is ok - in which case you would be mortified that you'd been selfish, disgusting and extremely rude at walking out leaving your child's sick without offering to clean it up. You'd know that you 100% DESERVED them to be a little rude to you and be desperate to go back with an apology present.

OR you think your behaviour was FINE, in which case you LIKE being horrible, disgusting and rude to others, you were fine with them being a tiny bit rude to you because you know you were 1000 times ruder but really don't care, in which case you don't want to go back or see why you should, but it's NOTHING to do with them being a tiny bit rude to you and this post is pointless.