Daughter didn’t enjoy holiday

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DH and I went on holiday with my DD (11). When asked if she enjoyed the holiday she says it was ok but was ruined by being left on her own for 2 hours every day. What she’s referring to is when we went for a siesta. Months later she’s saying she wouldn’t want to go again. WWBU?

Oh dear, she was 'bored' because she didn't have two adults paying attention to her? She can read a book.

It really doesn't do children any harm at all to be bored - and, at 11, she can surely think up a way to amuse herself?

Is she developmentally normal / is she not neurological?

Or just spoiled / always the centre of attention?

What do you think this is about OP?

This is all so weird....

Oh booo hoo awful!
she had plenty of other hours by the pool

Did she have anything other than books?

I can imagine an 11yo being very bored with no toys or screen for 2 hours every day.

Maybe next time allow a screen /tv

its her holiday and chill time as well

tho seems she is staying with granny

she must have hated it to not want to go Again

Being bored at home can be enjoyable. Being bored abroad in a hot country without your comforts for 2 hours every day is mind numbing, in a hotel or apartment.
Nothing to do with being spoiled.

😂

She is old enogh to chill out an read for a while in the day time. I really dont understand some of these replies. We have always had siesta when its hot abroad as we are out all morning in the pool or at the beach and back out in the late afternoon to the evening.

I took my kids on a cruise once. They said after they weren’t that keen and would prefer not to do it again. It cost a lot of money but did I demand gratitude from them? No of course not! I made the decision to do the holiday not them. I’d put this expecting gratitude mentality when a child has no say, in the same category as parents who go on about sacrifice when the child had no say.

By doing what exactly?

What would you do for 2 hours every day to entertain yourself, considering you had nothing other than books and couldn’t leave the building?

Books would get very boring and unless they bought masses of books which I highly doubt, then she’d have read them within the first couple of days.

All your kids? So more than one?

But she can read a book. She's not suffering 'mind numbing boredom' in two hours a day! Read, draw, stare out of the window and make up stories of passers by, sleep, eat...

Holidays don't need to be wall-to-wall entertainment. Not at eleven.

And the main reason I wondered if she was spoiled is that she's now holding the family to ransom by 'refusing to go on another holiday'. She's ELEVEN. It's not up to her.

Why not take her way without her stepdad?

I can’t believe the pile on an 11yr old is getting by grown ass adults on here when all she did was answer a question truthfully that her mother asked her.

‘Boohoo, spoilt, ungrateful, will be incapable of ever being alone as an adult’ what on earth are you people like in real life?

She could watch a film/tv, have a relaxing bath or a shower, text her friends, play games on her phone - good grief, I managed to entertain myself at age 11 without needing my mum and dad to hold my hand constantly.

Its 2 hours not an entire day FGS

She was given a choice to go away or stay with granny. She’s chosen granny. What’s the problem with that?

Lets hope granny never needs an afternoon nap eh?

Is your DH her dad, or her step dad?
You say ‘my daughter’, so I’m thinking maybe he’s not her dad?
This could be key, in my opinion. It’s a sensitive age and even though you say you were just sleeping, she might have felt that you weren’t. I’m not sure if she would be aware at that age of something like couples going off sex, but even if not then subconsciously she could have felt it and felt pushed out.

It’s expectations though. She’ll be at granny’s house. A familiar place. She’ll have a tv, access to snacks whatever, it’ll be home from home. Being holed up in a hotel room for two hours every day because my companion is asleep would have me pretty pissed off as an adult, would it not you?

Thats so boring sitting waiting for people to wake up.. Go somewhere that doesn't 'need 'a siesta . There's a lot of beautiful places that don't need you to take to your bed for two hours during the day.

If you read the thread, you will see that she had no screens.

So apart from a couple of books, that she would have read very quickly - what else was she supposed to do?

No, because at that age I enjoyed not doing everything with my parents constantly.
I enjoyed having a little bit of independence.

You have access to snacks and TV on holiday too.

The chances of granny nodding off or going for a sleep means she's likely to hate staying with her too if she cant stand to be on her own for even an hour

I think it's quite telling that rather than consider changing the location to one that doesn't require you to have daily afternoon naps or make other compromises that have been suggested such as only one of you naps or taking a friend with you you're immediate resolution seems to be to just leave her at home.

Actually, now I think about it, you're right. My brother takes what he calls "power naps" - it's a skill I've never managed to develop 😀

Ok remove her phone then. The hotel would have had a TV - they all do