AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?

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Last year the neighbour behind us got a small dog. It yaps.

Anyway DH has been complaining to me about this irritating dog ever since she got it and admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do? It’s during the day and it’s not constant.

He’s been away with work for 3 days and has come back grumpy and tired - last night he went outside to check on his plants and the dog started yapping. DH went absolutely bonkers, started running up and down the fence barking and snarling like a dog until the woman came out and hastily took her dog back inside. Mortified!! I know he was tired but Jesus he was acting like a psychopath

Hes back at work today and she’s sat outside in the sun - do I pop my head over and apologise/explain or leave it and assume we’re no longer on good terms 😬

When they're tired, overworked, hot, why shouldn't he, if it's worked then good on him.

Everyone has a breaking point, I understand why he’s snapped it would be unbearable having to listen to that every day

So dog does dog stuff and its not like its a huge anti social issue.

I dont know, Id want to apologise just so the neighbour knows i thought he was a knob also, but id be too embarassed at his really weird behaviour tbh. Worried too though, are you sure he is mentally well?

This is how I’d handle it too. A little bit of light humour to dispel the embarrassment on both sides, and keep relations cordial.

I have done this 😂

Next doors dog barks like a loon everytime someone walks up our drive, I may have imbibed a few alcoholic beverages and barked back

No-one needs a qualification to question anything.

That's not how life works, is it?

OP, how is his mental health?

You've nothing to apologise for btw.

It's not often I say this. But I'm siding with your husband.

Your husband does not need to apologise. A small dog yapping constantly has been shown to induce mania. Literally drives people insane. I don't blame your husband at all,hopefully the owner will now do something. The owners of small digs seem to be oblivious to the noise and constant nature of it.

There was a thing in the news years ago about a man who killed his neighbours Jack Russell I think it was. The constant yapping and barking drove the man to it. Absolutely no way excuse that kind of behaviour but it goes to show what ut can push people to do

I had such a glorious mental image of your DH doing this that I laughed out loud

Op said its not constant.

The neighbour has a dog to serve her needs at the cost of those around her.

Do not apologize; his extreme response reflects how fed up he is. Sometimes it’s this hard to communicate with infantile & entitled dog owners.

My neighbours opposite have a dog this yappy - it’s maddening.

Train your dog and don’t make other people suffer because you have a psychotic “Fur Baby” (kill me now)

Don't apologise for your DH, but I would find a reason to speak to your neighbour about something or other, simply because the longer you leave it the more awkward it will become.

If she mentions it, I would laugh and tell her that her dog's barking really got to him, but don't apologise for him. Some dog owners become deaf to their own dog's barking and she needs to be made aware it is an issue. If she then says that your DH was crazy/scary/OTT just shrug and repeat that her dog's barking really, really got to him this time.

admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do?

Most councils have a page on noisy dogs on their website. I'd keep a diary and start logging the nuisance. Even IF you don't submit a complaint at the moment, you will have a record incase things go down hill, or she gets another dog!

I'd speak to her first, but that would drive me nuts. I've been sleep deprived from long haul flights and different time zones. Its sent me absolutely loopy like I was deranged. I'm with team DH also and would NOT apologise at all.

I wouldn’t. A small dog endlessly yapping is one of the most annoying sounds on earth.

I don’t have TikTok so I’m afraid you’re wrong there! I’d like to see it though if anyone has a link?

A thread that really shows what a waste of fucking time MN is.

It's clearly enough though isn't it. Once a day is more than enough. If her husband has just got back from a work trip I can see how this pushed him over the edge. They shouldn't have to put up with multiple times a day . Constant or not

That’s hilarious! I hope you and your neighbour have a sense of humour.

Dogs Behaving Very Badly

Dogs need to be trained.

Yes just too old dogs barking away. Nothing to see here....

And yet here you are…

Team DH. Maybe the neighbour will keep her yappy dog under control now.

It's maybe not the ideal way to deal with it, but just being aware that her dog is annoying hasn't been enough to get her to take the dog inside, so mayne this is what it takes.

I’d pop by and say sorry but then explain the dog is driving him batty so maybe she could do some training because it’s making you unhappy in your own home.

I would carry on as normal and not mention it.
So just say hi to her as normal.

Because a man cant possibly just be being an absolute maniacal prick? It has to be worse than op is saying?

People wanting complete peace so they dont have some sort of very concerning mental health break over what sounds like a normal level of noise that the neighbour addresses pretty quickly by the sound of it shouldn't live near others.