AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?

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Last year the neighbour behind us got a small dog. It yaps.

Anyway DH has been complaining to me about this irritating dog ever since she got it and admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do? It’s during the day and it’s not constant.

He’s been away with work for 3 days and has come back grumpy and tired - last night he went outside to check on his plants and the dog started yapping. DH went absolutely bonkers, started running up and down the fence barking and snarling like a dog until the woman came out and hastily took her dog back inside. Mortified!! I know he was tired but Jesus he was acting like a psychopath

Hes back at work today and she’s sat outside in the sun - do I pop my head over and apologise/explain or leave it and assume we’re no longer on good terms 😬

I did that once...

I had had an afternoon from hell wfh (some lunatic woman was calling us just to scream and I mean the primal scream while alternatively threatening to burn her children if we didn't access to her demands, which we couldn't do)

A bit shaken, I go to my kitchen, open the door to take a bit of fresh air in the communal garden, some neighbours are outside with their sausage dog. That beast was always barking at me, which he did as usual, yapping at me real loud. Out of nowhere, loaded with stress, I screamed back at him.

I wish I wouldn t have done it, but I don't really regret it either.

Oh dear. My DH quacks at ducks. They may think he's unhinged of course. Why is that stupid human trying to talk duck language at us?

Hilarious!! No don’t apologise. Now she knows how bloody annoying her yappy dog is.

But the OP hasn’t said this neighbour does anything like that?? She’s actually said the neighbour takes the dog back in if it barks - so nothing like your experience.

This thread has just brought out the bizarre number of dog-haters on Mumsnet whose beef seems to be with the very existence of dogs - or, like this DH, use dogs as an excuse to take out their pent up rage.

No, he's fine. He just reached the end of his tether. Your neighbours I presume have ears, they can hear it bark and do little about it yeah? Then perhaps what husband did may finally sink in, even though it was a bit extreme it's also quite funny.

We did it with next doors horror of a child, well, lack of parenting. After 3hrs of running around and screaming at the top of her voice (which we can hear very loudly and feel through the floor), my other half started to stomp the ground and then I took his lead and I started screaming. They took the child out 5 mins later.

People know they're being hideous and no regard for neighbours despite knowing it's an issue, so losing the plot for a few moments is going to happen.

Who, hubby or the dog? :-)

Ahhh, i do actually hope some of the comments suggesting your DH has finally taught the dog a lesson help you feel a bit better op, even if realistically it would have no long term effect whatsoever. Especially as you say its not even that bad.

fwiw if I was the neighbour I wouldnt automatically assume youre as deranged as your H. And id probably make sure i was never talking to him alone. Do look out for him though just in case the weird escalates.

No, I wouldn’t apologise. Time she realised her yappy dog is pissing off her neighbours.

It’s well known that owners of dogs are unable to hear them make any kind of noise.

😂

Go team pro DH

Sounds pretty reasonable. Hope the yappy dog has shut up now,👍

We have two dogs, and yet I hate my neighbour's dog with a passion. Yappy little fuck that it is. I bring mine in within seconds if mine bark in the garden. Only one of mine barks - their breed doesn't generally bark, but the younger one does, because of next door's dog winding him up when he was a puppy.

Our neighbour does nothing to stop her dog. She lets it yap all day long, it yaps every time she leaves the house (or her daughters leave), and it tries to bite my dogs through the shared fence and she does absolutely nothing to stop it.

I absolutely love dogs but I can see how your husband has reached the end of his tether. However I see nothing to suggest she's a bad owner? She sounds like me in the sense she won't allow it to bark repeatedly and deals with it swiftly.

I wouldn't apologise and, whilst this isn't something I would do or encourage anyone else to do, I don't think your DH needs to either.

I'd have loved to have been a fly on the wall watching that. It sounds hilarious. 🤣🤣🤣 Best of all, it did seem to work. Team DH here.

If dh wants to apologise for it, that's up to him.

I'd be pissed off with a partner who apologised on my behalf though.

That's hilarious.

We live next door to a Yorkie that yaps incessantly every time one of us steps foot in the garden. The old one died and our neighbours went out and got a new, worse one. Team DH all the way.

Team dh.

Though it might not do it constantly regularly is too much still. The owner might take it in to allow it back out again within half an hour.

Hate yappy dogs and their shitty owners who go oh it was only 2minutes well that’s 1 minute 30 seconds too long and I don’t want to hear it every fucking hour or at 6am or 7am at all.

Laughing at posters going will he imitate an annoying toddler or child 🤣🤣 no that’s what playing rap music is for so the parents take their darling spirited children inside for away from the nasty swears 😘

I remember Russell Howard doing a sketch on this story on a recap of the last decade.😂😂😂

It seems harmless enough .And a really good bit of comedy! I expect your husband was being a "larger dog"" !
Does it matter..So long as he doesnt start snarling in the bedroom Id treat it as a bit of a laugh!
Dont apologise for it. Next time film it!

No he should not

This really made me laugh

A million % this. Team dp 😂

Dog barks, bring it in, dog barks again, bring it in and so on, it will soon get the message. I had a wee staffy (who had a really embarrssing bark) he soon got the message, if he did it again I would call his name and he would stop.

I'm on your husbands side here !

Our lives were made a misery by some selfish bastards at the back of us who let their dog scream all day to the extent it had a huge impact on my sons mental health from being kept awake and constant noise if we so much as opened our back door.

Wouldn’t even consider apologising and honestly you shouldn’t be asking him to.

Also team DH here. I think I love him !!!! 😂