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Things people do that just baffle you

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Whatexcellentboiledpotatoes · 23/04/2026 11:49

What does either a specific person in your life, or just the general public do, you just don't understand why they do it, and you either can't ask them or you've tried to ask them and they can't tell you?

Write it here and maybe someone else that also does it can tell you why, or has an idea as to why.

Here are mine:

Why do my neighbours across the street bring their bins outside a full 24hrs early? They are retired, home most of the day, go in and out of their house five or six times during that 24hr period, but bring their bins out early Monday morning when they don't get picked up until Tuesday morning?

Why do people talk on their phones on speakerphone in public, what is the purpose?

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Gwenhwyfar · 24/04/2026 19:28

Nutmuncher · 23/04/2026 14:49

What baffles me are smokers in 2026. Actually it blows my mind. They stink, have yellowed teeth, terrible breath, sallow skin, clogged arteries, blackened lungs. Same goes for vapers. You look ridiculous puffing on those things. 😅

Also, heavy drinkers, do you realise just how utterly damaging alcohol is to your health?

Baffling beyond belief.

Come on, it's not baffling.
They're addicts.

MissDixieVoom · 24/04/2026 19:29

@MyDeftDuck I can tell you why I drive in rather than reversing.
Firstly, I'm on a main road. If you try and reverse in, you inevitably end up with an idiot up your arse who blocks your ability to go backwards. Even when you have indicated, and swung out at an angle across the other lane.
Secondly, I can't open my car doors if I reverse in as the gateposts are too close. I have sliding doors at the back but the front doors need more space.
Thirdly, I can't open the boot if I reverse in. The drive isn't long enough.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 24/04/2026 19:31

GrandmasCat · 24/04/2026 19:28

People who can’t wait for their periods to stop … don’t they realise that once they do they will age at t speed of light and their bodies will start playing all those nasty tricks like osteoporosis and all the not so nice symptoms of getting into menopause when they do?

I remember saying to my friend when I was 15 that I couldn’t wait. I’m now out the other side (mostly) of menopause and I’m aging at a normal rate. I’m relieved that I am no longer fertile.

Wildefish · 24/04/2026 19:32

KimberleyClark · 23/04/2026 12:03

It baffles me how horrible some Mumsnetters are to people struggling with infertility. Can they honestly not imagine how they would have felt if they hadn’t been able to have their own children?

It amazes me how horrible some mumsnetters are to posters obviously having a hard time, and looking for genuine advice. It was my first and only post about this.

TheignT · 24/04/2026 19:34

Chumbawomble · 24/04/2026 19:04

Why do oldish men (it's always men) queue up behind you at a normal trolley checkout with one or two items then huff and puff as you're packing your trolley-load (NB not in Aldi/Lidl!). There are plenty of self-checkouts but, no, they HAVE to be served by someone on the till. I asked a cashier why they do this and they said it's the same old group who do it because they're sad gits who disapprove of having to scan their Daily Fail and tinned carrots. Apparently some shop several times a day so that they can get their huffing and puffing quota in.

Horrible cashier. How sad is she calling people names because they think it's ok to expect her to do what she's paid for.

GrandmasCat · 24/04/2026 19:36

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 24/04/2026 19:31

I remember saying to my friend when I was 15 that I couldn’t wait. I’m now out the other side (mostly) of menopause and I’m aging at a normal rate. I’m relieved that I am no longer fertile.

That’s lucky, I was looking 38 at 46 and 42 at 50, by 52 I looked 52. I don’t even want to look myself in the mirror these days…

TheYorkshirePudding · 24/04/2026 19:38

My DH hides our keys when we go on holiday, you know the keys that are in the sliding doors! If the burglars have broken in dear, they won’t be looking for the keys!

Gwenhwyfar · 24/04/2026 19:41

Mannersareeverything · 23/04/2026 16:46

Drink alcohol
I don't get it.
Mostly tastes nasty, gives you a headache, you can't drive which is inconvenient & expensive.

Come on now. You must know it relaxes people, makes them more sociable, etc. As for not being able to drive, I don't drive anyway...

CatCaretaker · 24/04/2026 19:42

CoverIt · 23/04/2026 12:40

Oh I’ve just thought of one, it doesn’t annoy me in fact I’m impressed by it:

On a recent transatlantic trip, I was sitting in the aisle seat both times. On neither flight (7 hours each way) did the people by the window/middle seat get up to use the toilet! I didn’t sleep and I would have had to stand up to let them out.

Who are these people with cast iron bladders?!

I was seriously impressed. They were in all cases young - under 30 for sure. I suspect that may have something to do with it 🤣

Not the point of the thread but I have a cast iron bladder. I very rarely use public bathrooms - including on (rare) long haul flights. Never get up at night to pee (even during pregnancy). Can and do leave the house knowing I need to pee and not go until I come back, hours later. It is great tbh. Oh, and I'm 40.

IWasTangoed · 24/04/2026 19:42

Rating a recipe without making it. I've seen 5 star rating for a recipe where someone's comment has been 'can't wait to try making this, it looks great!' OK, but why rate it? It happens surprisingly frequently.

Or when someone writes a comment that they made the recipe for cheese scones, it was good but they substituted the cheese for blueberries, added sugar, used gluten free flour, and actually it was a muffin. It's not the same recipe!

Pliudev · 24/04/2026 19:44

ThatLilacTiger · 23/04/2026 12:20

Wtf, because it's a bin. It gets minging by virtue of being a bin. Even recycling bins get minging and some people also dispose of things like nappies in their black bags. If you don't clean them regularly you're going to end up washing maggots out of them in the summertime.

My DH has dementia and is doubly incontinent. The council used to run a weekly collection service for soiled disposables (including nappies). Under the new system, these have to be put in the general waste bin which is collected fortnightly. Now that's what I call minging.

riceuten · 24/04/2026 19:44

Home educating children because they can't get their kids into their chosen school, thinking it puts pressure on the local council - it does not

People placing just one preference on the admissions application thinking the LA HAS to give them that choice

People placing 5 massively oversubscribed schools on the schools application form, and their chosen school as the sixth, also thinking the LA HAS to give them that choice

Gwenhwyfar · 24/04/2026 19:46

Ilovecheeseyah · 23/04/2026 17:48

Chronic conversational interrupters.

That's me. I think it's from childhood. If I didn't interrupt I wouldn't be heard.

mambojambodothetango · 24/04/2026 19:49

Come on, some of these are easy to explain why, even if you don't think like that yourself. Parking close to someone else - it's a human nature thing to want to be where others are and possibly located a good spot (see also: beach). Loud music - yes it's hideous but it comes from a deep rooted desire to share something you think is good. Putting bins out early - it's so you don't forget to do it later and have to come out in your PJs. Most of these are easily explained - they're just irritating.

Bee2026 · 24/04/2026 19:49

Why do people get into other people's business?

Gwenhwyfar · 24/04/2026 19:53

AlignStars · 23/04/2026 19:17

That's an odd perspective when an escalator is continually moving, meaning that there is rarely a queue to get on it - so others using it don't stop you using it.

If there's a choice of escalator or stairs I will use the escalator when -

  • I have heavy bags/awkward luggage that I don't want to carry up a flight of stairs
  • I'm exhausted at the end of a long day
  • I'm hot and sweaty and don't want to make the situation worse
  • The flight of stairs is extremely long and there is a sign advising not to use it except in case of fire
  • I have developed a blister on my foot or other similar discomfort made worse by walking

There's a misunderstanding of what an escalator is. It's for everybody and not just for disabled people. I always choose the escalator. I most feel the need for it if I'm out shopping and have tired legs, but I use them all the time.

JessieLongleg · 24/04/2026 19:58

Whatexcellentboiledpotatoes · 23/04/2026 11:58

My MIL pays a company to do this for her every fortnight 🤣

Baffles me too!

I do it spine cord injury better to more anything mid morning maybe they find it easier to.

Gwenhwyfar · 24/04/2026 19:58

"People who take their kids to the park etc then sit staring at their phone as if their kids dont exist"

Unless they're tiny tots, why do children need to be accompanied in their playground activities?

Badmom101 · 24/04/2026 19:58

People who stand up so close behind you in a queue that you can almost feel their breath on your neck. I know we’re no longer social distancing but back the fuck off! Do they think the queue is going to move faster the closer they are? Are they worried someone will try to “push in” if they leave the slightest gap? Or do they just have no spatial awareness?!

Katemax82 · 24/04/2026 19:59

honeylulu · 23/04/2026 12:40

I agree with the car park one.

On the same theme I went to the cinema one time with my husband for a daytime showing (weekday, we had the day off for his birthday). Went into the screen and we were the only ones there. Great we thought, sat down. Just before the film started a lone bloke came in AND SAT RIGHT NEXT TO US. So weird. The only explanation we could come up with afterwards was that he was an ardent rule follower and could only fathom sitting in the specified seat for his ticket.

Also people who stand up and clattering around with their bags 10 mins before the train arrives at the stop then stand by the doors looking all miserable and uncomfortable when they could have stayed in comfort a while longer. It wouldn't usually bother me but it always seems to be the people who sit in the window seats and so the aisle passenger (ie me) has to move to let them out, then sit down again.

Ditto knobs who stand up as soon as the plane lands even if they are seated waaay back and won't be leaving the plane for another 10 mins. No doubt the same ones who rush to the boarding desk when business class passengers/passengers travelling with young children/ boarding group A etc are called and stand there blocking it where the actual boarding group passengers shuffle around them. I feel like yelling "you are not getting on the plane any faster by doing that!"

Aaaahhhh I feel better now.

My husband gets up when there's about 2 minutes minimum until the train stops ..it annoys me but once it backfired ... We were on the tube and he decided to go stand by the door way before the train stopped. It juddered a bit while moving and he fell really dramatically across the aisle, with everyone cracking up. Unfortunately I had stood up with him against my better judgement and during his dramatic comical fall he dragged me down with him and landed on me. It gave everyone in the carriage a good laugh though

Henhipster · 24/04/2026 19:59

I’ve never understood why people humanise their dogs as “fur babies” while eating pigs who share 76-98% DNA with humans, and are more intelligent than dogs and young children. Bonkers!

Katemax82 · 24/04/2026 20:00

Badmom101 · 24/04/2026 19:58

People who stand up so close behind you in a queue that you can almost feel their breath on your neck. I know we’re no longer social distancing but back the fuck off! Do they think the queue is going to move faster the closer they are? Are they worried someone will try to “push in” if they leave the slightest gap? Or do they just have no spatial awareness?!

On the same not I hate it when someone stands 8 metres away from the person in front of them in a queue and bollocks you if you "push in" because you had no idea they were in the fucking queue (yes I talk from experience)

riceuten · 24/04/2026 20:00

OvertiredAndEmotional · 23/04/2026 12:55

My aunt, retired for years, insists on doing her main shop at Tesco on a Saturday morning when it is at its busiest.

Same in my town. OAPs (of which I nearly am one) are on the bus at 7am (!) heading into town to do their shopping, and complaining loudly if they don't get their "favourite" seat. They also insist on getting off the bus first, even when they have a stick or a push along - it's not like they are rushing for a train.

Mourningmorningsleep · 24/04/2026 20:02

Why do some (many!) women spend so long in a toilet cubicle? What are they doing in there beyond the obvious? I'm always baffled by this in toilet queues.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 24/04/2026 20:04

Mourningmorningsleep · 24/04/2026 20:02

Why do some (many!) women spend so long in a toilet cubicle? What are they doing in there beyond the obvious? I'm always baffled by this in toilet queues.

I’m usually scrolling. If it is a single cubicle at work and someone comes in and waits I usually stay there til they go

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