HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

[HolyCheeses]

Was asked to start a thread.

started a thread.

His response really shows his true colours: for him this was more like a business transaction (him exploiting @HolyCheeses ) than anything else. If he had loved you he wouldn't have callously started to argue about the house. Well done for getting rid!

The laugh is definitely a brave face
but I have to say - I feel so light and very at peace.

I didn’t expect it at all. I expected to feel bitter and angry that he’d robbed me of a few years. I think the opposite and how many (hopefully) free years I have left ahead of me.

Haha. That was my one too. Ding ding ding!

I bet a million quid he’s been on the dating apps already this weekend looking for his next nurse with a purse. There should be a public health warning out about him.

It sounds as if a weight has been lifted from your mind. You’ve done brilliantly. Absolutely well played. I love it when there is such a positive outcome. Mumsnet at its best.

He’s the kind of bloke you read about in a Daily Mail article (not that I ever read the DM of course 🤣🤣)

Good woman.
That is exactly the way to frame this.

You woke up in time and joined the dots.

Avoided a dreadful move, giving up your job, being isolated.

I never recommend ANY woman move away for a man.
No man is worth the risk of uprooting your life.

It is just too isolating.
I have heard of too many bitter regrets.

Gosh - what a clever clever woman you are not being duped. Well done! You must be desperately hurt of course, but so relieved. What a bullet you dodged.

What an absolute prick.

good for you.

I can't get over he wanted you to pay half the mortgage for 4 people living there but he could have it paid off in 2 years and that insane food bill. He was going to bleed you dry to pay for his home for who knows how long and leave you with nothing.

I'm sorry you met such a financially manipulative type but at least you opened your eyes before you moved in with him.

Ooooh, I said ‘You led me on!’
I think that ties in with ‘you’ve been stringing me along’, so BINGO! 😂

Well done OP.
Enjoy your peace of mind and getting back into a real and fulfilling life. 🩵🩵

He would be putting his life on the line for the woman if this was a man ready to love a woman. And honesty about money would be priority ...what he did? Made his whole life about him and his grand appetites and left the woman last at the door almost sure she is coming with her care, housework, cooking and finance just for his pleasure....I wish I read this fb post and posted him what he deserves

Well done OP. Hope you are ok. Can’t believe he wrote a FB post, that is so childish. You are well rid.

You dodged a bullet there alright. I'd leave a link to the first thread and this thread on a facebook status. Something like 'what interesting drama...' And maybe close the status off for comments.

I had something similar happen to me Someone maliciously accused me of shoplifting which was completely untrue then compounded it by posting complete lies about me on social media Its fucking awful having stuff about you on SM that isnt true.

@HolyCheeses Good on you for making the break from him.

Time to live life on your own terms now 🌞

Wow - that's a whole lot of responses from him!

But somehow managing to leave out any hint of "I'm sad about this because I care about you"....

There were quite a few more. Bit too outing though!

Any of them nice?

Just a lesson, if mine goes before me, I would be just slapping out there: I need a man who is willing to spend on me as it fits from husband to wife. They don't deserve anything else

I mean yeah
surely he would go to the pub with his mates
get drunk
have a whinge
they convince him he’s best off without her

job done!

Not really no!

knob. better off out of it.

In so many ways.

A very stupid childish kind of person. Isn’t that what teens do?

This may be off the mark for OP, but I sometimes think if you come out of a bad relationship with one man, the temptation is to look at the next potential relationship with rose-tinted spectacles - and overlook red flags . One can SO want to prove that there are good men out there, that one is valuable and desirable and that one CAN have a successful and positive relationship (like everyone else it seems), especially later in life. That was an experience I had anyway in my late 40s.

Because you were financially independent, with no dependent children, he could make it all work in his favour financially as well. More bingo for him! It’s just lucky you woke up and smelled the coffee when you did. So lucky that you didn’t entangle yourself with him further.A great learning exercise. I hope you go from strength to strength OP, and also get the move you want in the future.