HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

[HolyCheeses]

Was asked to start a thread.

started a thread.

BB I think you've broken my heart into 1000 pieces. I had no idea that all you cared about was money.

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BB: "My Mother will be so sad, she was really looking forward to seeing you more often, it will break her heart, how could you do that to an old lady"

Arsehole. I would say you can point out several facts.

You were not consulted on finances despite asking multiple times. The fact he's gone from all of you contributing fairly to you funding 50%. There are 4 adults in the house. Even not taking into account how much each earn you should be paying maximum 25%. They're his parents. Its not your job to cover for them or be lined up to help care for them.

But tbh if you're done (which you should be) then I'd go with JADE. You don't need to justify, argue, defend or explain. Simply this relationship doesn't work for you and you're breaking up with him.

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@HolyCheeses He will be so so hurt and heartbroken once he realises you won't be paying for his lavish house, crippling mortgage and renovations. Ya big meanie 😉

You'll be getting labelled a gold digger! if only there was gold to dig eh

Doubtless the OP would be expected to provide the gold too

And the shovel! 😂

So, I get it now. He reckons he's found a carer for his parents who also pays his mortgage.

Get rid of this turd, please.

He's in pole position for Twat of the Year 2026. @hebemumsnet could we not have a place to move threads during the course of the year - a bit like classics - which we can then vote on who wins in each of several CF categories?

He pre-planned a lot of food buying OP. I guess you are a great cook. Otherwise who would be in the kitchen dicing, slicing, prepping, cooking and dishing out all these tons of foods

The more you think about it, the more you want to laugh your heart out at this man, all pre-planned, all sorted in his head, but hey, without the majour star in his drama ever asked does she like the script

I agree.

But don’t be swayed by this.

Bring. It. On. Can't wait for more updates

I predict toys…. Out of pram…

Ridiculously invested!!
Can't possibly wait until next week for the outcome of this! 🤯

I hope he is travelling to you next week?
You have done quite enough for him!

He will have his ‘sad face’ and very confused expression and look bewildered, then will come up with but I sorted and decorated rooms for your kids, but we discussed this already, but it’s all planned, etc etc etc

Yes I was going to add that one to the Bingo sheet 🤣👍

And can you live stream it for us to watch? 😂

OP, I hope you will be very clear (if you haven’t already) that his proposed 50/50 split is totally unaffordable for you (not to mention horrendously unfair)?

He definitely needs to realise where he’s gone wrong.

BB “I thought we were on the same page! You’re so selfish”

I'm still stuck on the £700 a month for food after splitting the cost. How many fridges or freezers is he planning to have?

If he says you're being irrational, have you had your HRT?no court in the land will convict....

I feel sorry for the guy: lovely big house, bedrooms decorated for the visiting DC dog walker organised so OP can go to work. His parents at hand for additional care duties at weekends & evenings, his food bill 110% covered and only paying 50% of a mortgage.

BB: ok i can see the money is all you care about, so we can split everything 40:60 (i.e., better but not exactly the right percentages) then
Wow, you really just want me to fund your life? Gold digger.