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Original poster

To avoid colleague whose weight loss

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southcoastsammy · 18/04/2026 09:11

Is now her entire personality?
Member of my team, loud and outgoing, has lost 10 stone over the last 18 months +.
Good for her, she looks great, feels great etc BUT it’s all she talks about ALL the time.
Her motivation, how she changed her life, her gym routines - how many reps blah blah what she eats etc.how we can all be healthier.

I just find it really dull! We have a hot desk situation at work so I have started picking a desk away from where she is sitting, and some of the team, to get away from the constant talk about it.
AIBU? Should I tell her? She’s noticed and has started going - oI Sammy! Are you avoiding me??

YABU - be happy for her. Take some of her advice.
YANBU - that’s boring, tell her you’re not interested in hearing about kettle bells any more!

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BoredZelda · 20/04/2026 08:56

southcoastsammy · 18/04/2026 09:19

I’m genuinely impressed and pleased for her. She was having health issues despite being young. She’s always been one of those body positive people - big and loud and proud - so now I suppose she’s now going the other way with it.

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Wow. Judgy much? A woman can be positive about her own body in whichever way they choose, and can change their body shape if she wishes to.

I couldn’t have cared less about how I looked and was “body positive” when I was obese. I’m losing weight purely for health reasons and am now “body positive” because it would be weird to be sad about something I was forced to change.

roastdinner346 · 20/04/2026 09:08

AllaMova · 18/04/2026 11:19

YANBU.

I felt this to my very core, OP. I have a relative who is OBSESSED with weight (both her own and other people’s). She talks about her weight and the weight of others all of the time. She will even comment on my weight to me, which I’ve asked her to stop, but she doesn’t listen.

It was worse when she was on WLI because she’d send me pictures of herself, plus photos of her scales etc. My final straw with her was when she said that someone we knew “just keeps getting bigger and bigger.” I don’t respond to her pictures anymore.

Protect your sanity, OP and do whatever you need to do.

This sounds exactly like my now ex friend.

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southcoastsammy · 20/04/2026 09:34

BoredZelda · 20/04/2026 08:56

Wow. Judgy much? A woman can be positive about her own body in whichever way they choose, and can change their body shape if she wishes to.

I couldn’t have cared less about how I looked and was “body positive” when I was obese. I’m losing weight purely for health reasons and am now “body positive” because it would be weird to be sad about something I was forced to change.

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Was it the part where I said I was genuinely impressed AND pleased for her?????

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Beatriz85 · 20/04/2026 10:08

Kneenightmare · 18/04/2026 16:56

As someone who is struggling to lose weight it does make me wonder if you need that level of obsession to be successful. It sounds frustrating but no more than the woman at work that I don’t know that well who talks incessantly and in great detail about her divorce. I’d never be as rude as to tell her to stop but being honest I do avoid the kitchen when she’s in there.

I worked with someone like that. You'd think she's the first person ever that had divorced. Her ex husband was a shit, and we all felt sorry for her but after 2 years of hearing the same tune it became tiresome

Gossipisgood · 20/04/2026 12:22

When she shouts 'Oi Sammy are you avoiding me' just reply 'Actually I am as I don't want to talk about weight loss again, it's getting boring' & leave it at that

Bifster · 20/04/2026 15:06

Surely you are here to to a job of work. Sounds like she is a distraction. Could take it up via line management, but ask yourself whether you harbour any jealousy or resentment at her success.

newornotnew · 20/04/2026 15:10

Bifster · 20/04/2026 15:06

Surely you are here to to a job of work. Sounds like she is a distraction. Could take it up via line management, but ask yourself whether you harbour any jealousy or resentment at her success.

It's normal to chat at work, it's not a Victorian mill.

Forthesteps · 20/04/2026 22:54

One person droning on about the same subject day in day out is not 'chat'

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