To think she could help just this once?

[OhDearWhatDoWeHaveHere]

I feel like I’m going mad because in my head this is what friends do, but she’s acting like I’ve asked for something outrageous.

I’m going on holiday next month for 10 days. It’s been booked for ages and I really need it. The issue is my cat. She’s quite anxious and doesn’t do well with catteries, last time she barely ate and lost weight, so I don’t want to put her through that again.

I asked a close friend if she could stay at mine while I’m away to look after her. She doesn’t have kids, works from home most of the time, and only lives about 15 minutes away, so it didn’t seem like a huge ask to me.

She said she could pop in once a day to feed her but didn’t want to stay over. I said that wouldn’t really work because the cat needs company and also I’d prefer someone actually in the house for security. It’s not the best area and I’d worry the whole time otherwise.

She still said no and suggested I try a professional sitter, but they’re expensive and it just feels a bit impersonal having a stranger in my house.

I did point out that I’ve helped her before, given her lifts, been there for her when she’s had issues with her ex etc. Not in a tit for tat way, just that I thought we had that kind of friendship where you help each other out.

She’s now gone a bit distant and said she feels “put on the spot” and “guilted”, which wasn’t my intention at all.

I just don’t really get why staying in a nicer house than hers for a week and a half (no offence to her!) and hanging out with a fairly low maintenance cat is such a big deal.

AIBU to think she’s being a bit selfish ?

It’s a cat. Fgs.

I just assumed a reverse. Leave her partner and stay at yours? Nah.

Quite frankly I cant believe your entitled arrogance
She is your friend not your unpaid help.
She said no she does not want to sit in your nice house with with cat .Leaving her own home comforts. She certainly didnt want to be reminded of every little itemised thing you have ever done for her as a reason she should do it , im not surprised she's gone distant I would too.

You need to budget for cat care though in your holiday plans.

If this is real I am wondering if you should be allowed a pet.
You have gone from having an anxious cat that needs lots of attention to now being like an automatic feeder will do.
Maybe it's best you look to re-home the cat as clearly it doesn't fit your budget.

Or pay £170 for the cattery

do you not have any other friends to ask

tho tbh prob not if this is how you treat yours friends and take the piss out of them

How will your cat get to or from the cattery? Would your friend have to do this? I wouldn’t do that myself.

Please God thia cannot be genuine, surely no one is that lacking in self awareness.

@OhDearWhatDoWeHaveHere if you are genuine. Then ffs give your head a wobble. You are being ao completely unreasonable.

You either pay a sitter or a cattery for the full 10 days. Or you dont go on holiday.

The catfish your responsibility and yours alone.

You don't want your house empty for security reasons, so you want your friend to leave her house empty so she can ensure yours isn't? I think your friend was generous to offer a pop in every day. You're a CF and I can see why she is distancing herself.

Surely no one is this gaga?

I imagine you were reported because your thread has all the signs of being a wind up. Either that or you’re just a bit thick.

Perhaps she just doesn't want to move out and away from her partner.

Surely you must have thought of this when you planned the holiday, what was your original plan?

If you've saved for ages you've had loads of notice and could/should have e factored this in

This is obviously a joke post / troll or reverse isn’t it?

I would hate to stay at someone’s empty house for a week, however nice it was! Home sweet home!

I think you’re taking the piss to ask a friend to come for 10 days.
Just pay for a cat sitter to come in a couple of times a day, that’s what we do as ours wouldn’t be comfortable in a cattery now.
I used catinaflat website. I found an amazing lady on there who I now use privately.
I’m afraid you have to factor in cat care in your holiday expenses.

Bahaha, just when you thought it was safe to go back in the water, it gets worse and you also expect her to be apart from her partner for 10 days. And you live in a shitty area. Yeah, dreaming, mate ...

I can’t believe this is a serious post. It’s one thing to ask someone to feed your cat while you’re away, and is quite reasonable, but expecting someone to come and live in your house is one of the most outrageous requests Ive ever heard.

If the cat can go in a cattery for 4 days it might as well spend the entire holiday there.

Sod that, I get nervous staying in my own house on my own when partner is out for the night, never mind going to someone else’s for 10 DAYS! I’d miss my bed, my shower, my kitchen set up, not having to use different remotes, any issues that may happen whilst there etc

Let us know what she says.

Yeah ok, so how is the cat going to get itself to and from the cattery? They won’t pick up or drop off for free and they will probably charge you more than £17 a day because it’s a “short stay” and it’s extra work and cleaning compared to longer stay

I would hate being away from home and sleeping in another bed for 10 days . This is a big ask....seriously OP everyone is saying the same thing hope you have enough self awareness to realise you're in the wrong here.
You're going to have to fork out for a pet sitter.

That and the ‘my house is much nicer’ comment. 🙄

I can't believe you're actually this entitled. Why should she move house for 2 weeks? Living in someone else's house isn't like a holiday. It just feels awkward and wrong. She doesn't want to do it, and that's fine. Your cat is not her problem. You either put it in a cattery, pay for proper care for it, or you don't go on holiday.

Are you seriously expecting your friend to leave her partner and her home for all that time to cat sit? 🤣🤣🤣. It wouldn’t matter at all to me if a friend had a much nicer house than me and wanted me to stay - I live in my house out of choice and wouldn’t want to move into anyone else’s house on my own, no matter how nice it was.