To book a Gp appointment to discuss dd contraception options.

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Because I’ve been made to believe I am. I’ve been searching on here for help on this and I’m seeing a lot of posts where people are saying that it is up to dd to book her own Gp appointment.

For background dd is 14. She has had a boyfriend for a few months. Recently, they have been spending more time together and I just have a feeling dd should go on a contraception.
We have discussed things around consent and infections etc. Whenever I ask dd if she needs to talk to me about anything she just says no. I’ve asked if she wants to go to the go to discuss this and she said no. I noticed something of concern ( which I’m not going to discuss here) which makes me think contraception is needed.

So, would I be unreasonable to go ahead and book the appointment? Surely a teenage pregnancy would be worse than a mum taking her daughter to a gp to talk things over.

Do you have a local sexual health hub? I spoke to my GP on the phone cos I want to go back on the implant, she sent me a link to my local sexual health hub which is incidentally in our city centre shopping mall. I phoned them and have been booked a consultation. I do not know if you can just walk-in but maybe try that and there should be some one there who can talk you and your dd through the options.

You can’t make her go and check with your surgery but at ours the nurse practitioner handles these sorts of appointments.

I dated other boys from 14, learned what was important to me and when I met dc I knew pretty quickly he was the one. I didn’t have sex until 17. I was more responding to the parent who doesn’t want her dc to date until uni. I find that very controlling.

So you've seen something that has concerned you. Have you spoken to your dd directly about this? Not in a subtle way. Straightforward "I saw X and I know it might be embarrassing to talk to me but if you are having sex then you need to be thinking about pregnancy and std prevention."

I’m not saying they’ll defo have sex (they might, no idea)🤷🏻‍♀️. But they can definitely manage to have a boyfriend / girlfriend: either at school, or at one of their many hobbies