AIBU to want out after being love bombed so quickly

[Pistachioo]

I know I am being love bombed. Relentless texting, false promises, the L word so soon. I want out of this relationship but what is the best way to escape this sort of person?

Is your ex dangerous or violent?

This is such poor advice. Blocking violent stalkers is not a good idea. You cannot ring 101 and ask for a text to be logged with the police.

OP needs proper advice from Women’s Aid, not poor, dangerous advice from, online posters with little idea of what they’re talking about.

Don’t answer the door to him, meet him face to face, don’t message him back when he texts, block him on social media and put your settings to private so only friends can see your posts. Let your parents and friends know he is harassing you and to steer clear of him.
He is harassing you, trying to wear you down to control you. He picks victims who are vulnerable with few boundaries, once he has you he becomes abusive.

It reads as being the same OP. You must stay strong OP, the minute you crack he will see the chink of light and you’ll be back to square one.

Public place. Say, I am ending this relationship and I am aware that when I have tried to distance myself you've used other methods to contact me. I want to be very clear, I do not want this relationship and after this conversation, I do not want you to contact me again. I will be blocking your number and if you insist on contacting me by any other means, I will be contacting the Police. Oh and edited to say, take someone with you, like sat in the same space at the same time across the room you can call on.

@Pistachioo have you been to see the police today?

Hope you're okay!

How are you @Pistachioo ? Have you been to see the police ? I hope you are ok.

Any news?

No my ex was not abusive, I told him because equally he will have the kids best interests at heart but obviously he isn’t interested.

i couldn’t go today as my son was up all night being sick so was off school. An officer is going to call me. I don’t think I can handle all this to be honest, I have never been involved with the police I don’t like it.

Your involvement with the police is for your benefit and they'll be used to helping victims like you.

I'm sorry your son's been unwell.

I wish I never did it.

It could save your life.
If it turns out that he's got a criminal history you could be in danger.

It isn’t the ick he is abusive/stalking you

You really should just do it and get it out of the way. You could be putting yourself and your children in danger of you don't

Is this your first relationship?

Send a message to say you don’t want to see him again then block him.

RTFT things have moved on....

You know OP you should continue with this. Its really not a reflection if it does turn out he has a history. It's better to know what you're dealing with and may help you feel better. If there's no history then that's a reassurance, and if there is, they'll put steps in place to keep you and your children safe. So really need to take the call when it comes and listen to anything they have to say x

Why? Do you feel you over reacted?

Is he still hassling you now?

Clearly the police don't think she's over reacted or they wouldnt want to meet her surely?

Tell him it doesn’t feel right. Be polite and ask him not to contact you anymore. If he does then come back to us for plan b. I wouldn’t block anyone initially as it seems over the top but you may have to eventually.

Wish you’d never done what @Pistachioo? Asked for the disclosure or told your ex? X

It’s better you know what you’re dealing with, even if it’s frightening.