To leave a note at his door

[singlemum10]

Okay, I need opinions...

I have a crush on my neighbour (who will be my neighbour for another 3 months) but I rarely see him, and when I do I’m usually with my son so it’s not really a moment to talk. But he is so kind to us both and extremely handsome. I'm a single mum in my late 20s, have 2 child-free nights a week and don't have time to meet people in day-to-day life and I very much miss having a connection with someone

So I’m thinking of leaving a note on his door like:
“hi neighbor, I always forget to ask if my stroller is in the way in the entrance - let me know if it is, and you can text me on xxx if we don’t run into each other” (I genuinely do always forget to ask)

Very neutral, not flirty as I don't know his relationship status or if he is even into me! I'm just not sure if this is the worst note ever to leave haha, just thought it might open the door veeeeeery slightly

What should I do?
A) leave the note (lowkey, no expectations)
B) leave the note but add something to make it easier to start a conversation
C) don’t leave a note, just wait until I run into him
D) abort mission completely lol

c

C

Definitely don't leave the note. You've no idea how it might come across, and you'll be tying yourself in knots trying to imagine.

If you meet him, have a chat and take it from there ...
And if you don't run in to him, leave it.

C.

Do not leave a note.
Do not leave a note.

A
What harm can it do? It's a note about a pushchair.

That's a crappy note if you're trying to instigate a romantic/sexual relationship.

Wait to talk to him when you see him. That note won't open anything really. It's just about a pram, really no flirty subtext unless you put kisses and hearts at the end and that's not ideal either. If it's you who's moving out in three months, you've got nothing to lose by being a bit bolder and having proper chats with him to find out who he is, if he's single and if there's any spark. If you're son is young enough to need a stroller, it's not like he'll be taking any interest in your chat.

C. That note is crap really

Just knock on his door, ask for some sugar and then ask if he wants to join you for coffee. Way easier than the note.

I would bake two lemon drizzle loaves and bring him one of them. He will not be able to tell if you're flirting or not because this could mean anything. As long as you are very warm but demure. It gives him a notion but you have plausible deniability. And don't say much when you hand it over unless you're very good at being relaxed. None of this I made too much, thought you might like it, hope you like lemon etc. Just I hope I'm not disturbing, I've been baking today, hope you enjoy and allow him to say what a kind thought and then it's his turn.

Or just ask him if he'd like to come round for a coffee, rather than any sugar/note/pram/lemon drizzle type code-talk.

Blimey, don't give up your day job.

C
your note about the pram might actually confuse him more as a lot of people think literally so next time he sees you he will think that you are worried about the pram not that you are interested in him somehow.

No notes, no baked goods. The next time you run into him say - "do you fancy going out for a coffee sometime?"

I like the lemon drizzle idea! Why not?! Who doesn't love a lemon drizzle??

Me! 🤮

brilliantly executed

A or B
(or innuendo - something about leaving things in hallways 😉) - perhaps not 😂

Me, I'm allergic to lemons!

Well I won't because I like it but I'm really good at this actually. Or maybe I'm bad but attractive. Either way, OP has nothing to lose as she'll keep her dignity, provided that it doesn't morally wound her to bake things or share, and it offers him an in.

Ha, well, if he's hates them then that's a conversation starter in its way too. I think it's much better than asking him for coffee which is super awks if he's not single. The cake easily leads into chat, so she can say her line about 'saying sorry for the stroller being in the way' and he's like 'oh it's fine I never noticed', then she can say she's moving out soon so didn't want to go without having a proper chat... and so on. Then a coffee invite could happen at the end of that if it seems like he's available and willing, but it's not like he's gonna vomit on her cake and slam the door so I still think it's the best idea so far.

Oh God, bake him a lemon drizzle and make sure you're very warm and 'demure'?

I suppose the OP could don a 1950s apron and housewives turban to complete the image.

Well again, that's classic rom com chat. "Allergic to lemons? Really??" "Yep, here's a funny story about my last allergic reaction..." "Oh my, I'm so sorry. What is your favourite cake - let me know and you can come over and share it..."

Op in the unlikely event he discloses an allergy to lemons, take the loaf back. The stars are not aligned.

So.. my neighbour did something similar, he gave me his number incase anyone broke into his house while he was away for the weekend. I took it literally screwed the paper up and binned it once he was home, never actually texting him. He’ll probably do the same (if the stroller isn’t in the way). You’ll need to be more direct, what’s the worst that could happen? As you say he’s only going to be your neighbour for another 3 months.

Ask him out, via note.